Teen nursery parents….just being nosey!

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Last year I noticed at my DDs nursery in her class (babies) that one of the children’s Mums was a schoolgirl (dropped her off wearing her school uniform, looked 15/16).
This year she no longer wears a school uniform and picks up her child everyday with her boyfriend/the child’s father. I am guessing they are both 17ish based on finishing school last year and that they look very young etc. I am completely judging here (awful I know!) but based on how they dress/act, I would ASSUME they don’t have a lot of money/money for nursery fees. I would also query what they do for work as they are both coming to pick her up at 4pm 3 days a week, often in pyjama like wear.
Yes this is just awful and judgemental and really not very kind behaviour but I’m just curious/nosey as to whether you get free child hours etc if you don’t work…..maybe you get it if you continue education (they could be in college)?
Again, judgey and awful. But I’m more judging the government than the parents.

It’s not about children not having access to nursery if parents don’t have the finances. I have just noticed the child attends nearly full time, and as I have stated, and been repeated back to, that based on my judgements (right or wrong) what would qualify that kind of financial help. Now I know.
You can be an adult and have an adult conversation with different views to your own and learn new information. If you’re just going to swear and attack comments, what does that provide? Classic Mumsnet 🫠

Wouldn't you want the government to help children? Both the teen parents so they could do well and make the most of their lives and their child for the same reason? Even if you don't care about their well-being at all they're more likely to earn more and pay more tax if they stay in education and less likely to be causing problems with antisocial behaviour.
One day you'll be retired and relying on this generation to pay taxes and provide services for you.

Even if the parents are neet the child would benefit from a nursery place to support development. A child of teen parents would be considered vulnerable.

@SleeplessSince03 if you think you have never judged someone ever, at any point in your life, based on anything from behaviour,
to dress, to looks, you’re lying to yourself. You’ve judged me, based off a question with a highly emotive subject.
So, maybe your children will be at a disadvantage? They won’t be able to talk to you openly. I see trouble ahead

I don't think everyone needs to pile on the OP.

She's right...we do all judge, but said herself she hopes they're bettering themselves.

Wow I was a teen mum. I knew older mothers were bitching about me behind my back. This thread proves it.

I’m in my 40s now, have had a successful career. But I’m still not over the cruel judgement I faced when I was a child who needed kindness and was trying my hardest.

OP, maybe they’re studying. I went to college and then uni and then straight to work. Maybe they’re not studying and becuase they’re very young, figuring themselves out while their baby is somewhere safe and cared for.

It’s awful how we tear each other down.

Who made you the censor of MN? And it was a cunty/goady question.

Same here. I hated toddler groups for this very reason.

Maybe next time just skip the hello and go straight to ‘I’m nosy and judgemental and have questions’?

Maybe they've got massive trust funds

@SleeplessSince03 I have never said I judge the child, or brought the child into it at all. You did that. Strange.

Yikes this is a really terrible post. Just because you've admitted to how judgemental you're being, doesn't make it ok. Mind your own business and worry about your own childcare arrangements

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ the parents are children, under 18. You are judging the parents who are still children. Try to keep up.

People are allowed to have questions, even if they are on subjects that some find uncomfortable to talk about. If you don’t like
the topic, don’t comment. Why get involved?The people who answered the question did the best job, I learnt what I needed to and I thought about things from a safe guarding point of view, as well as just a childcare point. I learnt things. What did the angry commenters learn….not muchhhhhhh

You're not having an adult conversation. You're having a judgemental, cunty one.

When my children were in nursery I was 19, I often felt judged by a lot of the parents I usually do drop off in gym/comfy wear. I was a full time university student and received childcare grants which paid for my children

@SleeplessSince03 well they might be 18, and if not, a ‘child’ by a census on paper but I think calling them children is a little bit silly isn’t it. They’re adults who are allowed to make adult decisions about their child and education as I’m led to believe. Don’t belittle them by calling them children. That’s quite judgemental

They may be at college. They may be in sixth form. They probably get some funded hours. Maybe someone helps them out with money.

*too

I was a "teen mom" at college once, the college had a nursery and it was free for parents who were studying at the college. I wonder if this is a similar situation especially given how young they are if the child is old enough to be in nursery and the girls still at school she must of only been 13/14 when she had the child? 😮

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