From what age would you be okay with being away from your child(ren) for two nights?

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...during which time your DH/their dad would be looking after them.

ASAP! He's an equal parent and can cope easily

The world won't end if your baby wears stripy bottoms with spotty shirt. But it won't help dad's confidence if he's told he can't even do basic things and only mother knows best. And it might lead to the situation where you do actually need to give step by step instructions for absolutely everything, as dad won't even feed the kids or put them to bed if you didn't tell him exactly when, what and how.

This through and through, as they get older (DS+DH) the two of them are so alike it's unreal. We have a if one parent is in they rule and can do what they want be it a PJ day or out for a smart meal. They both have zero fashion sense!

I left DS for hours from being four days old as I was shattered and wanted to sleep. We bottle fed (I would argue the best option) so it was equal from day one. I think I could have left him with DH from maybe a few weeks old if I had been well enough.

We left him with MIL for a weekend away at around 4 years. He now at 10 goes away with both sets of grandparents for around a week at a time.

Straight away lol

I'm not a single parent. But my sister is and has been since my niece was a year old. She's always had 50-50 custody with her ex husband so from a year old two nights apart has been nothing...they've always split holidays as well so her husband has taken their child away for a week at a time. A child whose parents are still together but the mom occasionally pops away from work...it's nothing! I can't believe feminism has advanced as far as it has and women are still worrying about it.

Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so sorry you had to spend two months in hospital. I hope you're ok now.

Thank you all for the reassurance- it has helped a lot.

(I'll most certainly have to lay out outfits too though 😉)

Once they’re weaned if breastfeeding, if bottle feeding that’s not really relevant. Your husband is as much your childs parent as you are. You were happy enough to conceive a child with them so stop treating them like they’re incapable by being scared to leave their own child in their care.