Word for toddler girl private parts...

[Blessedbethefruitz]

Weird question, sorry! Huge searchable history on here, I'm not a troll!

With ds it was easy - willy is freely used across the UK.

But I want dd 20 months to have a word to describe her vulva/vagina, for if she's hurt, needs a wee, has a uti etc. Right now she seems to think it's her bottom as I refer to changing her bottom/nappy. I don't want something ridiculous like flower, or something gross like minge or fanny. What's usual in your home/circles/region? She knows when she needs a 'wee wee' from copying her big brother. I could use that I suppose?

No one is going to know what that means if she has to explain it to a teacher etc

It really is not clear though. There is no differentiation between vulva and vagina if using "front bottom". This has obfuscated the actions of pedophiles in investigations, hence the importance of using the actual terminology.

I don't think it is "not generally accepted". Certainly, if teachers/ childcare staff had issues with their usage, I would be raising a complaint. I do not understand how it would raise an issue for older family members.

For vulva or vagina? I think it causes confusion.

Why would it need to be any clearer though?

Three girls and all have always used vagina.

Front bottom. Used the word vagina when the subject of babies being born came up.

Vulva. Simple and correct. (Not vagina)

Teach her to be comfortable using the actual name for the body part. No need for alternative words.

You should use the correct name. For both you're children.

Yes, they may know the proper words as they grow up. I only know one friend who taught vulva and vagina from when they could speak. I’ve always heard mini/foof/ front bottom from other friends and family.

Agree...use the correct names! We use vagina (although I know it should be vulva!). The only one of my friends not to use a nickname but it is what it is!

We went though the same thinking and we settled on vulva. It's not weird once you just start using it like any other word.

In chat, we will also say bits or between your legs, in the same as we'll inter change penis and willy for older DS.

Kids don't find it funny or daft if we treat it normally.

The only thing we've now had to contend with is that DS is now getting more into cars, DD hears more words and often shouts "I've got a Volvo".

I call it foof

Of course you fucking would, what else would you say ?

I'd know, because it's a term that is used. In the same way you'd know what a boy meant by willy or winky.

I think it's useful to have two terms, the formal correct term, plus an informal term, like willie and penis. I know vulva is correct, but no one wants their toddler bellowing vulva in the supermarket for effect.

So we use 'yoni' as an informal term, which is sanskrit for female genitals, and vulva as the proper term.

Due a daughter in a few weeks. We used Willy for my son, will be using Minnie for our daughter.

I work with 2-4 year olds, not one calls it a vulva or penis - numerous words get used. We always know what they are referring to.

I hate front bottom but I don’t know why.

It’s private parts or vagina in my house. I’ll explain the difference between vulva and vagina when she’s a little older as she’s only 2 atm

We use vulva and vagina.

it’s interesting to me how many people find those words uncomfortable, but are completely accepting of penis for boys.

Just another way women and girls are being failed. The fact that someone here will use “foof” or “down there” at a medical appt is just shameful.

Womens parts do not need to be hidden by cutesy words

Well, as my post says, I'd say I'm sore down there. To a friend I'd prob say my foof. I must add that thankfully I've never been sore down there but friends have definately said to me they're got foof issues and we knew exactly what she meant.

You don't need to teach a toddler vulva/vagina/clit etc.

@GoodVibesHere as a nurse if one of my adult patients said that they had pain in their foof I think that I would be lying if I said that I wouldn’t inwardly cringe.

@Blessedbethefruitz vulva is not a dirty word.

No shame in the words. Its better to teach her the actual words.

Vulva and vagina.

It is annoying though that all the other words for female parts are either rude, or unbearably twee.

For boys, willy is a pretty neutral word. There's no female equivalent. Not that there's anything wrong with using vagina and vulva, but it's a mildly annoying difference.

My two (6 and 4) know the proper words (vulva for outside, vagina for inside) but use ‘wee wee’ to describe their vulva generally. I agree knowing the terms is important and not being embarrassed but equally having a nickname is in no way harmful as long as they aren’t ashamed of the real words.
I work in sexual health and have seen lots of sexual assault victims some of them young sadly. The word they use doesn’t affect their care.

What is wrong with front bottom and back bottom. Worked with our kids. Vulva or vagina for a toddler? - just no.

V jay jay