Did you have a gender preference?

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I know it’s sex of the baby! But the word gender is used for reveal / scan etc

did you have a preference?

please no hate I want this post to be a safe space for people who may have had a preference and or disappointment !

I have 1 DS and expecting my 2nd baby (only early on so don’t know the sex) Had a preference with him (I wanted a boy) and I have a preference this time round and feel a bit guilty

no preference (was so happy to actually finally become a mum) and now a mum to boys and they are perfect and so affectionate and gentle

No preference whatsoever with dd. If I had a second it would be lovely to have another girl as we already have all the stuff lol. But realistically not bothered either way.

I had a strong preference for a girl. I would have been very happy with a boy but the pressure would have been on to have a girl for our second. I can’t really explain why. I just wanted a daughter.

I wanted a girl and got a girl.

Second time wanted another a girl but when they handed me a boy it felt ‘of course it’s a boy’ and felt so natural, loved having a boy ever since.

I really didn't want all girls. For some reason I've always felt sorry for people who have all girls, not sure why - I've never been a girly girl so always wanted at least one boy to live out some of my childhood dreams of being a boy! I ended up with a girl first, which I'll admit I was a bit worried about. It took me a while to get used to the idea to be honest, partly because everyone I knew who had a baby around the same time had a boy. Of course now I love the bones of her and wouldn't have it any other way. When I got pregnant again I was convinced fate would land me with the dreaded two girls, but got used to the idea that it would be nice for DD to have a sister. It turned out to be a boy though! I'm really glad I've been able to experience both - not that there's much difference so far really.

Yes. I wanted a girl, and was over the moon when my first baby was a girl.

Then I got pregnant again. Dh wanted a boy and I agreed with him but secretly I wanted another girl. I had grown up around girls and barely interacted with any boys. I went to an all girls school. Boys were foreign territory for me.

When we found out ds was a boy dh was over the moon and I was a little bit gutted.

Got over that as soon as he was born though. I bonded with him straight away and he’s always been a mummy’s boy

Nope, I just wanted a healthy baby and safe delivery. Sex was irrelevant.

I really just wanted a baby, but i did have a slight preference for a girl and i got one.
Would like another girl but still undecided whether to go for it.

No preference, I had a boy. I don't have a preference if we have a second either.

Yes for DC1 I was in a highly abusive situation and wanted a boy as I felt my partner at the time really wanted a boy / she was a girl and he wasn’t interested anyway and I raised her alone.

DC2 wanted a girl to reuse all the clothes and stuff and thought it would be I. Easier to nip to the toilet with just girls - not he was s boy.

For the others I didn’t care 😂🤦‍♀️

I had a very mild preference for a girl first time simply because nearly all my relatives are male so a girl was a novelty. She was a girl. With my second I had a preference for a boy. I suppose I liked the idea of one of each but also just love little boys (I have younger brothers).
In both cases I would have been perfectly happy with either sex. I wouldn't have experienced gender disappointment.

I wanted girls and I have girls. I struggle with male relationships so think that’s why. Although tbh girls are bloody hard work

I wanted the twins to be boys. They were girls, then I got pregnant again and really thought it would be nice to have a third girl. Naturally I got a boy!

I was never disappointed by their sex though, probably because I wasn’t that invested in my preference.

I've no preference, didn't find out what we were having with ds. Although boys names were the only ones dh and I could agree on while pregnant.
This time round, I'm not fussed, either would be lovely, although both dh and ds have said they'd like a girl.
So I guess dh has a preference this time round?

I really wanted a girl with my 1st. He was a boy and I love him so much. 19 weeks with no.2 and I didn't really mind but was edging toward wanting another boy. She's a girl. I'm sure I'll love her just as much, but my DS is the only boy of 6 kids my side, soon to be 7. He really wanted a sister so it did work out well

No. Just wanted healthy babies following miscarriages. I have 2 sons. I think there are a lot of stereotypes around what having a son or a daughter means for you but what it all comes down to in the end is the relationship that you have with your children.

I wanted girls, actively tried for girls and got girls. They're grown up now, but it's lovely to see their friendship develop

I wanted a boy. Got a girl.
Second time I wanted a boy but I already had clothes etc so wasn't that fussed. I got another girl.

I'm so glad I didn't have a boy but I think you think that about whatever you have.

I'm not sure if wanted is the right word, I'd say I assumed I would have girls. We're a very girl heavy family - i just knew I'd carry that on. I never pictured myself with a boy.
I remember going for a private sex scan with my second and my partner saying he thought he saw something between its legs, and the idea felt so alien to me, it really threw me off.
Turns out he was wrong anyway, and we have 2 girls.
I don't doubt that I would absolutely adore a boy as much as I do my girls, though.

First baby I didn't have a preference at all though I did just assume it would be a girl for no reason other than the fact I have a sister & am female so just didn't really have boys on my radar 😂.

Second time round I did want a girl mainly for utterly stereotypical reasons such as thinking we'd be much closer as she gets older & I'd potentially be more involved with any grandchildren compared with my son. Time will tell if that is the case!!

So in theory I have the 'ideal' scenario with one of each. I love them both more than anytging & absolutely love experiencing both boys & girls but for them I definitely do wonder if they'd prefer a sibling of the same sex, I'd love them to remain close as they grow older & hope that does happen despite their differing interests

No. I only found out the sex at the birth too which is lovely, it made 0 difference to us though, still doesn't now we have 3 who are still pretty little. We have girl, boy, boy, any combo would have been perfect to us.

With DS2 I wanted a girl, but only because I wanted one of each and wanted all the girly stereotypes.

Was told boy and felt Upset and surprised. Now he's here I would never change my two boys for anything!

First one (surprise) was a boy. Second one we decided to find out so we knew whether to keep the baby clothes. I thought I secretly wanted one of each but when they said he was a boy too I felt really happy.

Absolutely a daughter, if I had a daughter then all else wouldn’t have mattered. If I had a son then we’d have tried again. DH wanted a daughter so badly. Luckily she was

When pregnancy with my second I really wanted a girl, nothing against boys but I already had a 2 year old daughter and really wanted two of the same sex, also I have a brother and we have a really terrible relationship so I’m sure that played into it as well. I found out I was having a boy and if I’m honest I was gutted. He’s now 8 weeks old and I’m so in love with him I can’t believe I ever wished him to be anything else. I can’t wait to see the relationship that him and his sister develop.