Did you have a gender preference?

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I know it’s sex of the baby! But the word gender is used for reveal / scan etc

did you have a preference?

please no hate I want this post to be a safe space for people who may have had a preference and or disappointment !

I have 1 DS and expecting my 2nd baby (only early on so don’t know the sex) Had a preference with him (I wanted a boy) and I have a preference this time round and feel a bit guilty

A side note but you could do the finger prick blood test to find out sooner if you didn’t want to wait or felt you needed time to process it. I did the sneak peek one second time round

I wouldn’t call it a preference but because of past trauma I was scared when I found out I was having a boy. I think I would have been scared FOR a girl though! It didn’t last long 😊

I always pictured myself as a boy mum because I have brothers. But no, not really any preference. I have two boys. I remember with DS1 being excited to find out the sex but actually finding out being very anticlimactic: I just didn’t care what the sex was in the end. I do get “sympathy” for not having a girl and I have witnessed me my mum congratulating couples on “one of each” both of which I find weird.

I had a gender scan a few weeks ago and already have a son, who is 2. I have to admit I was hoping for a girl because of a silly comment my mum made years ago about mums "missing out" because they didn't get to experience bringing up both a son and a daughter. And we've found out it's a boy...! But I've realised that comment was my mum's thoughts and not my own (and is a silly opinion to have anyway).
I'm now actually really looking forward to having brothers who will hopefully get on and be good buddies for one another.

Yes girl I always wanted all girls.

I quite fancied a girl for DC2 as I had loads of nice dresses to hand down and it seemed a shame to clear them out.

I kind of wanted a boy because I thought the clothes were cuter To be fair I was early 20s and a bit dumb. I had a girl and was very happy and had a boy 2 years later. Honestly I wasn't bothered.

Nope, I wanted a child.

First child couldn't care less but always had in my head one of each would be lovely. Then trying for a second I actually wanted the same sex so they may have had the same interests and been closer (obviously no guarantee) but can't get pregnant it seems now so doesn't matter anymore

I very much wanted girls - as a lifelong feminist, I would have struggled with trying to raise a boy, and might have treated him harshly if he showed any signs of male chauvinism!
Fortunately, I got two feisty DDs, who went into finance and marketing after graduating with maths and business degrees between them.

I didn't haven't a preference the first time but I was absolutely delighted to find out I was having a girl. Pregnant again and DD asks for a sister a lot so for her this time I think it would be nice if it was another DD so I guess there is a preference this time but not specifically mine x

I have DS and am expecting 2nd. I would really like another DS but would be happy regardless, as long as healthy. I think I'd like another boy as my son and I have a lovely bond but also it's kind of what I know? So having a girl would be the unknown. Even though of course they would have their own individual character regardless of sex.

I had no preference first time around at all but when I was pregnant again I did really want another girl. Purely because I am extremely close with my sister and I wanted my daughters to have the same opportunity to have a sister. DH really wanted a boy though and I did want a boy for him as I knew it was his preference.

@Fiadht I did think this but read reviews that if you have males in the house it can contaminate the result? As in make it seem like a boy because of contamination!

And heard a lot of bad reviews but that might just be the ones that stand out. Did you do this is it good?

I thought I wanted a girl. I assumed I'd have one. My family is hugely girl heavy (I know that's stupid because it's the sperm that determines sex 🤦)
But I had a boy. I was really surprised. When I got pregnant again 6 months later I wanted another boy... and he's 22 now

No and I don’t think people should actively try for a child if they do.

First time round - no. All the old wives tales suggested boy and I was happy with that, but when I found out she was actually a girl I was happy with that too.

Second time round, I wanted a girl because I was enjoying being a girl mum and wanted DD to have a sister. Luckily she is one!

I'd always imagined myself with a son and knew I was having max two children, so I admit I was kinda hoping for a boy the first time round. I felt a tiny bit of disappointment when I found out it was a girl but it was minor and passed quickly. For some reason, with my second, I just sort of assumed it was a girl before I knew, so I wasn't disappointed to be told.

I now know I'll never have a son but honestly I'm fine with it. I find it quite hard to imagine my life any other way than it is and wouldn't change my girls for the world.

I had a strong preference for a boy first time around and that's what I had. I was delighted to have two more boys, I'd never pictured myself with a girl. Obviously I'd've been happy if I'd had a daughter, of course I would, but my preference was definitely for all boys rather than all girls.

I genuinely had no preference first time round. Once I had one DS, I had a very slight preference for another but only because I knew DS1 wanted a brother, not on my own behalf.

I find it a bit odd when adults have genuine strong preferences - because they are largely based on slightly offensive gender stereotypes. They assume that parenting a boy offers a particular type of different experience to parenting a girl. My two sons are very different to one another, and most of the pairs of girls I know are too.

Both pregnancies, I really wanted a girl. I've got two girls (now aged 19 and 21) and I love having daughters.

I have two boys.

With DC2 we didn’t find out the sex until he was born and although I told everyone I didn’t mind whether baby was a girl or boy, when I was pregnant deep down I was hoping for a girl. However as soon as he was handed to me and I was told it was a boy I felt nothing but pure love. No disappointment. Seeing the bond both my boys have is just lovely.

I have had people ask me if we’re going to try for a third to “get a girl” which I just find strange. People don’t get those sorts of comments made to them when they have one of each sex. People act like it’s unfortunate when you get two of the same sex. Particularly boys I’ve noticed.

Honestly wasn't bothered with the first .
Was just happy to be having a baby.
With the second my preference was for the same sex as the first just as I had all the stuff already 😃

Yeah i have a lot of males (human and animals) in the house but it said girl and it was right 😊 you can get the clinical one done alongside a scan at abc4d clinics if there’s one near you, it’s much more accurate

There’s definitely more of these comments with boys than girls but girl parents do seem to get it too, particularly the dad because he must ‘want a boy’. We already secretly knew our second was a girl and we have a boy already but we were waiting on 20 week scan to tell anyone. My FIL was right in my face repeatedly saying ‘you’re not supposed to have a preference but you want it to be a girl don’t you’ 🤦🏼‍♀️ I laughed it off once or twice but he just kept on saying it. What is the point in saying those comments out loud if it was a boy? Would that somehow be a huge disappointment? I would have loved another boy, equally, especially as your second is as a friend to play with for your first but I do get slightly annoyed every time people are overly happy for me that it’s a girl, as if they wouldn’t have been so happy if it were a boy 🤷🏼‍♀️