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He is still doing it ......

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Katekate1991 · 12/05/2023 09:58

If any of you read my first post you will know this is a very strange situation. So after the father of my child is still calling himself mummy (then denying it) I'm considering contacting the social services because surely him doing this is wrong. I was just wondering what you guys think? Because its getting to the point now of what ever I say he just doesn't stop. He has the upper hand because he always says i miss here, or he is saying me and I'm miss hearing. Nothing wrong with my hearing I would simply not miss hear every time he does it. Then he gets aggressive. Please i would apprentice any advice.

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mathanxiety · 16/05/2023 15:23

I'd like to add that the incident where he pushed past you and the pram in the hall when there was no room to get by was a hint to you that he is refusing to acknowledge your physical reality.

This, in addition to him erasing your identity as mummy, is a very dangerous sign that he has completely devalued you. You are literally nothing to him. You are as good as non-existent.

TheShellBeach · 16/05/2023 18:07

mathanxiety · 16/05/2023 15:23

I'd like to add that the incident where he pushed past you and the pram in the hall when there was no room to get by was a hint to you that he is refusing to acknowledge your physical reality.

This, in addition to him erasing your identity as mummy, is a very dangerous sign that he has completely devalued you. You are literally nothing to him. You are as good as non-existent.

I agree with this and I repeat - you're in danger.

NicCageisnotNickCave · 17/05/2023 15:23

Please check in with us when you get the chance @Katekate1991 - we are all here to support you and to celebrate every step you and you baby girl take towards your freedom from this abusive prick.

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Katekate1991 · 17/05/2023 22:21

I have been looking at some sites where I can advertise my room for rent is this the best way of doing this? or would a estate agent be better? Once I have found someone I will ask him to move out.

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Scientistranswidow · 17/05/2023 22:48

I use SpareRoom.co.uk to find lodgers.

JimnJoyce · 17/05/2023 23:33

@Katekate1991 you are focusing on completely the wrong things. You and your baby need to be away from him. HE IS A DANGER TO YOU BOTH

xyz111 · 18/05/2023 08:11

Katekate1991 · 17/05/2023 22:21

I have been looking at some sites where I can advertise my room for rent is this the best way of doing this? or would a estate agent be better? Once I have found someone I will ask him to move out.

Please don't wait!! I k ow you're probably nervous so putting it off, but get him out of there. Have someone with you when you tell him

TinselAngel · 18/05/2023 08:37

Katekate1991 · 17/05/2023 22:21

I have been looking at some sites where I can advertise my room for rent is this the best way of doing this? or would a estate agent be better? Once I have found someone I will ask him to move out.

No. Move him out ASAP.

SmartHome · 18/06/2023 11:42

How are things Kate? I hope you and your daughter are ok.

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Katekate1991 · 29/06/2023 18:20

@SmartHome hello me and my daughter are ok I don't let her dad be alone around her now, all though this has somewhat limited the weirdness he still calls himself mummy then says he didn't. Its crazy. He is crazy. How are you? I hope you are well?

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Damnyouautocorrect1 · 29/06/2023 18:24

Surely you just video on your phone a few times and pkay it in confidence to family members.

as an aside, he’sdangerous

mathanxiety · 29/06/2023 18:30

Katekate1991 · 12/05/2023 10:10

This can't continue when i brought it up he got nasty and pushed me against the fridge. When I say I'm going to tell his family he just laughs and says well you will look like the crazy one. I have looked in to getting some recorders around the house but they are expensive. (We are still living together for now)

You need to divorce this delusional and violent man.

SS are not there to act as referees.

Call Women's Aid 0808 2000 247 and ask for support.

Every time you post about this, you get the same response, and it's the correct one. Divorce him.

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Katekate1991 · 29/06/2023 18:41

@mathanxiety we are no longer a couple we split when I was pregnant because of how odd and strange he was acting. We also no longer live together. When he is here I do not leave him alone with my daughter. Its very limited. He still does it though.

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Katekate1991 · 29/06/2023 18:43

@Damnyouautocorrect1 I told my nan everything. I feel to embarrassed to tell my mum,dad,sisters his family. Its just embarrassing and makes me sound crazy.

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Sunnydaysaredefhere · 29/06/2023 18:52

Have you not seen a solicitor? It isn't in your dd's best interests to be around him at all imo.

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Katekate1991 · 29/06/2023 19:27

@Sunnydaysaredefhere I have kicked him out. Its been a lot going on. I will get to that as I will go for full custody. I just want things to settle its self first. I do not let him around my daughter alone.

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porridgeisbae · 29/06/2023 19:48

It does sound like he's 'transgender.' This is definitely one of the sort of things they do.

bumblebee2235 · 29/06/2023 20:03

Katekate1991 · 12/05/2023 10:10

This can't continue when i brought it up he got nasty and pushed me against the fridge. When I say I'm going to tell his family he just laughs and says well you will look like the crazy one. I have looked in to getting some recorders around the house but they are expensive. (We are still living together for now)

Just get a snore app on your phone and leave your phone in the room? It only records when there is a noise or talking :3

xyz111 · 29/06/2023 21:52

Katekate1991 · 29/06/2023 18:41

@mathanxiety we are no longer a couple we split when I was pregnant because of how odd and strange he was acting. We also no longer live together. When he is here I do not leave him alone with my daughter. Its very limited. He still does it though.

Then you need to be firm and say "if I hear you call yourself that one more time then you will not be seeing your child at all until it goes through the courts". Be firm, make him realise you mean business. Your child comes first.

twoandcooplease · 29/06/2023 22:27

Good for you taking the first step op x

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