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2 and a half year old still on baby bottles
sommeliermama · 18/03/2023 09:54
My partner has a 2 and a half year old daughter who spends 2 days/nights with us a week. Obviously she is not my child but I am involved with looking after her as those 2 days are my only days off from work.
Am I being unreasonable to think it's strange she is still drinking milk several times a day from a baby bottle? I have asked my partner to buy her sippy cups but he hasn't listened It just looks so odd to me especially when we are in public.
She also demands milk at bedtime every night, which she is allowed to drink in bed. I am getting tired of our guest bedroom smelling like stale milk and having to constantly change the bedsheets where she has dropped it.
This will all sound like a bit of a rant but I want to know if it's normal or shout I put my foot down a bit harder on the issue. I am expecting my own baby this summer and can't imagine still giving them a baby bottle when they're approaching 3 years old!
RampantIvy · 20/03/2023 07:05
So much defensiveness on this thread. Leaving a bottle of milk with a toddler in bed isn't on. Not brushing her teeth isn't on.
Has she had her first visit to the dentist yet? Maybe getting advice from the dentist might spur the parents on to encourage better habits.
Newnamenewname109870 · 20/03/2023 09:06
sommeliermama · 19/03/2023 19:55
@mathanxiety she does drink other liquids, usually water but it's often put in a baby bottle. Milk is her first choice.
Unfortunately her teeth don't get brushed at night because she goes to bed with the milk and then falls asleep. My partner isn't good at saying no to her and I don't like to nag him because, as has been said by lots of others in this thread, I don't get to have an opinion.
Her mum allows her to go to sleep with milk too so her teeth won't be being brushed at home either
She can still brush her teeth even if she had more milk as it’ll clean away the rest of the day. Maybe try to implement this? Talk to do and say as she’s in your care you need to help her.
custardbear · 21/03/2023 09:46
@namechangeforthisbleep - no worries lol - we all get grumpy sometimes
@sommeliermama - seriously ... you put a problem in a public forum, you don't get agreement, and you don't like the responses and you get the arse and tell me I'm unwelcome (kinda know how your step child feels!) ... go ahead and tell her mum how crap she is .. see what reaction you get
PinkSyCo · 21/03/2023 10:06
sommeliermama · 19/03/2023 19:55
@mathanxiety she does drink other liquids, usually water but it's often put in a baby bottle. Milk is her first choice.
Unfortunately her teeth don't get brushed at night because she goes to bed with the milk and then falls asleep. My partner isn't good at saying no to her and I don't like to nag him because, as has been said by lots of others in this thread, I don't get to have an opinion.
Her mum allows her to go to sleep with milk too so her teeth won't be being brushed at home either
So your partner is a crap parent and you’re pregnant with his baby. Oh dear dear dear.
929mummy · 21/03/2023 13:35
I would be more strict !
No she's not your child but you and partner live together so unless the child has disabilities (as children may still be on a baby bottle due to disabilities ect)then I would be raising the child in our home while your both caring for her the same way as you would raise your own children!
If that means you give her a cup while she's at yours then do it !
Not being funny but everyone parents different and has different rules !
Some people let there child jump on sofas as they feel the child is just playing bouncing but in your home you may not allow it as you have different outlook on parenting so I would be more strict !
In our home our children will be on a sippy cup from age 2 or what ever you feel is best!
Our children will not sleep in our bedroom they have there own bed and room so this is what I want from other children these are our house rules !.
Good luck just remember to be polite about it as she isn't your child .
premicrois · 21/03/2023 13:39
No she's not your child but you and partner live together so unless the child has disabilities (as children may still be on a baby bottle due to disabilities ect)
As previously mentioned you don't always know the reason (the disabilities) when they are 2. Sometimes you just know it's the right thing for your child.
It doesn't suit the narrative though so is ignored
EmilyGilmoresSass · 21/03/2023 15:38
929mummy · 21/03/2023 13:35
I would be more strict !
No she's not your child but you and partner live together so unless the child has disabilities (as children may still be on a baby bottle due to disabilities ect)then I would be raising the child in our home while your both caring for her the same way as you would raise your own children!
If that means you give her a cup while she's at yours then do it !
Not being funny but everyone parents different and has different rules !
Some people let there child jump on sofas as they feel the child is just playing bouncing but in your home you may not allow it as you have different outlook on parenting so I would be more strict !
In our home our children will be on a sippy cup from age 2 or what ever you feel is best!
Our children will not sleep in our bedroom they have there own bed and room so this is what I want from other children these are our house rules !.
Good luck just remember to be polite about it as she isn't your child .
Let's hope you don't ever have a child with autism then. My daughter uses bouncing as one of her ways to regulate. Whilst she has an outdoor trampoline, I'd far rather she jump on a sofa or a bed to the alternative effect banning her would have. Not always black and white. You've made me glad her dad isn't involved because if he was and his girlfriend disallowed her from doing something I'd have something to say. Especially a girlfriend of a year and a half ffs. Maybe it would have been wiser to keep his own home and a bedroom for the poor child, but you, like the OP, probably deem it acceptable that the child uses the 'guest room'. Mind you. You probably are the OP.
gencritdd · 21/03/2023 16:57
premicrois · 21/03/2023 13:39
No she's not your child but you and partner live together so unless the child has disabilities (as children may still be on a baby bottle due to disabilities ect)
As previously mentioned you don't always know the reason (the disabilities) when they are 2. Sometimes you just know it's the right thing for your child.
It doesn't suit the narrative though so is ignored
Absolutely this.
But it's easier to bash a parent and a child than be understanding.
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