Lazy parenting

[Lunabetty]

What are things you consider lazy parenting?

Sigh… predictable response.

Because we are a small school in a small community, and we do know our families.
I thought I made it clear that we know the difference between families who are struggling, and those who just choose to prioritise other things.
You might not want to believe that some parents don’t prioritise their kids, but sadly sometimes that is actually the case. Thankfully those parents are definitely in the minority, but despite what you want to believe, they do exist.

This is the sort of thing I was expecting when I clicked on the thread. Loads of lazy parenting hacks to make my life easier not judgemental critique of other peoples parenting. What a let down...apart from @Simonjt post which sadly my 10 and 13 y/o are probably a bit old for now.

Playing Drs so you can lie on the sofa being the patient was always a winner.

What an awful judgemental thread

OP wants a Friday night bunfight.

Not telling kids about sex or menstruation. Girls nowadays may get their first period in primary school, you can't safely leave it until they are eleven or twelve. And embarrassment is not a good excuse not to talk to them about sex, or anything else.

The main thing I do that I consider lazy is putting the tv on to entertain dc when I need to get something done such as cooking or cleaning up but it's not all day and we do read and do other things as well.

If you don't do a bit of lazy parenting sometimes then you're probably not looking after yourself enough, imo. I hand my child her tablet when she wakes up on weekends and have another half an hour snoozing. We're both happy with that. And she has swimming lessons til 6 on a Friday, so we swing home via the chippy and she's just finished sausage, chips and curry sauce 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's still disgusting, transferring fecal matter etc from the floor outside, onto food wrappers, onto your bench and pantry etc 🤮

I knew what you meant OP and some examples I have seen or heard of are;

Last weekend I saw a group of parents letting their toddlers run around a restaurant and play about going up and down the stairs unsupervised and completely out of sight. Whilst, restaurant staff and customers carried hot meals and drinks and tried to carefully avoid them. Other customers carefully opening the restaurant doors and watching that the children don’t leave the restaurant on their own (whilst parents obliviously chatting).

Parents not holding toddlers hands in a busy area such as a car park or when crossing a road so cars and other vehicles have to be extra careful.

Letting children play out from a very young age 7 onwards with absolutely no idea where they are, who they are with or what they are doing as long as they are out from under their feet.

Parents who refuse to support their uni age children who don’t qualify for a full loan due to the household income of their parents.

Parents who take phones and ipads out for meals to babysit children in public from around age two onwards.

Selling your children.

Boarding school for under 13s.

Tbh, there's not much "lazy" parenting aside from physical violence/intimidation which doesn't have a place occasionally and in moderation. Screen time in restaurants, beige food, not waking a sleeping child to brush their teeth, missing reading occasionally... all these are probably OK in moderation.

There are only two things which really get my goat and they're both quite specific... Leaving your female partner to take your young boys into the female changing-room at the pool since you can't be bothered to get them ready. And sitting across the aisle from your family on a plane with headphones on ignoring your young kids while their other parent looks after them and tries to stop them creating chaos.

Genius!

Not everyone who does this is doing it because they are lazy. DC1 has ASD and ADHD. He struggles in places like that due to sensor overload so used to be allowed to watch something. DC2 and Dc3 would not be allowed to and colouring books etc would be brought.

Why do you feel the need to constantly entertain your kids. Kids need to learn to make their own fun. I do agree with no tablets thing but no I won't be fecking do sticker books I'm there to eat we can talk and chat. There's so much performative parenting , the parent never just sits quietly doing stickering they will always talk really loudly while they are doing to ensure everybody else can hear what an excellent parent they are 🤣🤣. It's not done for the benefit of the child .

That's genius 😂

We take tablets to restaurants with us ... They come out towards the end of a meal when the children have lots Thier interest in all the sticker /colouring/ non screen based activities we have brought with us ....it's either this or us not enjoy the end of the meal / fellow dinners having to put up with us constantly having to tell them to sit still etc ... This will get less and less as they get older and can be more easily occupied by other activities (it's already a shrinking time frame)

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Fucking hell. Don't start them all off about tablets in restaurants again.

I'm here for tips as I would like to reduce my parenting and become lazier 😁

😂. I'm making notes!

Lazy parents are happy parents.

Cop onto yourself @Lunabetty, and explain what your mysterious ‘context’ is, and what you want from the thread, then.

This is clearly intended to be one of those tedious threads where the OP posts something provocative, lights the touch paper and sits back to watch, without engaging again at all.

So predictable….. 🙄

There's lazy as making things a bit easier as you're knackered or trying to get other things done. Everyone does that.

Other things fall on the neglect side or the checked out of parenting.
Doing the very bare minimum to keep your child alive.

You realise that rats run all over trollies at night right? And birds. And they're never cleaned beyond the handle! Trollies are gross, regardless.

TLDR Everything I do is not lazy parenting, everything others do is. I don't judge but do wish others could parent as well as I do