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Would you let MIL bring new boyfriend when babysitting?

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bonkersconkers101 · 06/02/2023 19:40

I'll keep this short. My MIL has offered to babysit our four month old next week while we celebrate our wedding anniversary over dinner for a couple of hours. The baby will be asleep the entire time.

She's asked if she can bring her new boyfriend. She met him LAST WEEK ... I know nothing about him except his first name. I've not met him but caught a glimpse of him. He looks nice enough but I don't know him at all.

I don't think I feel comfortable having a strange man in my house with my newborn. I'm sure he's lovely but for all I know he could be casing the joint for stuff to steal or worse.

What would you do?

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Sereni5 · 06/02/2023 19:41

Its a hard No from me

Writeandroll · 06/02/2023 19:42

Hell no

Flangeosaurus · 06/02/2023 19:42

Absolutely fucking not

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Noicant · 06/02/2023 19:42

No

purpledalmation · 06/02/2023 19:42

Absolutely not.

Ickystickybubblegum · 06/02/2023 19:43

Definitely not.

SparkleBrows · 06/02/2023 19:43

Ugh. I suppose if she's supervising, why not, but also why would either of them want that? That in itself makes it a bit odd to me, so I think I'd be uncomfortable.

Will she still come if you say no? I thinknyou need to be ready to asked alternative arrangements.

What does DH think?

Theduchy · 06/02/2023 19:43

No fucking way.

Comedycook · 06/02/2023 19:44

No

Aquamarine1029 · 06/02/2023 19:44

Absolutely no fucking way and this is definitely a hill to die on. I wouldn't care what your husband has to say about it either. If push comes to shove, you stay home. Do you think your MIL would sneak him even if told no?

lotsofdogshere · 06/02/2023 19:45

Absolutely not

Perime · 06/02/2023 19:46

I'd be worried she thought it was okay to do in the first place.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/02/2023 19:47

Perime · 06/02/2023 19:46

I'd be worried she thought it was okay to do in the first place.

I totally agree. It shows shockingly poor judgement.

Kanaloa · 06/02/2023 19:48

I think it’s a bit odd that he’d want to. What older man wants to come and babysit with his new girlfriend? It’s just a bit off to me.

britespark1 · 06/02/2023 19:50

No chance.

mumyes · 06/02/2023 19:50

No fucking way

Scottishknitter · 06/02/2023 19:51

You do realise this is how children get abused?

HermioneWeasley · 06/02/2023 19:52

Under no circumstances

BevMarsh · 06/02/2023 19:52

Not sure I'd be comfortable with MIL babysitting either after this.
Fancy asking if a fella she met last week could come with her to your home to babysit your child!

HasItStoppedWayneing · 06/02/2023 19:53

No.

Always assume the worst when dealing with other people around children.

fairypeasant · 06/02/2023 19:53

Hard no.

motherofkevinnotperry · 06/02/2023 19:53

No it's not ok.

saraclara · 06/02/2023 19:55

It's ridiculous to think that he'd abuse the baby, for goodness' sake. It's grandmother is there.

But even so I'd say, sorry, I don't know him so I'm not comfortable with him coming to my house when I'm not there.

twilightcafe · 06/02/2023 19:55

No!

Rauha · 06/02/2023 19:56

Absolutely not.