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Would you be annoyed by this . Son made to sit and face wall

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Douse · 01/02/2023 16:16

According to my 9 year old backed up with a similar story from the 6 year old who has senco issues was being mischievous in todays assembly by fiddling with his water bottle . He (according to the kids ) was spoken to a few times and then was taken to the front of the hall by the deputy headteacher made to sit next to her and face the wall.

Its the facing the wall bit that doesn't sit well with me ? Thoughts please

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DontTouchMePlease · 01/02/2023 16:18

Have you asked him why, after being spoken to ‘a few times’, he continued to not do as he was told?

Twillow · 01/02/2023 16:18

Because if he wasn't facing the wall he would probably still be mucking about, making faces at other kids etc. He had already been spoken to several times you say.

Quveas · 01/02/2023 16:19

Facing the wall means no distractions. I'm struggling to see the issue.

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Cuppasoupmonster · 01/02/2023 16:19

Sorry are you talking about your own kid being punished or someone else’s? Was it it the 9yo or 6yo? Who has SEN issues? Post makes no sense

Outfor150 · 01/02/2023 16:21

It seems fair enough to me. It’s a natural consequence to his behaviour- if he can’t behave in a communal setting, he is removed from that setting and is put on his own-that means not being able to see what other people are doing, being isolated.

SleepingStandingUp · 01/02/2023 16:21

I think you need to be clear if the fidgeting is poor behaviour or linked to his SEN? Why had he got his water bottle with him?

If you feel like the fidgeting was beyond his capacity to not do it, I'd be upset it wasn't handled better. If he was being naughty, it's fair. Facing forward he'll have faces pulled at hi mto make him laugh etc

Spiderplantation · 01/02/2023 16:25

I'd be unhappy with that. It's too much like a public humiliation, even if it wasn't intended that way. It can feel very vulnerable having everyone behind and looking where you can't see them.

Twillow · 01/02/2023 16:52

You need to be careful how you handle this, OP. If you instill in your child a sense of outrage over his treatment, you are undermining the teachers and basically sanctioning his behaviour. Fiddling with water bottles may sound like low-level disruption but believe me it can be a real nuisance in schools and affect the learnign of other children as well as your own child. He needs to learn how to behave and to respond appropriately when asked to stop doing something - it's not a big ask, is it? Please back them up on this, it's not like he had to wear a dunces cap.

CarpeVitam · 01/02/2023 16:54

Spiderplantation · 01/02/2023 16:25

I'd be unhappy with that. It's too much like a public humiliation, even if it wasn't intended that way. It can feel very vulnerable having everyone behind and looking where you can't see them.

The child should behave then. It's simple really 🤷‍♀️

Ohdearnotagain76 · 01/02/2023 16:56

Was he up against the wall or just sat parallel to the teacher but facing the same way the other kids were (foward) what do you think should of happened? If he has sen does he have a echp? If he does his t/a should of removed him before it got to that stage, if he doesn't he should be able to follow instructions at the age of 6.

dirt · 01/02/2023 16:57

Was it the 9 or the 6 and does the child have SEN?

SeasonFinale · 01/02/2023 17:00

I would be more cross that my child was so disruptive in an assembly that thos was necessary. Your own 6 year old has backed up your 9 year old was not behaving.

MontyK · 01/02/2023 17:01

I don't think it's a big deal. Maybe he will learn from it?

PAFMO · 01/02/2023 17:04

Obviously ask the teacher what happened if you want clarification. I can see that maybe, after being so disruptive during assembly he had to be removed and put with a teacher his chair was maybe not facing towards the other children iyswim? In case he continued to disrupt others.

MrsCarson · 01/02/2023 17:20

He brought that on himself.
However if he was mucking about with a water bottle why didn't whoever told him to stop take the bottle off him the first time and give it back as they were all leaving the hall

Soontobe60 · 01/02/2023 17:22

Spiderplantation · 01/02/2023 16:25

I'd be unhappy with that. It's too much like a public humiliation, even if it wasn't intended that way. It can feel very vulnerable having everyone behind and looking where you can't see them.

You do know that if you’re sat in the front row for assembly, everyone is sat behind you and looking where you can’t see them 😳

Heartstopper · 01/02/2023 17:22

Ex teacher here. Totally normal sanction under the circumstances. I despair for society if parents object to their child being disciplined by a teacher at school.

SecretSophie · 01/02/2023 17:23

MrsCarson · 01/02/2023 17:20

Because the next thread would say "AIBU, teacher confiscated water bottle, child almost died of dehydration at assembly "

DrMarciaFieldstone · 01/02/2023 17:23

Facing the wall during assembly means he can’t distract anyone else/make faces etc.

Why did he keep fiddling with his bottle after being told not to?

Chewbecca · 01/02/2023 17:23

Back up the teacher and make sure your child knows he must behave and do as the teachers ask & that you are disappointed he behaved so badly he had to be punished.

PennyToffee · 01/02/2023 17:25

I wouldn't be happy about him being humiliated in public, seems a bit of an OTT reaction.

missbunnyrabbit · 01/02/2023 17:25

This is a complete non issue. Parents just can't bear anyone to discipline their children.

DrMarciaFieldstone · 01/02/2023 17:28

You can see why some children behave like this, when you see how offended their parents get.

SammyScrounge · 01/02/2023 17:32

SecretSophie · 01/02/2023 17:23

Because the next thread would say "AIBU, teacher confiscated water bottle, child almost died of dehydration at assembly "

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So true!😁

Shinyandnew1 · 01/02/2023 17:35

According to my 9 year old backed up with a similar story from the 6 year old who has senco issues

Your post needs some clarification. Who was told off-the 6 year old or the 9 year old?

Do you mean the 6 year old has SEN or has issues with the senco? What issues? Do they not get on with the senco?!

If one individual has had to be spoken to several times during one assembly, it sounds like sitting with the deputy where there are no disruptions is an appropriate sanction.

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