Would you be annoyed by this . Son made to sit and face wall

[Douse]

According to my 9 year old backed up with a similar story from the 6 year old who has senco issues was being mischievous in todays assembly by fiddling with his water bottle . He (according to the kids ) was spoken to a few times and then was taken to the front of the hall by the deputy headteacher made to sit next to her and face the wall.

Its the facing the wall bit that doesn't sit well with me ? Thoughts please

Why on earth are they allowed their water bottles in assembly? Misses the point

I think you need to spend some time with your son teaching him respect and manners and that he needs to listen to the teaching staff. Then he wouldn't be in that situation.

Probably shouldn't have been doing it then.

Not really so simple. Forcing children to confirm under threat of humiliation is hardly a sensible, sane or civilised way to teach.

This.

OK, I'm officially insane. Because I'm struggling to see how being moved to a chair where the teacher can closely supervise your behaviour, facing towards a wall so that neither the child nor other children can continue disruptive behaviour, and after being told to behave several times, is "public humiliation".

Possibly because the whole school can see him facing the wall?

@Spiderplantation

I think you meant conform!

You're totally missing the point - the child was given every reasonable opportunity to conform to expected standards of behaviour but decided the rules did not apply to him 🤷‍♀️. So was made to behave - he brought the alleged humiliation on himself 😉

Those who think it’s humiliating/makes them vulnerable/OTT, what would you suggest the teacher should have done? They had already been spoken to a number of times; that wasn’t working.

Wouldn't it give us all hope for the future if the OP came back and said OK it's a fair cop guv I need to grow up and let the teachers discipline my children when they misbehave ..oh and I have given DC a rocket for misbehaving and told him he will be losing privileges if I hear of anything like this again.

He was facing the wall so he wasn't sitting next to the teacher looking at the rest of the school. Ideal opportunity to pull stupid faces and once again distract the others.Tell him to behave himself in assembly and then he can sit where he should. End of conversation.

Taken the water bottle away.

I'm in no way against teachers disciplining my children, obviously, but I don't agree with the facing the wall part in front of the whole school.

On the other hand, the humiliation will likely stop him fiddling with his water bottle at assembly.

This is very very old school. I wouldn't like it if someone did this in my school, much too humiliating and just instils a sense of shame. Based on their behaviour management techniques I'd say the assemblies are probably crap and that's why they mess around.

Hun. You need to pull your ponytail tight, wear your best pyjamas and hoof it up to school tomorrow screeching “I know my rights, my lil Neveah is an angle”.

Don't be a dick.

"My lil Nevaeh' !! 🤣🤣

I thought these sort of humiliating punishments were long gone. Seems not though.

He was spoken to a "few times". How many more times do you think they should have endured his antics before dealing with it?
A nine year old carrying on like that should not have his mother prepared to storm into battle for him because his trick acting was actually dealt with.
Tell him off, maybe?

Apologies I wrote this so quickly ! I clearly didn't word it correctly my 9 year old told me today that my 6 year old son who doesnt listen, is immature , speech delay, global developmental delay and is on the average age level of a 4 and half year old. The fact you have to tell him something about 100 times before he may even acknowledge you! hence the SEND issues (SORRY not sendco)

He (6 year old) was fiddling with his water bottle when told not to in assembly . They allow bottles into the hall. He then apparently got moved to the front of the hall and was told to face the wall.
I have no issues with them disciplining him and I agree the behaviour needs dealt with so i support that but the fact he had to sit facing the wall is what doesnt sit well with me.

Where does the OP say she is going to storm into the school?

I asked to hear what sons story was and it was very similar . Nothing was said at pick up by the staff so I've only got the kids side to go from

That is a bit different. Much better to have been quietly removed by a member of staff.

So it was a 6 year old with SEN, not a nt 9 year old?🤔

Not good enough, the logical thing to do is remove the water bottle. It does seem like a punishment designed to humiliate. It also seems discriminatory if child has sen.

What consequence do you think would have been best for your child instead of facing the wall (presumably to stop being a distraction and to stop being distracted)?

Did they take the water bottle away before moving him?