I dont suppose there is anyone else trying to study with M.E is there?...

[meandthomas]

Hi, I've had M.E for the last 8 years and have good bits and bad bits with it.
I am resitting a module that I didn't manage to complete last year due to ill health and I'm nearly through it this year but my symptoms have kicked off again.

My ds is 4 and a gem.

i just wondered if there was anyone in a similar position..

Sam

I've got a meeting on Monday with disability support. I'm hoping they can help.
Eep,most people are reasonable - scotch should do the trick

I waited all morning to see my tutors! They didn't show up! I wrote them a 2 page letter and left it for them instead, stating everything has happened and where I am at work wise. i suggested they contacted me, and I have heard nothing.

2 of my friends are here this evening. one put Thomas to bed and the other helped me pack 2 boxes. Thomas has been really pushing his luck recently so it was nice to have a break.

Hope you have some chocolate. You deserve it right now
Sam

He didn't want the scotch, he emailed me the work though .

It was really bad for your tutors not to turn up, I'd complain, that's really out of order. Do you have a course leader that you can have a chat to?

I think kids have a tendency to know when you're stressed out and they can really wind you up. It doesn't help. Try not to let it get you down, he's just being a muppet. Things always work out in the end, just sometimes not the way you expect them to. It'll be ok for you, I can tell.

So the suggestion alone worked - cool, saved yourself a bottle of scotch ( for next time maybe)

He told me to speak to them!

Yeah, he does it everytime I'm stressed. No it really doesn't help. He drew a picture based on my picture of the new house. It's really cute, I'm going to frame it I thought I'd give a copy to my stepdad to say thank you.

Lol, I get the same feeling about you. Its strange, but hope, optimism and perseverance tend to win in the end

I can believe I made it to Friday!
What are your plans for the weekend?

Weekend? I've GOT to do some work. I'm actually in the library at Uni. I'm far too lazy and I need to pull my finger out. I'm taking Joe to the cinema tomorrow, costs £1 each! We're going to see alvin and the chipmunks. Are you busy packing?

I'd go over his head if he's crap. School Dean should be supportive.

Julie.

I would be busy packing if I hadn't fallen asleep after my bath! I've only just woken up!
Wow £1 cinema sounds good. Sounds great,

Good luck with your work

The weekend is just usually a differnt combination of the same factors as usual here. Denotes a change in time, having another weekend.

Thomas has 2 parties to go to. One on Saturday and one on Sunday.
I'm running out of boxes!

Thomas paternal grandfather was in tears on my shoulder because he is upset about what I am going through through no fault of my own.

Slightly surreal!

Sorry I have not been around for a while. I had a tooth taken out and it's left me a bit ill. I hope that you are well, how's the move going?

At least you're getting some sympathy, I just hope he gives you a hand.

How are you feeling now?

I'm feeling much better this end of the week.
I went and spoke to my tutor on Tuesday. We agreed that I should transfer course to do something less physically demanding. She's prepared to write me a glowing reference. If theyr not going to be supportive then perhaps it's for the best.

I'm going to look at doing it closer to home.

I dont have a good relationship with Thomas dad so it came as a bit of a surprise.

I sign the tenancy agreement tomorrow, and can pick the keys up on Monday.

How do you feel about changing course? It seems like a shame considering you're nearly finished. The last slog is always the hardest. I'm not feeling too bad, I miss my tooth and it's sore. I missed a field trip to a sewage works yesterday (I'm so sad ), have another one somewhere else tomorrow. I think we're doing some soil samples. I'm thinking of teaching. I havn't paid the school fees for this term and I'm broke. The bank won't lend me any cash. There's a secondary school by Joe's school, I phoned them up and they've told me to email the person in charge of the graduate teacher programme, I think I may be able to teach Geography and Law, will start of at £15k with tax credits as an unqualified teacher.
Is thomas's grandad going to help you? Are you pleased to be moving?

I'll be speaking to him tomorrow. Hopefully he'll help.

It'll be nice once we're in and settled but its all a bit nervewracking and unsettling atm.

I love Art History and the work I've already done will count towards it.

That sounds positive, teaching's something I'll probably end up doing, atg least for a while.
No suggestions on the money front but < hug>

Thanks. Things always work out. Joe's dad's emailed asking if he can have Joe for a day next week. He's still in ireland and I don't know why he's coming over so soon as he was only here a couple of weeks ago. I want to tell him no, Joe cried when he came back because he was so hungry. I think he's planning on taking Joe to a family thing, I don't want him playing happy families with him and showing him off to his family when he has nothing to do with Joe. Joe only knows his immediate family. I'm not sure what to do.

Art history sounds fantastic, you could work in a Museum, that would be so great.

Doesn't make it any easier going through it though heh.
I hate that. Thomas Dad always takes him to family gatherings to show him off! Flattering yet frustrating at the same time.
Poor Joe, can you send him with snacks or something to keep in his bag?

Lol, I much prefer the sound of it tbh, just got to start the paperwork to transfer...

I cant sleep atm, so much stuff going round in my head!

I think I'm busy next weekend
Oh, it'll be ok. Something good always comes out of bad times, you might not see it yet but It'll be ok, I know that. Write a list of all the things that are bothering you and hide it. It's supposto help you sleep. You've got alot on at the moment but you'll get through it.

Lol I've been writing lists but my mind is still going. I've even put on my relaxing music cd... desperate times

I figure that at least with it all happening at once it'll all settle down swiftly too..

It's just a turning point, happening to make your life better. Your new home will be fantastic, full of joy and good times, you will enjoy the new course and it will open alot of doors for you. Hide the list, blank the rest out. I've got a Paul McKenna cd, I put that on when I want to sleep. Do you keep forgetting things (names)?

I forget most things that are not commited to long term memory!

lol, thanks for your positivity. The same goes for you yknow...

I'm getting quite bad, I forgot Paul McKenna, I had to get the book. That's never happened before. I've listened to it so many times. Weird.

Thankyou. I always look on the bright side of life (da da dadadadadada!)

It's the best way. I do too generally, it's just lack of sleep that leaves me grouchy.
I didn't get to sleep until 2 last night!

My memory sometimes has moments of clarity, i usually get really excited ( and recieve lots of strange looks)
Lists, is the way forward. I write everything down..

Hope you have a good day

Sam

Have you moved yet sam?

Hope that you are both alright. Sending you lots of hugs.

hi meandthomas,

i'd just like to say that you are the most fantastic person, and i admire you greatly, i agree with martianbishop about pushing too hard. this isn't a dig, i just think you need to plan a bit more long term, let things take longer, give yourself more time to allow for illness. i know this costs, but something always crops up.
love always xXx

whoa! 4 pages! i only read the first

I've nearly finished moving
It's manic atm.

I went to the open day at the uni closer to home. They dont do Art History but they do the same course that I'm doing now, and have suggested I go and do it there part time. Without prejudice.
The tutor was so nice, I burst into tears! ( she was ok with that too)

I just need to get the LEA to approve paying for it. I'll have to spend another year to sit 1 2nd year module before I can start my 3rd year part time but she ( the tutor ) said she'd help me see it through.

Thomas paternal grandparents came to help move at the weekend. ( They were being nosy)
They started quizzing my friend who was helping me move if he was moving in too!!!! Poor guy wondered what on earth was going on.

I didn't rest as much as I should have last week and am paying for it now!

How are you? How are things going?

I'm pleased things are working out for you, it must be a big weight off your shoulders. I've been really stressed over the past couple of weeks so I'm feeling quite bad, dodgy belly and all that. The head's suggested I find another school for Joe for September as he is "uncaring????", always right, the general problems you have when raising a gifted child etc. I have no idea where he's got this idea, I brought him a hampster at the weekend, he's so gently and caring towards it. Head suggests I pack him off to a strict boys boarding school???? Shall not be doing this! Shall be moving him because the head does not understand the needs of a gifted child! I've emailed him some information from the National Association of Gifted Children , this should make the penny drop! Joe's crying now because I've turned the tv off so he can concentrate on his homework. Men!

That is awful! I'd definitely move him of the head is going to be like that. It's just because they cant be bothered to deal with it. ( Like my tutors)

It's really frustrating when they cry and you feel rough too. Hope he calms down quickly.

Perhaps the enforced need to change schools will point you in a more positive direction

I dont have an internet connection at the new place yet, but keep me posted with how things go.

Are you still looking at moving Croydon way?

Big hug

Are you both ok coro?