Disappointed in Grandparents

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Hi, this is my first time here! I've got 2 boys aged 14 mths and 5 yrs I'm really gutted about the lack of help I've received from Gparents. My mum lives 2 hours away and is always saying she will come down to see us (she has a holiday flat here!), but she never ends up coming - is either too busy or on holiday. My P's in law live 5 mins away and have my 5 yr old after school for tea once a week (ie, an hour or so).
I know they're my children and I have no right to expect any help, but I'm so knackered, keep getting ill and would love a break,even if just a couple of hours. DH works full time, but he is great when here.
I love my children, but bloody hell it's knackering and I feel really let down that the Gparents don't willingly help. This is made worse by the fact that EVERYONE else I know has tons of help from very willing Gparents.
Am I alone in feeling resentful? Want to be a good person but am feeling increasingly bitter!!!

I feel the same my DM doesn't work never offers to have them only wants us over when she has a friend coming to visit so she can show us off and play doting nanny (which I take full advantage of as she will actually make me a drink when people are around) MIL made out like she was going to help loads when DC2 was born but she never asks to come round or to see us, SIL has stepped up a bit more but her son is crazy my sister is the best childcare I have but she's 3 hours away but she is the only person that offers without me having to ask but I have to do a 6 hrs round trip to do that

I get jealous the fact my friends sat sorry can't meet today I'm going for a coffee with my mum. what I would do for my mum to just want to go for a coffee with me is unbelievable

It's difficult as some may think that they've had their children and now it's their time. But I can understand why you are upset about the matter as and really don't get that someone wouldn't want to spend time with their grandchildren xx