My DH is a bad Dad

[Anxiousmumlife]

We have 2 children. 1 DS 2 and a half, 1 DD 8 weeks old. I honestly don't think he is cut out to be a Dad. He snaps so easily, so heavy handed when moving the kids around. If I ask him to feed DD he props her up on a cushion and feeds her so he has the other hand free to keep playing his game on his phone. He doesnt tidy up when the kids are in bed, doesn't seem to care that much about me unless sex is involved.
He isnt the Dad i thought he would be. I honestly dont know what to do.

Hmmm, heavy handed sounds very bad.
can you talk to him about it?

Leave while the kids are very young. It will be so much easier on them.

Yeah, that’s really bad.

And not normal - at least not among the cross-generational men (fathers and uncles) I know.

I read your other thread where he called your tiny baby girl a fat cunt. He is a disgusting piece of trash. I’m
Have you family who will support you if you leave him?

My parents thinks the sun shines out his back side. I have a very narcassistic mother that always wants to be liked by everyone so has sucked up to him since day 1. They would defo side with him over me because she would hate to be disliked by someone.

Who cares what your parents think? You're in the relationship with him not them.

Let them side with him... they sound like they all deserve each other.

Leave him... you can't be with a man who calls a baby a cunt!

Leave. It won’t get any better and the children will be better off without his heavy handed approach

They can live with him then can’t they. Leave him and let your parents go, you don’t need people who trap you in hell.

I can forgive DP a lot of things but being kind, being a good dad, these are essential. It's a deal breaker. You have to get the hell out.

If your partner called his own previous baby a cunt, and is heavy handed, he sounds like a potentially dangerous man. At the very least, he’s a pathetic and horrible person.

I know you’ve just had a baby and may not be feeling strong, but I’d be making my plans to get away from him.

precious baby that should say

It's honestly not so bad being a single parent. In fact in many ways it's better. You've got nothing to be upset or disappointed about, and no one to interfere with your childcare.

I’ve been there, they don’t get any better. Leave now while the kids are still young.

He called your baby a fat cunt??? What the actual fuck??

That alone is bad enough. Get the fuck out of there for the sake of your kids.

For gods sake leave

Is this some sort of joke??

I don't care what your mum thinks of him. She could be nuts for all we know. Reread your posts as if your child had written it about their partner. What would YOU advise? Then follow up and DO IT.

Another vote for leave! My ex h made all the right noises about how much he wanted to be a dad, how hands on he’d be, how much he valued family etc etc. when it came down to it he was entirely the opposite.

I finally snapped and left him after putting up with it for a couple of years and can honestly say single parenting is hard, but it’s 100% better than being with someone like him

He wont get any better - he's not truly interested in being a parent.

He called your daughter a fat cunt? And you’re still with him? SMH, please leave. She needs to see abuse from men is not to be tolerated

Jesus bloody Christ! What a horrible horrible pig. I could never stay with someone who spoke about my son like that. Echo others, best to leave now while the children are still going.

Young not going.

Sweetheart ,you deserve so much better than this .
Do you have a friend you can confide in who could support you .
I am not one who would suggest splitting up a family for minor reasons .
You are in a dreadful situation and you will thrive on your own with your lovely children and this piece of crap gone .
How dare he treat you all like this .
If I was your mum I would come round and throw him out myself !

Oh come on.

You do what's best for your kids.

He sounds dog-rough. Please get your little family away from him.