Nursery worker tapped daughter

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Hi all

i want to know if i'm overreacting. When i picked up my toddler (16months) just now, the nursery worker was telling me about her day and said that she has started to be more confident, sometimes going up to other children and tapping their head. Which of course i was worried about but when she told me that, she basically demonstrated and tapped my DD's head! whilst i was carrying her. DD immediately just leant against my chest for a cuddle.

I WISHED i had said something then. I should have I know, i don't know why i didn't i think I was just shocked. Am i overreacting here? My husband says yes because she didn't mean to cause any harm. I am thinking of speaking to the nursery worker tomorrow morning but it just makes me upset that they actually think this is ok? I'm a FTM.

Hi all
@Oblomov22 - I wouldn't like it either! But goodness she is 16 months old. She doesn't understand if I tell her not to do something after the event happens. At that time maybe but certainly not after the event. I will keep a lookout but it hasn't happened under my watch so far, probably because she is in nursery most days and she only just started walking.

@LuciferRising , I said tap in my OP and when someone asked whether it was a gentle tap or lightly hit, I said it's the latter, as to me a gentle tap wouldn't make a sound.

Anyways I spoke to the nursery worker,asked her what they do when DD goes to other children and she said they use 'kind hands' etc. At this point I just said that yesterday when you tap/lightly hit her on the head, she didn't like it and not to do it again. She reiterated her being more confident,said she was very happy, ate well etc. At this point I felt I was comfortable it was a once off and I am going to keep an eye on things and leave it at that.

That’s a good resolution to it - and remember, you did the right thing for you and your DD. Others may choose to take a different approach to someone tapping their toddler on the head, but that’s their choice.

@SirChenjins thank you, I have to say I often second-guess myself since having DD, not quite my usual character.

Have a good Christmas all

Sounds like they are not classing the tapping as something bad from either him or them.I don't think it is worth worrying about but it's the kind of thing I'd have worried about back then. It sounds like it's that you are not comfortable with it rather than it being a problem for your child.

To put things into perspective you should have heard the thud noise tonight when my son slipped backwards in my arms against the solid wood bed frame corner! And he was ok. Once I apologised and then he finished crying😌

I still remember the first time he fell over and scraped his hands, knees etc, then the childminder basically said, You'd better get used to it!
Take care.