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When did you let your parents/siblings visit your newborn

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wintersun21 · 13/12/2022 15:38

When you had your child, how long did you wait for parents/in laws/siblings to meet them?

Can't see any NHS guidance on this one

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wintersun21 · 19/12/2022 07:00

Wisterialane1234 · 13/12/2022 21:25

Depends on the relationships with various family members.
Most friends of mine have had a 1-2 week rule unless they're feeling up to it. Essentially, all of them had visitors in this period but through choice and knowing Mum was up to it rather than just agreeing to what family members wanted before the birth (if that makes sense). Not everyone (especially introverts) want family visiting so soon and prefer the first couple of weeks to be private. On the other hand, some people love to have people over.
I also think caution should be around RSV, colds, germs. A lot of people don't think about how ill a baby can get from being passed around. I also think a lot of pressure is on new mums to put on a brave face when actually all she wants is privacy.
Our Baby number 2 was in covid, it was actually a blessing as we managed to control visits, but simultaneously sad as PILs couldn't come for months.
Is this you setting boundaries for your own baby or because you want to visit a new baby? Just asking out of curiosity.

Thanks for your comment 😊 this is for myself. The plan was to let parents see our child ASAP - no issues with that one at all.

I have a big family and was just worried about a new born picking something up like you mentioned if we let too many people see the baby at once. Also as an introvert I don't know what I'd feel up to and don't want to over promise anything.

We've still got a while and our hospital has Covid protocols so likely family won't be able to see the baby until we're home anyway.

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wintersun21 · 19/12/2022 07:01

Th as now for all the comments everyone 😊 very helpful

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Jellyjam36 · 19/12/2022 09:33

I'm pretty introverted and also knew I wouldn't want loads of people in first couple of weeks, you do what you want to do. My cautionary tale is a friend of DH who had about 10 different people visit them in first 5 days, they all got covid and very sick. Not saying that is common, but even if baby doesn't get ill you 100% do not want to get sick a week after giving birth!

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ToddleToddleToddle · 19/12/2022 16:39

Why do you need NHS guidance for this question?

We stopped at my parents on the way home from the hospital

VioletCharlotte · 19/12/2022 16:57

When I had DS1, both sets of parents, my grandparents, exDPs 3 sisters, my brother, 2 friends, 4 work colleagues and some random mates of ex DPs all rocked up randomly at the hospital. It never occurred to me to mind! (I was quite young though 🤣)

Looking back, I think it's lovely for parents and siblings to be able to see the baby as soon as you feel well enough, I'm sure they're all really excited. But have boundaries in place though, get DP to make sure no one outstays their welcome and don't feel you have to host.

Yorkshiremum22 · 20/12/2022 16:11

We waited around a week before we allowed visitors and having time just the three of us was blissful! I think we’d have waited longer if I’d have still been breastfeeding at that point.

I had a c section and had terrible gas for about two weeks after and holding it in while we had visitors was very uncomfortable. If we have another, we’d leave it two weeks before having people round. We did do video calls once we were home though.

Parker231 · 20/12/2022 16:15

No guidance needed - both sets of new grandparents got on a plane as soon as we told them that I’d gone into labour.

strawberrysummer19 · 20/12/2022 16:16

Grandparents same day same as siblings

Asap for us

DemelzaandRoss · 23/05/2023 18:53

Straight away. The more the merrier!
Didn’t particularly worry about colds etc as siblings ill all the time anyway. Just go with the flow & don’t overthink.

Enko · 23/05/2023 22:35

Fil and mil met them all within 24 hours . My family is abroad so waited longer.

My friend met dd2 when she was 3 hours old. She had looked after dd1 as I was giving birth. Its one of my most favourite memories her sitting with dd2 in her arms and suddenly she said "this is only the 2nd time I've held a 3 hour old baby" (first was her son)

For ds and dd3 I had a friend present for birth support so they Met then within minutes.

UsingChangeofName · 23/05/2023 22:53

Same day as they were born, in hospital, for each of mine.

CoalCraft · 24/05/2023 05:35

As soon as they were home from hospital. With #2 the in-laws were already at home when we got there as they were looking after #1

Ruibies · 24/05/2023 09:54

My mum came to the hospital as she'd been dogsitting, so he was about 4h old. He was born on a Thursday, we were sent home on Friday. BIl and SIL came Saturday, PILs came Sunday. Monday we went to the pub with friends. My parents and brothers came the following Saturday. I thought I'd want peace and privacy but actually I was just buzzing to show him off to everyone.

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