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When did you let your parents/siblings visit your newborn

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wintersun21 · 13/12/2022 15:38

When you had your child, how long did you wait for parents/in laws/siblings to meet them?

Can't see any NHS guidance on this one

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mrsm43s · 13/12/2022 16:32

As soon as they could. I can't see any reason at all to be making restrictions.

TheRookieMum · 13/12/2022 16:33

Do what works for you and don't feel guilty about it. You and baby need to recover after birth so decide if visitors will be a help or hindrance. Invite visitors on your and baby's schedule, not theirs and kick them out when you need to.

I first invited family over when DS was 5 days old and made it clear before they came that it would be a short visit only and that baby would not be woken specially.

Visits are still planned in advance (DS is near 3mo) which works for me. Do what works for you & baby, not others.

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 13/12/2022 16:34

My eldest was at the birth of youngest (a very small moment for me). She was born early evening and I was rushed to intensive care due to PPH. Both nannas came the next day to the hospital along with my eldest and her partner.

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Jagley · 13/12/2022 16:36

Mum and exs mum were in the room when I delivered (home birth) my dad, nan and step mum came round about an hour later.

MammaWeasel · 13/12/2022 16:37

The evening they were born, of course! Everyone was so excited, how could I deny them their share of joy? One of mine was in scbu, both were sections.

darjeelingrose · 13/12/2022 16:43

MammaWeasel · 13/12/2022 16:37

The evening they were born, of course! Everyone was so excited, how could I deny them their share of joy? One of mine was in scbu, both were sections.

Your "of course" is really weird, why is there an "of course"? Not everybody has family round the corner available at the drop of a hat. Fortunately I had my best friend.
So for parents etc
Five weeks old because we don't live in the same country and they are not lunatics who needed to dash over.
Following day with younger one because they were looking after older one.

AWaferThinMint · 13/12/2022 16:46

As soon as possible. My mum was there within 30mins of the second being born.

Ringmaster27 · 13/12/2022 16:50

My parents came to evening visiting at the hospital when DC1 was about 8 hours old.
Mum was in the house when DC2 was born (home birth), and I started yelling for her when he was literally seconds old 😂
My parents were en route to my
house when DC3 was born (another home birth) but the baby arrived before they did. So she was about an hour old when they met her.
I’m very close to my parents so was fine with them coming that early. But all other visitors were at least a week later.

MolesOnPoles · 13/12/2022 16:50

My parents, the next morning. PIL, as soon as we were out of hospital (day 3). Loved showing DD off!

mondaytosunday · 13/12/2022 16:52

My parents visited the baby in the hospital and we had a bunch of visitors the day after we arrived home, and we went out the following to a restaurant for lunch. I had a section but was keen to get out and about!

MajorCarolDanvers · 13/12/2022 16:53

Can't see any NHS guidance on this one

There is no need for guidance its a decision you make yourself based on your personal preferences.

Its a wonderful moment.

First baby - everyone met him the next day in the hospital.

Second baby - was in the special care baby unit so only met her brother and one GP after a week and then everyone else when we got home after 2 weeks. Otherwise we would have done the same as first baby.

saturdaymorningbored · 13/12/2022 16:53

In the hospital with both. My DS was about 4 hrs old and my DD about 6 hours

WeWereInParis · 13/12/2022 16:59

Why would there be NHS guidance? My in laws met DD1 the day after she was born, and DD2 two days after as we had to stay in hospital for 2 nights.
My parents met them both a few days after they were born.

queenatom · 13/12/2022 17:02

My parents came a week after he was born but only because that was the earliest they could arrange flights for. MIL I can't quite remember, maybe 3 - 4 days after he was born? No need to wait if you don't want to!

CMOTDibbler · 13/12/2022 17:05

For various reasons none of our families came to visit during the week ds was in hospital after he was born, and tbh I found it super sad. My colleagues came the day after he was born which was lovely, but not quite the same. So I'd say as soon as possible

ForgottenNurseryRhymes · 13/12/2022 17:06

I think how you feel is guidance enough, take it day by day after the baby is here and don't let anyone pressure you into visits until you're ready.

maddiemookins16mum · 13/12/2022 17:07

MIL - within 2 hours (her face when she first held DD, it was utter joy). I’ll never forget though that as she came into the room, she hugged DH and then came straight to me, held me and said ‘oh you clever, wonderful girl (I let her off this wording), I’m so very proud of you’.
She is the best MIL/Granny ever. I adore her.

ChristmasCakeAndStilton · 13/12/2022 17:08

Mum and Dad came up when DC1 was a couple of days old.
PiL met him at about 9 months.

Mum met DC2 around 10mins old. Can't remember when Dad or PiL met him.

ForgottenNurseryRhymes · 13/12/2022 17:08

Doubt it will be in hospital though, as unless issues with baby you'll be out within 2-12 hours

SheWoreYellow · 13/12/2022 17:08

Whenever you want, is the right time.

Is your baby premature and you’ve been told to be careful?

Hugasauras · 13/12/2022 17:10

In the hospital both times as had a section and was in 24 hours. They are two of of my best memories seeing my mum meeting her new granddaughters 🥰 Second time round DD1 came in too to see her new baby sister.

ladywithnomanors · 13/12/2022 17:10

I was abroad at the time so they didnt see my Dc for a couple of weeks.
Do what feels right for you but i would avoid playing 'pass the parcel' with the baby in the first few weeks especially with kids that aren't siblings. It's RSV season so anyone with a cold should stay away.

Reugny · 13/12/2022 17:11

One of my SILs who use to work on maternity wards saw me in hospital. The rest came when I was at home in the evening. The ones who didn't come during the first week or so were ill, including having colds, as they didn't want to give it to my DD.

Blixem · 13/12/2022 17:14

DD was born at 7.30pm so everyone had to wait until the next day to see her. My sister works at the hospital so she came in outside of visiting hours in the morning and my parents came as soon as visitors were allowed at 2pm and my brother came after them. PILs were away at the time so came when we came home. I couldn't wait to see family and for DD to meet them.

With my DNiece, my sister wanted us there ASAP, and one of the midwives is a family member so she took my parents and I into the delivery room as soon as DD was born. My sister had me dress DN for her and also passed her straight to me for the first nappy change!

BertieBotts · 13/12/2022 17:17

Is this a covid related question? I would have been overjoyed to have them there ASAP. There's no minimum age.

As it was, my mum was at DC1's birth and I think the fourth ever person to hold him (after me, XP, the midwife). My dad came to see me in hospital later that day. Went home the same day, in-laws came round that evening for an hour (that one I could have done without, but I was happy that they wanted to be there). I think my sister must have come a couple of days later, I don't remember TBH

DS2 and 3 we lived abroad. DS2, SIL and BIL came to visit (staying in their own place) around the due date, but he was a week early, so they met him at about 3-4 days old. Everyone else had to wait until we visited for Christmas when he was 4 months old.

DS3 was also born abroad and during covid so nobody flew out to see us. We finally went home when he was 10 months old so everyone met him then for the first time. In fact he didn't meet anyone outside of our immediate family until he was about 6 weeks old.

I would have loved for everyone to meet DS2 and DS3 sooner. There is nothing like a brand new newborn.

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