When did you let your parents/siblings visit your newborn

[wintersun21]

When you had your child, how long did you wait for parents/in laws/siblings to meet them?

Can't see any NHS guidance on this one

In the delivery suite! And in laws! They left us alone then for a few days

NHS guidance for meeting a baby😂

PFB threads are so funny.

My parents almost immediately and my in laws a few days later (they were both working so had to wait for the weekend and not local otherwise it would probably have been the next day).

In hospital with baby one. Baby two MIL was working at the hospital so she came for a quick visit when her shift finished. Baby was 2 hrs old. Everyone else as soon as we were home (visitors werent allowed). They left us alone for a few days after that 🥰 see how you feel at the time. You'll likely be excited if all is well and be dying for everyone to meet your beautiful new baby

My DM was with me in labour. Both siblings and my DF visited me and held DS in hospital that day.

11 year old DSis didn't want to go to school when she heard I was in labour that morning, my DM picked her up and brought her to the hospital straight from school. I have a picture of her holding DS in her school uniform ❤.

Within a few hours of being born. It was lovely to be reminded we had such loving family around us.

My parents, in laws, siblings and friends met all 4 of my dc within the first 24 hours of birth. I met 2 of my gc as they left the womb.

Why are you asking about NHS guidelines OP?

As soon as they were able to visit at hospital with ds1 , home ds2 as nit in hospital long

My mum - same day in hospital
DH's mum, siblings, extended family and friends was over the next 2 weeks, we had 1 set of visitors pretty much every day

Same day!

When they were born. I tend to see my family most days and wasn't going to set up a formal visiting system like I was the Queen just because I gave birth.

They met him when I did!

I had an EMS and other than me seeing him when he was born I met him on the ward a few hours later and we were all there!

His poor dad didn't even know he had been born until about half hour after either!
They couldn't find him to tell him I was going in for EMS. He was sat in hospital cafe with his and my parents so they all found out together!

NHS guidance?! My friends came to visit in the hospital a few hours after she was born, it was such a special moment.

My father, about two weeks after I gave birth. My mother 2-3 months later.

The NHS has instructions?

Parents in hospital on the day after she was born. They were on their way the evening before but we were kept in recovery and not allowed visitors. DSC in hospital the day after. Siblings don’t live nearby but came when they could within a week or two.

We’re all different but I was extremely proud of having made a baby and was keen to show her off to anyone and everyone who wanted to see her and tell me how gorgeous she was and how clever I was 😂

I loved having visitors but we know people who are thoughtful, helpful and don’t overstay. People brought food or made us drinks and we wanted them to cuddle her and count her tiny fingers. It was a happy time.

You want the government to give you guidance on when your parents should meet their grandchild?

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They came the hospital to visit, that's normal for all my friends and family too. We did ask for first 24 hrs at home to be visitor free so I could shower and rest.

Do we need the government to give guidance on everything now?

My lovely parents were there in the hospital. Drove me there. Held my son about an hour after he was born. Was absolutely lovely.

If you don't want to see them just say. No need to hide behind guidelines

You'll get lots of answers (some mean) but I think for you the only thing you need to know is do it when you're ready OP.

If that's 30 mins, 30 hours or 30 days it's up to you and how you're feeling.

It's good to think about it in advance but be warned you might change your mind or feel pressured to have people visit.

Hospital visiting is actually better than home in lots of ways as they can't stay long, can't make themselves comfy and don't expect to be waited on.

I've noticed that lots tend to do intros really quickly for first babies but wait longer for next ones. I know some friends and family who have regretted having lots of visitors in that early period and realized they actually wanted time alone to recover and get to know their baby.

Friends of mine were really cagey about the due date of no 2 and didn't tell anyone but the babysitter that she was in labour and they said it was brilliant to be left alone and make an announcement when they were ready.

Whenever you're ready willing and able!

DC1 was a NICU baby during lockdown so it was longer than I'd have liked before anyone met baby. It upset my parents the most that they weren't able to visit us in hospital because they'd done so with each one of their grandchildren prior. In-laws were about 3weeks after birth, my parents 3.5weeks, one sister about 4w and the other sister 5w. After those first cuddles, noone saw baby until 6-7m old. One of my sister's didn't even cuddle baby until they were 10m!

Depends on the relationships with various family members.
Most friends of mine have had a 1-2 week rule unless they're feeling up to it. Essentially, all of them had visitors in this period but through choice and knowing Mum was up to it rather than just agreeing to what family members wanted before the birth (if that makes sense). Not everyone (especially introverts) want family visiting so soon and prefer the first couple of weeks to be private. On the other hand, some people love to have people over.
I also think caution should be around RSV, colds, germs. A lot of people don't think about how ill a baby can get from being passed around. I also think a lot of pressure is on new mums to put on a brave face when actually all she wants is privacy.
Our Baby number 2 was in covid, it was actually a blessing as we managed to control visits, but simultaneously sad as PILs couldn't come for months.
Is this you setting boundaries for your own baby or because you want to visit a new baby? Just asking out of curiosity.

My youngest (lone parent to her) was in NICU (full term but we both had sepsis). I was hooked up to all sorts, a snotty, sobbing mess and when I called my Grandmother (74 at the time) at 4am (had her around 1am and there was no chance she would be sleeping until she’d had news) to let her know, she asked me if the hospital would let her, if I wanted her to, she would drive down and sit with DD for me. She was, I did and she did.

Nobody else met her for about 9 days, other than my elder daughters) because I was in no fit state to see anyone other than my kids and my Grandmother. But once we were home my house was full of family for days.

My elder two were “met” within hours by (now ex) in laws, my Grandparents and siblings on both sides. But I’d had very easy, fast births.