Supermarket misgendering by 5 yr old

[Mmunatty88]

Hi. I have a 5 year old and today we went to the supermarket for some food. Probably should have re-thought it and gone after lunch but we didn’t and he was pretty tired, hungry tbh generally not well behaved.
so, I am there trying to make the visit as quick as possible and head to the check out. I leave space for people to get by but someone doesn’t notice this and gets in-front of me. I let them know and all is fine.
relise I need a bag and while I’m picking one up, say thanks to the person who rightly gave my space back to me in the Queue. they reply with, ‘he is she!’
Im taken back and ask, ‘sorry-what?’
I am a she not a he and they said ‘he pushed in front of me!’ (speaking about my 5 yr old)

the person is clearly a women, in their 50-60s with a buzz cut and wearing a track suit.

I reply with, ‘oh right ok.’ And take my bags and go.

how should I have handled this?

1. wouldn’t have wanted to make a scene there as that would have further embarrassment for the other customer.
2. it was an honest mistake by a 5 year old who has a sister and has little care for what’s ‘for boys’ and what’s ‘for girls’.

There's no need to shout. We don't all know your inner thoughts. The link between him being hungry and you not apologising is obvious only in your own head.

And no, as you've been told many many times, there was no need to apologise.

Just have a chat with your DS about clothes/haircuts being for everyone and maybe try and broaden his life experience/media consumption so he starts to see evidence of this.

Someone is hoping to be famous by red top stalking... non event 🙄

You should have taught your toddler to at a very minimum ask the stranger in the queue what their/zier/his/her preferred pronouns are before he spoke.

Your toddler engaged in literal violence.

I think you need to educate yourself.

what’s red top stalking?Am I on European mumsnet or American side?

Mentioning supermarket gives the impression it involved the staff. It would have been better to say queue or stranger. The place in this case is actually irrelevant.

Small children frequently get the sexes mixed up. Some adults do too. Ignore it.

No you should not have apologised.
Woman looks and dresses like a bloke (especially to a small child) and then gets upset that a 5 year old thought she was a bloke.
Did she apologise for pushing in?
Maybe it's about time we all stopped pandering to those who dress ambiguously but then take offence because the rest of the population are not mind readers and don't actually know what they are supposed to be today.

Kids gonna be kids.

Horrible post.

Ambiguously?

Have you never seen a woman in a tracksuit before?

You reuse that there are occasions that people have to shave their hair and it’s not always out of choice? and where I live, which I am now thinking it’s across the big pond from most on here.. tracksuits on women isn’t unusual attire.

Realise

Yup

Drunk

My DD asked me very loudly if a cashier was a man or a woman once. Ground swallow me now, was my first thought. The cashier I have to say didn’t care at all, she had kids herself. I don’t think you should worry about it. Children say stuff, so what, the other person who pointed out your child’s mistake was being unnecessary IMO.

I thought this was written in sarcasm at first... but I suspect you're actually serious...

"Literal violence"?.. from a 5 year old..?

That one is clearly in response to the quite unpleasant post a few posts up. If you don't understand that one, you've maybe not read all the thread?

Thankyou Nuffsaid. Those two posters are driving me around the bend

Op I have a visible disability and a kid on a train once made a silly innocent comment about it but I realise she’s a kid, they can say silly things. I smiled at her and her mum and just said my legs don’t work due to an illness. Kids are always going to say direct things. As long as parents aren’t letting them go on and on etc.

the way i deal with these people is think back to roy walker and old catchphrase "say what you see"

No @PinotPony definitely sarcasm

Oh for gods sake its clearly a joke.

Now ruined by people not getting it and others having to explain it.

5 year olds gets lots of things wrong - pronouns should not be a major drama. If an adult has a problem with a child getting this wrong then the issue is not solely about their perceived gender but more of a power trip.

Oh for gods sake its clearly a joke

Just like the OP then

i got completely lambasted a few weeks ago, for a not dissimilar post. I was accused multiple times of “making the post up”. 🙄

You will almost never get a sensible, non judgemental response, with this topic (and many others) in mind.

Ive found recently that there are more posters wanting to troll hunt / or quite frankly reply with abuse, rather than actually give supportive advice.

As you did.