Supermarket misgendering by 5 yr old

[Mmunatty88]

Hi. I have a 5 year old and today we went to the supermarket for some food. Probably should have re-thought it and gone after lunch but we didn’t and he was pretty tired, hungry tbh generally not well behaved.
so, I am there trying to make the visit as quick as possible and head to the check out. I leave space for people to get by but someone doesn’t notice this and gets in-front of me. I let them know and all is fine.
relise I need a bag and while I’m picking one up, say thanks to the person who rightly gave my space back to me in the Queue. they reply with, ‘he is she!’
Im taken back and ask, ‘sorry-what?’
I am a she not a he and they said ‘he pushed in front of me!’ (speaking about my 5 yr old)

the person is clearly a women, in their 50-60s with a buzz cut and wearing a track suit.

I reply with, ‘oh right ok.’ And take my bags and go.

how should I have handled this?

1. wouldn’t have wanted to make a scene there as that would have further embarrassment for the other customer.
2. it was an honest mistake by a 5 year old who has a sister and has little care for what’s ‘for boys’ and what’s ‘for girls’.

It doesnt at all

It says, Supermarket misgendering by 5 year old

So a misgendering incident took place caused by a 5 year old in a supermarket

Which is why you should never send your 5 year old down the shops on their own, who knows what social faux pas they may make

Not very easy to follow.

You also said the woman called your DC “they”… that could be mis-gendering too, so I think you’re even.

Do you mean you want to discuss it with your child?

If so just have a chat about how men and women can have any hair they like and wear all sorts of clothes and enjoy whatever they want in their spare time and do any job and it's having a penis or a vagina that makes a person a man or a woman.

So its nothing to do with the supermarket then. What a terrible title.

Non event. Move on.

If your kid is hungry don't take them shopping. Kid is 5 so you know this by now. Bags are at checkout so not sure why you had to leave the queue?

Thanks for your replies. This was directed towards the person who basically said it’s in the past now there’s nothing to be done. 🙄

He's a little boy
Just forget it

even though he was intentionally trying to upset anyone.

Obviously, you mean the exact opposite of that.

Well it happened in the supermarket so yes, its relevant

The title is clear, if a little tabloidy.

If you understand tabloid headlines then it makes sense

I suspect a lot of people misread it and thought it was 'Supermarket misgendering MY 5yr old'

Thats not what OP said

Well there isnt anything to be done

What are you rolling your eyes for?

I didn’t leave the queue.

the person cut in-front of me while I left a gap for people walking across.

not entirely sure why people are so pent up on the details.

I do know I shouldn’t go to the shop with a hungry kid. But as you seem interested :) I don’t drive and my OH work about 55+ hrs a week and we have little hep otherwise. Getting out can be hard so if I’m going past the food shop and I need something.. then it’s there and then it has to be.

I would have said.. 'that's nice. My child is also 5.' Then left it at that.

and that is my reminder not to go on mumsnet for another 6 years. Why do you enjoy trying to pick at people? It’s a little strange

Really don't understand why you're making this into an issue, OP. It's an absolute non-event. Are you suggesting you need to discuss it further with your DS? I can't see why...

I'm so confused. How are other people understanding this?

Tbh I think the fact he was hungry is the least relevant detail of all. Unless he regularly misgenders (or mis-sexes?) people when hungry?

and FYI if it was a tabloid title, it would have worked as it got you reading.

You wrote quite a confused and hard to follow OP, so people dont know what happened and your follow up responses dont clarify anything and are quite bizarre in themselves.

So yes, people are asking the details so they can reply to you, you know the post you posted on an internet forum so that people could discuss the situation?

Misgendering is a known side effect of tummy rumbles.

HE WAS HUNGRY SO I WAS IN A RUSH BUT SHOULD I HAVE JUST TAKEN A STEP BACK AND APOLOGISED ON HIS BEHALF???

I need you to acknowledge that your OP is written so badly that it is totally nonsensical

Op you could use this as a starting point for a chat about how people dress and act differently etc.

My DS has done it a few times when he's seen a lady with short hair or a gent with long hair. If he misgenders them, I just correct him. If he then asks why they have long/short hair I just ask him why he has short hair. It's my go to for most things (why does he have brown skin, why does she have red hair, why is she so tall, why is he so small etc). He usually answers that he just does so I tend to shrug and say well so do they. Seems to work.

Seriously read your OP back, how can you possibly think that makes ANY sense. Are you drunk?

Regularsizedrudy. why are you trying to so offensive? check yourself out

Your little boy saw an unfeminine woman and assumed she was a man . The woman then corrected him to say she was a she .
Little children say what they see , no malice is intended and I agree you just say oh ok sorry and carry on which is exactly what I would have done.