I've got a drunk and puking 15 yet old, what do I do?

[treesandweeds]

First time this has happened, she's nicked rum and drunk it without us knowing. She's vomited all over her bed.
I can't get out of her how much she's had, she's acting sleepy but that could be cos she tired. She's been sick about 3 times.
What do I do?

How is she today @treesandweeds

Yeah great idea that. Teach her that if she ever makes a mistake or is in trouble, munis the last one she can call.
the clearing up part is ok

Coming at this from an alternative angle but I really, really wouldn't bollock her or punish her. She's fifteen years old and her Father has encouraged her to drink. Be that one of five, he encouraged it. It tastes nice - rum does - and she's had one and clearly thought 'Oh this is fine!'

She has no idea about tolerance or limitations, alcohol is a very precarious balance and he needs to understand how harmful it can be. Give her appropriate consequences about taking the rum but seriously, seriously educate her on how to look after herself when drinking.

Let's be honest, who here wasn't going out at a weekend at 15/16 and getting drunk with their mates? Very few of us. My Mum was very strict with alcohol and I knew I couldn't go home. The few times I did she would shout, take my phone off me, refuse to let me have friends around so I just didn't go home. I was a 'messy drunk' and was into my early twenties. Why? Because no one taught me the signs to look out for, no one taught me how to pace myself etc.

She'll feel as sick as a dog today, leave her be. Express how naive she's been and say you'll talk about this when she's fully sobered up. Then say how disappointed you are for her stealing the alcohol and that she really, really scared you. Take coke and then a show her how strong a drink should be, then explain to her how many drinks are too many.

Talk to her about the strengths etc and reiterate WHOLEHEARTEDLY that no matter what situation she is in, what she has does, who she is with or where she is that she cannot ring you to come and collect her and bring her home. Don't stop her from going to London - what would that achieve? Treat her like an adult and see how you get on. She may learn from this.

Not necessarily mine ended up with an ambulance being called heart arrythmia two days later I was terrified. No signs of a hangover isn't always a good sign

This. I wouldn't ground but talk to them when they're sober again. You can die from alcohol poisoning

Being🤢 is punishment enough! Actually not such a bad thing, mum to three here who allowed my sons to drink a small amount at home from about 14 as I'd rather they learnt the effects of it in a safe environment. My youngest had a little too much one Sunday and honestly didn't drink again for 10 years, so I knew when out with friends he was safe............ Until they went to Amsterdam and he finished off everybodies special brownies........... He won't be doing that again either🤢🤢🤢😂

This was me on my first “night out.” I think I was around 15. My dad waited up for me to come home, when I did I went to bed and threw up all over it. I still remember him changing my bed sheets for me 😏

I think that outside mumsnet that's what dad's are like. OH used to wait up for our girls even after they went off to UNI, if they came home and went out he waited. We only had girls so don't know if he'd have waited for a son, but for the girls he was a big softie.

Outside Mumsnet?

Make sure she sips the water, not great gulps- helps avoid more sick. And if she can clean her teeth it will help her feel less nauseous.

My OH has dealt with the drunks here always. One son collapsed on the floor I wasn't strong enough to carry him so OH did. Other son was sick in his car made an awful mess he carried him into the shower, he and other son stayed with him as he sat in the bath shower water running over him.

There's a video his brother is going to produce on his Stag night when he marries 😂😂

Exactly, plus you said he wanted her to have a cocktail on holiday - why is he so keen for her to drink? What's his motivation?

I'd understand if it were her own curiosity, we've all been there, but it sounds like he's the one putting the idea into her head in the first place.

Echoing the sentiments of another poster... being sick is the punishment! But as they say, mistakes are teachers. This is a great opportunity to teach your DD how to enjoy drinking as opposed to sleeping in one's own vomit. Teach her not to go out Jimi Hendrix style (I say this sincerely! I lost two mates this way... I'm 50 now but this was in our youth/uni days... every drinking youth needs to know the risk of aspiration). Don't mix drinks, all of that (sorry, I don't want to turn this into Eddie Izzard's Letter to the Corinthians (never put a sock in the toaster/never put jam on a magnet/never throw your granny in a bag).
I know she didn't mix drinks here, but giving your DD some lessons from the how to drink sensibly 101 handbook is probably the best thing you could do. Also, OH needs to know that his teenager is not his new drinking buddy. A swift nope to that one.

When we were moving house boxed up lots of bottles of booze we had been given over the years. Offered them to sons now men who laughed and said Mum we watered those down years ago 🙈

Give her little sips frequently. She could also have an ice lolly or something like that if you've got one for some.fluid intake and it might help with the nausea.

Oh she might. When I did the same on wine at 15 I felt like death the next day. Horrendous.

Thanks for all the advice. We've had a nice calm chat about what happened, it was a mistake she made, we've all made them, and hopefully she'll learn from it. I told her I'll always come and get her if she gets drunk again and talked about situations she might find herself in and the danger if she's not around people she trusts.
She's said she doesn't want to drink again as she hated being sick. I've told her I'm disappointed she stole the drink and I'll be a bit mistrustful of her but I've not given her a punishment. She changed her own own sheets and cleaned the carpet.

Thank for all your advice!

Sounds like a great result and that you handled it perfectly.