Just slapped my daughter across the face..

[emilytankengine]

..and I feel like the worlds worst mother. I just completely lost it with her because to be honest she's been a complete bitch for a few months now (she's 11 so probably teenage hormones).

But before we had a huge row over her treatment of her younger sister and she spat at me and shoved 2 fingers up to me . I know I was wrong to hit her but really don't see why I should put up with being spat at.

She has been awful towards her sister in particular. DD2 was diagnosed diabetic a few months ago and things have been hard enough for her without DD1 upsetting her as this affects her blood sugar levels and it's me who has to deal with that. I don't understand why she is so spiteful given what DD2 has to go through, she doesn't know she is born.

DD1 is in her bedroom banging round while DS (aged 2) is in bed! I'll be so if she wakes him!

At the end of my tether tonight

I offered her a test first thing this morning, she declined

I think she may have got bored of it as her health from what I've seen seems fine.

The only time she kicked off tonight was when she overheard me talking on the phone saying that I hope Danni didn't get this norovirus! Big huffs alround from Stephi accusing me of saying I didn't care if she got it! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH

But I do feel things have been much better this week

I know exactly how you feel! My children are much younger and 4 1/2 and 7, but DS2 has cerebral palsy, and like diabetes - it is a lifelong condition (btw, I have diabetes, so if you ever have any questions or need support, give me a shout!) I fully admit that DS1 doesn't get anywhere near as much attention as he should, but unfortunately, DS2 is far more demanding - because it has to be that way. I have NO choice in the matter, It annoys me how people with 'ordinary' children advise on how to cope, but they have no idea how a disability or condition impacts upon family life! Don't beat yourself up about it - I would have done exactly the same in your shoes. FGS you're stressed enough as it is without adding more to the situation. Sit down with your daughter and explain why you did it - that spitting and treating you in that way is completely unacceptable. Also explain how you feel about you other child (the one who is diabetic). Does your 11 year old realise that its a lifelong condition and how it will affect your daughters life? i think if you are calm and explain how you are feeling, that your 11 year old will respect you more and maybe even try to help. Could you make her feel more 'part' of the diabetes in any way. eg. test her blood sugar levels as well as your daughters, or practise 'injections' on an orange? I am sure she will soon get bored (especially of pricking her finger) and realise what her sister has to go through for the rest of her life. I am sure it will make her much more compassionate in the long run. Goodm luck