HELP!!!! Child protection Plan after false allegations of DV

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I have another post regrading my partner who i am unable to have contact with as i accused him of DV. I know how serious DV is but not to make excuses I am heavily pregnant and had a moment of madness where i called the police and accused him of something that didnt happen.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/legal_matters/4578636-can-cps-police-charge-without-a-victim-statement

I had ICPC meeting today and although i have held my hands up and tried to explain that i wrongly accused him to punish him (not fair i know but i am being honest now) they have still decided to put my unborn on Child Protection Plan. OH is on bail so i cannot contact him and probably wont speak for few more weeks.

I was given the report from Social services in advance but i was never provided with the reports from midwife, police, school, health professional. I have now requested these as i want to appeal the CPP. I am more than happy to engage with theeir services but i really feel a CPP is unnecessary as unborn is planned and not at risk. No previous cases either side.

How do i appeal to reduce to Child in Need or for them to close the case as i have admitted to police also the reasons behind my allegations (childish i know but i have learnt from this)?

Also the decision for CPP seems like it was already made before the meeting because the midwife who i have met once for 5 mins (newly assigned to me) made a decision a CPP is best because of DV but she doesn't know the history and is basing her recommendation of a report from others.

There was no DV in our relationship and i am very ashamed that i said there was but punishing my unborn and OH for my mistakes is unfair.

any advice?

Please please cooperate with them and look at getting extra help.

how is your older DC coping?

If I was your partner I would want to take my children and keep them very far away from someone like you who lies to the police about such serious matters.

True but she is coming across a bit unhinged isn't there a pregnancy psychosis disorder?

The clue is literally in the name. It’s a child protection plan, to protect your child, potentially from you.
You seem more concerned with the Unvorn child being on the child protection register, not your child who is already born.
This concerns me too.

To be fair they are not wrong, abuse is happening in your house. Either your partner to you and you are now trying to backtrack and say it’s not or you to your partner where you are falsely accusing him of dv to get your own back about something. It isn’t a healthy house for a baby either way.

You will need to work with them to reduce to CIN. They won't just take you off CP because you say what you said is false. Saying what you said is serious, if you said it falsely that is worrying in itself.

Work with SS and they will close the case if there is no concerns.

From their perspective either you are lying about making up the charge and covering up domestic violence or you are someone who makes up domestic violence charges. Both scenarios warrant a CPP.

if you want social services out of your life sooner than later, then stay away from the babies father, work whatever program social services offers, and work on making yourself a strong, reliable mother.

Either way it is right that they are involved. You clearly need help. You fabricated abuse, which is a sick, vile and dangerous thing to do. Your child does need protection as you are clearly unstable. You poor ex may miss out on a lot of your child's firsts because you made up a vicious lie.

I've just read your other post.

I cannot comprehend this level of evil. The extent you went to to lie. Showing pictures of psoriasis is very calculated. He could very well go to prison. Many genuine victims backtrack because they are terrified. This is why the cps can prosecute on their own.

If SSD received a referral from police (they are automatic in the circumstances you talk about) about a DV incident (with two people they had never been called out to before) where the woman was attacked by her husband, she called the police, she provided information to the police and now the perpetrator is on remand or bailed to a different address it wouldnt automatically go to a CP conference.

It would be subject to an initial assessment and out of that assessment would be a decision whether to hold a strategy discussion between SSD other agencies and police. Out of that they would decide whether it should go to a CP conference.

If during the initial assessment, it was clear that A) the victim had made it up or B) the victim was complying with safeguards to keep the baby safe then its not likely the case would move to CP, however there would be concerns about how unstable someone would be to make it up

Sometimes a referral comes in from the police to hold a strategy discussion straight away, without assessing first but thats usually where there are children in the household and its thought they need a discussion straight away due to the urgency and/or the police have removed the children there and then.

Therefore they either dont believe you, or they are worried about you being so emotionally unstable that you need to attend to your emotional/mental health in order to be a safe mum. You're wasting energy on talking about appeals and focusing on paperwork, often the reports from other agencies arrive just before the meeting starts.

Does your partner want to be in a relationship with you op?

As a result of your allegations and the evidence you provided, he is on bail and any contact he has with his unborn child will be through a contact centre.

For his sake, you cannot resume a relationship. You have seriously fucked up his life and if he is innocent (as you now claim), he must be destroyed by what you've done.

Just to add to that, that the other reason why they may have moved to CP conference is that there are other issues in terms of your and his functioning which could put baby at risk.

What did the initial assessment say about your capacity and abilities? What was his response as he should have also been spoken to as part of the assessment and CP conference report?

You have made 3 threads today not 2 and I have read them all.

You do need help and your accusations can have a serious effect on your DP.

Hi OP, you've created 3 threads with the same information and it's causing confusion. So MNetters know where to offer their support, we're going to lock this and your first thread so you can continue to get support in your most recent thread.

Haven’t read your other threads but unborns or children are not put on a CPP for a one off isolated false allegation. Only the panel have the full picture and hopefully will protect your children. Denial, disguised compliance and lack of insight are all taken into consideration.

what are they asking you to do?