Anyone else hate school gate mums

[irishmumto4]

Hi, there's one mum in particular on the school run that is just so enthusiastic and involved in everything.. she does my head in! Constantly arranging play dates for her daughter with a different child every time.. it's like she wants her daughter to have allll the friends. Then when her daughter inevitably falls out with one of her mates she's whispering to other parents about said child. Just so irritating.. are there mums like these everywhere? What's the worst school mum story you have?

Purpleboy... most things that annoy us are none of our business. It's human nature. Thanks though, top tip

There are so many people there that surely if someone was irritating then you you just move away? I've made some good friends through my kids' school. I'm lucky in that my job allows me to do the majority of school runs and have got to kmow people through occasional chats.

There are annoying people in all walks of life but you can just stand back and leave them to it.

@bumpermom why do you care about who these mums talk to? I know you say you're far too busy and important to care but you've clearly noticed and cared enough for it to be more than a passing thought?

Oh do go away

Down side of the pandemic is that after wearing a mask for do long my resting bitch face is a permanent fixture that I forget to alter

You sound weird and creepy, lurking about listening into other people’s conversations. Try minding your own business.

I'll get a job when you pay for after school care for one child with disabilities and all day care for toddlers. If do it, but I'm just gobby and lazy

Weird and creepy 😂 I would have to close my eyes and cover my ears not to notice it.

😂😂

No I don't hate women who smile, or are cheerful, or who arrange activities for their kids.

I don't hate women who keep their heads down and collect their kids either.

Don't even hate the ones brimming with spite. No need, we just happen to be in the same place for 15 minutes on an almost daily basis. I'm not there for a relationship.

I'm probably a bit smiley, it's not that I find the school drop off exciting but I enjoy my life and I'm happy.

Surely smiling is a good thing.

because as I'm walking past themslowly so I can eavesdropp I see them, you know with my eyes😂 and when I'm driving away and staring at them out of my mirror I see them stood around.. again with my eyes. Hilarious despite how terribly busy and superior I am.

Ah your crackers. Given me a laugh though

Work through that, honestly you'll feel so much better for it. Anger is not a good emotion to harbor, especially when you appear to have no control over it.
As I said to get annoyed by someone else's actions that don't affect you in any way is not rational.

I'm probably a bit smiley, it's not that I find the school drop off exciting but I enjoy my life and I'm happy.

Surely smiling is a good thing.

That's good if it's a genuine and open smile. What I find frightening are the fake smiles like the ones you see at a make up counter when they are trying to flog you some expensive makeup but are basically looking down on you.

@bumpermom Ah your crackers. Given me a laugh though

*you're

I have a friend who's like the OP - loathes other mums, I'm the only exception because we've been friends since before we had kids.

She's a deeply insecure and unhappy person, and is convinced they're all judging her and looking on down on her.

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal sounds like you're judging her a little!

I like the school mums. I also invite classmates for playdates and enthusiastically volunteer to help out at the school. I imagine you'd hate me.

The truth is I'm quite shy, we're fairly new to the school, and if I don't make an effort I risk being stuck on the periphery knowing no-one and feeling awkward all the time. I have form for feeling awkward all the time. It's nice not to. I've yet to meet anyone I haven't liked at the school gates, or at football, or any of the clubs. We're all just parents hanging around a bit bored, and happy to chat.

No, I just know her inside and out. She's clever and funny and strong and brave and I love her to bits, but she doesn't see any of that in herself. She despises herself, so assumes everyone else must do likewise.

Woman: chose to reproduce. Sends offspring to mandatory education.

OP: <fucking furious>

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What's a 'school gate mum'? A mum, with children at school who drops them off?

I think it’s all about attitude. If you are open to people being a support and an ally in life then you are going to have a better time than with a negative and defensive approach.

most people are pretty nice, you know!

"The next time you see someone enjoying something, that isn’t hurting anyone, that’s not your cup of tea instead of saying something negative train yourself to think to yourself “I’m glad they are happy” and carry on with your life."

Got this from twitter and love it.

Don't be like that mum, don't be her friend, but don't waste any negative energy being annoyed about who she is. (And then generalise that to all school gate mums)