Anyone else hate school gate mums

[irishmumto4]

Hi, there's one mum in particular on the school run that is just so enthusiastic and involved in everything.. she does my head in! Constantly arranging play dates for her daughter with a different child every time.. it's like she wants her daughter to have allll the friends. Then when her daughter inevitably falls out with one of her mates she's whispering to other parents about said child. Just so irritating.. are there mums like these everywhere? What's the worst school mum story you have?

I'm intrigued about who do count as acceptable people to be friends with

School mums ✖
Work colleagues ✖
Neighbours ✖
Family or IL ✖

I just find it odd how people are soooo smiley at the school gates. Perhaps it's exciting for some? I dunno.

😂

Some are annoying. I have to drop the kids and get to work. But there are the ones who hang around talking to anyone who will respond to them, telling all and sundry their life stories, trying to engage with all the teachers... like drop your kids off and go already

Internalised mysogny much

Well actually I'd love more mums to be like her op! I say hi to some of the parents who are in the same class as my DC and who I see DAILY and they can barely manage a grunt in response... I find it quite disheartening and don't understand why we can't be more friendly... and I'd love for someone else to invite DD to a playdate. She has lots of friends in school but that never materialises into a playdate outside of school sadly, and I feel like it's because the parents are too busy in their own lives to plan one. I have thankfully found a few mums who I've connected well with and DD sees their children outside of school here and there... but yeah, I wish people would make more effort to chat actually. Doesn't mean I'm going to stalk you and follow you around every day begging to be besties 🙄

You sound like one of the grumpy ones 😁

Maybe you should check your own comments crocks before pointing at others!

I really enjoyed doing the school runs and miss it. Quite looking forward to having grandchildren I can (hopefully, if im asked) do it with. Loved catching up with different mums and saying hi to everyone. Would take the dog with me and people always fussed over her. Then a couple of days a week after pickup I would go to the park for an ice cream with other mums and their LOs. Obviously everyones different so some mums didnt want to say hi and some werent my cup of tea but overall I enjoyed it. Always had someone to chat to and say hi to.

How could you know that unless you were hanging around too?

This thread is stupid. School mums are just people like anywhere else 🙄

Crikey. Very glad that my DDs walked to school by themselves when they attended the village primary, then got the school bus to secondary - I couldn’t have been doing with all this angst!

Omg you're so needy. Why do you need friends? Just socialise occasionally with DH and enjoy your own company. Don't you know no one else is interested in anything to do with you? They don't want to come to your wedding or christening, they want you knocking the door without notice or texting without prior letter to advise.

No. They are all just people who had children at the same time as I did. I like most of them. Just all trying to get on with our days and pick our children up from school.

Meh, it's harmless.

I'm known as the "shadow". I don't speak to anyone, I'm not on any whatsaap group or class group.

I turn up on the dot at collection time, take my child and go home.

People probably think I'm rude or aloof or something 🤣 but I genuinely am not I'm just too busy. I work full time, a loan parent I'm always rushing about trying to fit everything in. Sometimes I'm even on work calls on my mobile and sorta just walk past everyone, DS comes out and we walk away 😳

Or perhaps they are happy people. You should try it

Nope. Not exciting and not exactly the Cannes Film Festival. But then I smile at my local supermarket checkout staff too. Because I think it's polite and makes life a little easier. Especially after 2 years in masks.

... because as I'm walking past them I see them, you know with my eyes😂 and when I'm driving away I see them stood around.. again with my eyes. Hilarious

I mean you sound like you listen in to a lot of other people's chat for someone who's so terribly busy above the unworking mothers attempting to make conversation

School gate mums are like every other human on the planet, unique to themselves.
Are we supposed to limit how many people we can do play dates with? I didn't get that memo, quite glad actually as she loves play dates with different people, her friendship group is huge because of it, her socialization is great because she meets so many different friends and their families and is exposed to many new things.
You should try it op your kids may thank you for it.

" My DH is my best friend. Why would I ever need anyone else until we are 90?" 😘

Nah they are just the hobby types.

Haha I mean gobby but yea should get a hobby maybe or a job would be better

Why does that annoy you? It's literally nothing to do with you. You should try to find a way to let it go, getting annoyed at random women talking to other random women is not rational or normal.

Scowling at each other would be a much better experience I'm sure 🙄

Ah man, this thread 😂
Popcorn.

Surely it's the same as everywhere like work. Some people you like, some people you don't. Speak to the ones you like and only interact with the ones you don't when you need to. What's the problem?

Don't see the problem with being enthusiastic and involved in everything though- someone has to be or nothing will get done at times. She can also arrange whatever play dates she wants. Why do you care who her daughter plays with?