I have a 4 week old daughter. Initially I thought I was coping okay but now I’m not sure I am, and my husband is about to go back to work.
She was born via elective c section and some milk did come in but we have had so many issues (I started another thread on this) and after spending a fortune on lactation consultants, shields, supplements, you name it I have almost made peace with the fact bf is not going to happen. I have hired a pump but now have mastitis, ducts on one side that won’t unblock and severely cracked nipples on the other side (and a sinus infection yippee) I’m managing to get about 200-250ml a day so she has that and Aptimil formula for the rest.
I mention the feeding because I’m worried it’s why she’s so unsettled at night/around feeds. She shows no hunger cues at all - I really do look for them - until it’s too late and she’s screaming. We pace feed her and she screams and strains and writhes around whenever the bottle is not in her mouth. She screams when trying to wind her as I thought it might be that. She stops screaming completely when she’s not hungry but feeding her is a total stressful nightmare as it’s a fight until she’s full (she was like this on the breast as well, another one of the many reasons it didn’t work out for us - she would whack the nipple shields off or if I finally managed an okay latch she’d move). She possets a bit but it’s not projectile. When she’s not hungry she’s very calm, happy to lie in her bassinet and look at everything, naps fine and only cries when her nappy is being changed. If it was reflux she’d be uncomfortable afterwards right? Not screaming during the feed but then totally fine afterwards?
At night - and only at night - she grunts and writhes around and won’t settle. She also sounds snotty and kind of gurgly? This has gotten worse over the last week and last night was impossible - she woke up at 2:30, I fed her, and she wouldn’t settle at all - eyes like saucers and grunting/writhing/whinging whenever I put her down. This went on until my husband fed her again at 5:30 when she started screaming, and then we just got up as she wouldn’t settle again. She’s bloody well asleep now though. In her pram bassinet. Silently with no fuss whatsoever.
I was worried it was wind so tried infacol which doesn’t seem to do anything. Cycling legs, tummy massage, all the burping tricks - don’t work, just upset her. Saline drops and tilting the crib doesn’t do anything - but she doesn’t need any of this in the day anyway so I don’t understand why we have problems at night.
In the back of my mind a voice is telling me that all of this is because I’m not breastfeeding her. I‘ve gone from dreading breastfeeding her to dreading feeding her at all because of the screaming. I spoke to my GP when I saw her for the mastitis and she said it’s normal and they grow out of it? I feel so tired and ill and low 😞 sorry for the long post.
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WorryMcGee · 17/05/2022 10:40
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