People say I'm spoiling my 10 week old

[Nicola2182]

Am I spoiling my 10 week old baby?

I'm struggling at the minute because she will not be put down to nap, I struggle to get her to sleep in the first place and then when I attempt to put her in her Moses basket she wakes straight up. So I just hold her to sleep.
People say I'm spoiling her and that I should be putting her down as she will never learn to self sooth,

It's so difficult because if she doesn't nap on me she doesn't nap and then gets over tired and SCREAMS

Help! Any advice?

No your not spoiling her she's 10 weeks old! It's pretty normal! Try a sling library so at least you can move about and make a cup of tea

People are wrong (and stupid). Cuddle your baby, co-sleep, do whatever your baby wants.

If anyone objects, point them towards a book called Why Love Matters, which is about the negative effects of leaving your baby to cry on the developing brain.

My mum used to say ‘you can’t spoil a baby!’. Try a sling or baby carriers. All babies are different - some beee more soothing than others.

awwww baby cuddles!

Tell them to fuck off and make you a cuppa. I spent hours and hours of my maternity leave cuddling my baby while he nursed and slept.

First thing my HV said to me was, you can never spoil a baby with cuddles.

My son was also a contact napper. Over time we did manage to put him down.
What helped;
Waiting 20 mins til he was in a deep sleep before putting down
Doing it ridiculously slowly so they don't feel the drop (I used to basically end up in the basket etc)
White noise - life saver for so many reasons.

Keep doing as you are!

You can't spoil a baby! Look up the 'fourth trimester'

Honestly don't think there's such a thing as spoiling a baby

follow your instincts and ignore advice that doesn't resonate xx

There's no spoiling a little baby.
Hold her as much as she wants you to.
MIL used to have this stupid concept of letting babies to cry to develop their lungs - utter nonsense.
I never let mine cry. Yes it might be inconvenient at times but there's nothing better than holding them and know they feel content.

Firstly, you can't "spoil" a little baby. She is using the only way she can to communicate with you. Secondly, others might disagree but I would say you have to make her feel safe before she'll be ready to sleep by herself. I would say to keep her close - mums in so-called primitive societies sleep with their babies snuggled up with them for up to two years. Thirdly, tell the people criticising you that you are happy to carry on as you are, thanks. They should mind their own business.

They are being ridiculous. You can't spoil a baby.

She's 10 weeks she's not supposed to self settle. You do whatever non abusive things you need to do to stay sane. And if that means she's attached to you all day, then that's extra snuggle time.
You can't spoil a baby, you are meant to respond to them to teach them that if they do things more things happening. Doing different things gets different responses. Smiling gets a smile back, crying gets comfort etc.

You can't spoil a 10 week old, they don't know any different!

People are wrong!

also, what, exactly; would the problem be with spoiling a tiny baby with snuggles and cuddles? (I asked my mil this question when she said the same, there was no logical answer from her)

It's impossible to spoil a newborn baby. Don't listen to them

People who say that are deluded. But some people have incredibly ‘easy’ babies who wake to eat and that’s pretty much it. My firstborn was like that. My second woke the same instant I removed myself and she then screamed until people begged me to hold her. Just enjoy your baby :)

Spoil a baby?! Don’t listen to those crackpots. Cuddle your baby as much as you want, it’s exactly what makes her feel safe and secure. Enjoy 🌺

Echoing what everyone else has said

you can’t spoil a baby
you can respond to them and build a strong bond, and make sure they have a secure attachment to you, and you to them

enjoy those newborn cuddles, and get a good sling

Total nonsense, there’s nothing wrong with cuddling a baby!

Cuddle your baby as much as she needs it! You cannot spoil a baby with 'too much' love. Listen to your instincts. A sling worked for both mine, maybe worth trying as pp said. Babies need lots of cuddles and affection , the more they get, the more secure they feel. Good luck.

People are wrong (and stupid). Cuddle your baby, co-sleep, do whatever your baby wants.

Yes what @BelleTheBananas said x1000.

My son contact napped exclusively for 5 months, bed shared for 15 months and now sleeps alone and through the night. Minimal crying involved, minimal stress, and most importantly, we all slept! Don't get sucked into this pathetic "setting bad habits" lark, its BS 😂

Agree with previous posters. She's spent 9 months inside you, listening to your heartbeat, get a stretchy wrap sling or ergo. We all learn to self settle and sleep, but small humans aren't meant to be on their own, it takes a little while. You can't spoil her by meeting her needs xx

Put bluntly - how the fuck do you "spoil" a 10 week old? 🤣🤣🤣

She's 10 weeks. 1/4 of the age she spent inside your womb developing from a fertilised egg.

Good on you for responding to your Dds needs and I'm sure putting them above your own when needed.

Nothing wrong with being a good mum.

As an aside some babies enjoy the swaddle type slings for closeness and they can help for when you need to be hands free

You can’t spoil a baby. You can cause psychological damage by not cuddling your baby but you can’t cuddle them to much.

If you haven’t already look up safe cosleeping on the lullaby website, get a sling, a cognito cup for your tea/coffee, make sure you have a good TV subscription service, an extra long phone charger and always remember to go for a wee before cuddling your baby to sleep.

Cuddle them as much as you can. You can't spoil them and they need you.
Before you know it they'll be a pain in the arse non-cuddly nearly 18yr old about to go to uni who thinks they know it all 🤣 Make the most of it now!

Get yourself a sling - absolute game changer. Baby naps on you to their hearts content, you get to do stuff you want/need to do.