How long were you together before you had children?

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How many did you have?
What were the age gaps? Are you done yet? Just out of utter nosiness! I'm in my early 30s, have a three year old, not with his dad, want more but all depends on meeting the right person...

16 years

Ds arrived on our 1 year of meeting anniversary
We celebrate 9 years together next month

Met 2012 at 21, first child 2018.

9 years, had DS at 34. Done with one. Wanted careers to be established first, bought a family sized home and to be married. We also had a lot of fun/travelled a lot in our twenties.

Together 14 years before we had DD when I was 30, we were trying for 3 years, before that we were saving and getting a house and better jobs to put ourselves in a good position financially.

Together for 5.5 years, married for 2.5 years when we had DS. He’s only a few months old, so no siblings yet, but we’re certain on having another/more ‘at some point’. We are 27 and 29.

Got together 2010, engaged 2017, DS arrived 2018, DD due 2022 and getting married in 2023.

First date 88
Never apart after 2nd date
Married 91
Bought a house together 92 big enough for at least 4 dc
2 MC, late
DS Dec 94
MC
DS 2 June 97, 27 weeks and too poorly to survive
DD 98 ( we were very lucky)

Have only counted the 12 week plus MC, I lost count of the 5/6/7 week ones.

Decided to stop at that point. My only regret in life has been not having another child and it still is.

Together 8 years (but married 2) when DC1 was born. Then just over a 2 year age gap until DC2 was born. Now we are done

Together 20 years. No fertility issues (blessed to have conceived first month of trying), but we wanted to enjoy a full life together as a couple first. We’ve got one DD and just about ready to try for another when she turns one next month

Met when we were 18, married at 21, first baby at 28, second at nearly 33. It took a while to decide to have a family, as we were perfectly happy without! Celebrated 50th wedding anniversary last month, and so blessed with our lovely family.

Together 2002
Married 2006
Dc1 2009
Dc2 2011

Not long enough!!

Fell pregnant 4 months in to my relationship with my ex (unplanned). Had second 4 years after the first. Split up when youngest was 4.

Met DH the next year and we wanted one together but we had fertility issues so it never happened. He's an amazing step-dad to the kids though, their dad took lockdown as an excuse to barely see them and even now we don't have anything stopping him from seeing them he's only seen them once in the last few months. I have no idea when they last saw any family on that side either.

Together 2009/10 ish
Married 2011
Our only child born 2019 (we were 38 and 43)

Never wanted kids, totally one and done, but she was planned

We weren’t together when ds was conceived, we just met up occasionally for some fun. When he was born we’d been together for around 8 months. Then dc2 arrived just under 2 years later followed by dc3 3.5 years later. We’ve been together 12 years now.

Met May 2010, I had just turned 31, he was almost 34. Started living together October 2010.
First child born early 2012. 3 more children followed - 2014, 2016 and 2019. Definitely done now. And we're a stronger couple than we were at the start. I think having children is the make or break of a relationship and we were just lucky that we met each other at the right time.

Got married end 1994, dd1 was born early 2000, so married just over 5 years when she was born. I was 29.

Went on to have ds (early 2002) and dd2 (late 2003). Had 3 under 4 for a couple of months! Was 32 when dd2 was born and that was plenty old enough for me.

I was very unwell with kidney problems when I was pg with dd2, and to a lesser extent with ds. So dh had a vasectomy when I was pg with dd2.

10 years. I had my son at 29, and I’m definitely done because I broke up with him less than a year later.

6 years married and 12 years together. We have just starting to try. We are both in our early thirties.

We both wanted to get our dream house first and be settled in our careers. Small part of me wishes we had started a few years ago, but thats just because I'm broody now!

We were married almost exactly four years. We made the decision to start a family around new year and had him the following October.

Together sixteen years (married for ten) before an accidental pregnancy. Considering another (having a baby was loads better than I thought it would be) but I’m getting towards late thirties so need to make a decision soon and I can’t decide.

13 years. Just one child, no plans for more (I'm 40).

We met when we were very young, no interest in children then. Worked hard at our careers, had lots of lovely holidays, rented nice houses in great locations without thinking about what children would need. Then decided to start a family but wanted to buy first for stability, which took a few years to save up. Partner was made redundant just as we were about to start looking to buy, which delayed us by a good year in the end. Then I had mental health issues which delayed us again by a couple of years.

I'm glad it worked out the way it did because we are financially secure, but I do sometimes wish we'd started earlier because our parents are quite old now (mid-70s) and really can't join in and play as much as they could even five years ago. I'm really, really glad we were together for so long before and had such a solid base, because having a baby rocked us and I don't know how new relationships survive it.

Together 5 years. 1st at 32, 2nd at 33 (oops). Under 15 months between them. Think that might have been the last time I had sex - been together 23 years now

I had at first DD at 22 with DP who is been with for 4 or 5 years, then we starting try for our second when she turned 1, due a boy in March and there will be 2 years 3 months between them