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Urgent advice needed ASAP!!

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pedilia · 24/12/2007 14:08

My ex took my 6 year old DS for the weekend on Saturday, he was due to bring him back yesterday evening but did not show up.
He is not anserwing the phone and has not contacted me at all, this is a man who I do not trust and I am worried now.

What do I do? I don't even have his full address as the court deemed it not necessary for me to know!!!

Help

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TrinityTheRedNosedRhino · 24/12/2007 14:08

phone the police and explain everything

LilRedMummyGiraffe · 24/12/2007 14:09

I think by now I would be contacting the police, but that really depends on your EX and if you think he would withhold DS to upset you.

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pedilia · 24/12/2007 14:10

he would to prove a point!

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LilRedMummyGiraffe · 24/12/2007 14:10

I would call the police then.

PanicPressiePants · 24/12/2007 14:10

Phone the police.

Magrat · 24/12/2007 14:12

phone the police

kd73 · 24/12/2007 14:13

PHONE NOW.....

Hope everything works out ok

coldtits · 24/12/2007 14:14

Phone the police

Flibbertinseljinglebells · 24/12/2007 14:16

Phone the police. Thats what my friend did at 10pm recently when her ex didn't bring her nearly 3yo son back as arranged for 7pm on the Sunday.
They found the address from his car reg number. The xh went beserk, saying 'how dare you get me into trouble with the police' and 'how did you find out this address' but the police gave him a talking to. He claimed that he was going to bring the child back the next day, but going on previous form it seems that he didn't bother to tell the mother, just to get at her.

Freckle · 24/12/2007 14:21

Is there a contact order in place, with specified times for contact in it? It's best if there is as the police can then act. If there is no such order, the police can find it difficult to act as it is the child's father who is with the child and he is not in breach of any order.

If there is no such order in place, I would strongly advise getting one in the New Year using this incident as evidence that he cannot be trusted to stick to arrangements made between you.

LilRedMummyGiraffe · 24/12/2007 14:21

I hope this works out for you.

WalkinginaWonkaWonderland · 24/12/2007 15:39

Is there any news pedilia?

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pedilia · 24/12/2007 16:42

There is a contact order in place which he has breached, the police cannot do anything as they have no address. They have phoned me several times though, a relative of mine is a high ranking police officer and he has managed to speak to ex's girlfriend who claims he has left his phone somewhere

I am waiting for a phonecall, still worried sick what a shitty way to spend xmas eve, I had the eveing planned out for the children

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CarGirl · 24/12/2007 16:44

you don't have his car reg number? His parents address or any ex in-laws details?

How desperate for you I am so sorry, can you get in touch with a solicitor to get the ball rolling for an emergency change to the contact order?

More importantly do you have the dc passports?

NAB3hundredbaubles · 24/12/2007 18:11

If he was due to bring him back yesterday why have you waited until now to ask for help? I am just curious as to whether you have cause for concern or whether you are annoyed he hasn't been in touch.

I hope you get some good news soon.

coldtits · 24/12/2007 19:10

Any news Pedilia?

coldtits · 24/12/2007 20:17

bump

robinredbreast · 24/12/2007 20:43

pedila hope youve got your ds back
any news
thinking of you

tribpot · 24/12/2007 21:28

Hoping for the best, I would be dying round about now You do have the passport, yes?

coldtits · 25/12/2007 11:22

Thinking of you Pedilia

edam · 25/12/2007 11:32

Pedilla, I hope the swine has brought ds back now but if not, you could try calling the duty social worker - there is someone on duty over Christmas and they are used to handling situations like this, sadly.

differentbutthesame · 25/12/2007 12:05

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NutterlyUts · 25/12/2007 18:21

BUMP for news

onebatmotherofgoditschilly · 25/12/2007 19:03

bump again

orangehead · 25/12/2007 20:00

Hope everything ok, plse let us know