I have a 7 month old whom I’m trying to get into healthy sleeping habits. At night we have a routine of food, 15 mins to let food go down, bath, change into bed clothes and then breast. He’s now getting into this routine and will go to sleep within about 20 mins of breastfeeding starting. It means that he’s now going to sleep around 8 ish (would like to move it earlier but for now that’s a success for me). What I’m struggling with is what is happening around midnight. For example tonight … DH is doing wrapping of parcels this evening (noises with sellotape disturbing DS and DH knows he doesn’t like it) as well as making chocolate cornflakes cakes for the next door neighbours kids at 23.00 (DS smelt this and again started waking) so that when he came to bed at 24.00 and DS was going through a light sleep cycle (not surprising with the sellotape and smell of cooking) DH woke up DS. DS by 24.00 has had enough sleep for him to now be wide awake to play after I’ve spent hours trying to put him and keep him asleep. Am I wrong at getting annoyed by DH disturbing DS? Is it wrong to want DH to just go to bed at 22.00? He says life doesn’t stop just because we have a baby and we must be social and give the neighbours presents. I’m saying that we have a baby and he comes first if the neighbours must have a gift can’t we buy a box of chocolates. At the moment DH seems to want to do everything he did before having a baby and not really partake in the job of parenting except for the occasional bit of play here and there and stuffing DS with food as and when DH has a moment.
Thing is I’m the one whose probably more sleep deprived. I’ve been doing all the night wakings ever since DH’s paternity leave ended so I really want a good sleep routine for DS and a routine that gives all of us more sleep (if poss).