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Smoking cannabis

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tryinghardest · 19/09/2021 14:45

What's people's honest opinions/views on smoking weed whilst being a parent? When the children are in bed in the evening and you know they won't wake until the early hours... Just interested to see what other people say about it.

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katemuff · 19/09/2021 16:28

I have crippling arthritis and it has far less side effects and negative interactions that the horrendous cocktails of drugs I have been prescribed. I have smoked every day for years and years. It isn't a nice habit but it is the lesser of 2 evils for me.

katemuff · 19/09/2021 16:30

@QueenoftheKarens

It's disgusting. Half the people who say they use it for pain relief aren't in pain, they're just using it as an excuse. Devils lettuce for a reason!
You don't know what you are talking about. Just count your blessings you aren't in chronic pain. bmjopen.bmj.com/content/6/6/e010364
Mymapuddlington · 19/09/2021 16:30

As for the smell, burn a scented candle, spray air freshener, open window or back door

Does not work at all. The smell lingers in all places.

Mymycherrypie · 19/09/2021 16:31

It’s the smell. It smells like a dead thing. Be mentally impaired in charge of small children all you like, but when other people have to smell corpses, it’s not on. Don’t make your kids stink Sad (a fox died in a neighbours bin down the road and it smelled exactly the same)

Mymycherrypie · 19/09/2021 16:33

Those saying it's disgusting it's just a plant.

Shit is also disgusting yet entirely natural - and I’ve taken shits than smell better than some people I am forced to smell on public transport.

Strokethefurrywall · 19/09/2021 16:34

If I was in constant crippling pain, I’d smoke weed too, rather than take the liver damaging concoction prescribed by the medical industry.

As soon as weed can be effectively monetized by governments it’ll become legal, as in Canada/US states.
When you look at the horrendous damage that opioids leave, creating addicts in a frighteningly brief amount of time, weed is absolutely the better choice if it works for you.

There’s a reason it’s prescribed to sufferers of cancer, MS, arthritis etc.

Mymapuddlington · 19/09/2021 16:37

Don’t make your kids stink

People who smoke it can’t smell it when it’s in their hair, the carpet, the cushions and you go to school and are known as the stinky kid or you grow up thinking it’s normal so start smoking yourself (my brother)

ByTheSea · 19/09/2021 16:40

@Fluffypastelslippers

Nobody is asking how 'safe' it is compared to alcohol though. Is it really so impossible for people to discuss cannabis without bringing alcohol into it?

Well, you don't see people asking about that glass of wine that so many have and no one thinks anything of, so I was simply making a comparison.

Cannabis has many amazing proven medical treatments, healing and pain relief qualities as well as simply being a great high for many people, and for many people it causes no issues in their lives and leaves them no nasty hangovers. I say that as someone who has enjoyed it, barring pregnancies, breastfeeding and other breaks, and also used it medically, for over 45 years whilst maintaining a professional/managerial career (except a short break to be home with DC). If you don't like it, don't use it, but at some point if you find yourself in chronic pain or a suffering from variety of other health issues, it may be the answer.

leavesthataregreen · 19/09/2021 16:40

i only know one couple who did it regularly. The mother died young of lung cancer brought on by smoking so much weed, so that puts me off a lot. And I am biased against it as I am allergic to it. `Even the smell of the smoke makes me want to puke. I can see the argument that it is not different from having a glass of wine but - maybe irrationally - I'd never trust parents to care for my DC if they smoked at night whereas if they had a glass of wine it wouldn't bother me (so long as they didn't get drunk, obviously)

Fluffypastelslippers · 19/09/2021 16:43

@ByTheSea

I still don't understand why I have to agree with drugs because alcohol exists, which I am guessing is what the poster meant?

KerningBurnHole · 19/09/2021 16:46

I used to enjoy nothing more than a good spliff in my younger days, but I wouldn't do it now. I wouldn't want to unwittingly add fuel to modern day slavery..... www.theguardian.com/news/2019/jul/26/vietnamese-cannabis-farms-children-enslaved

ByTheSea · 19/09/2021 16:47

@Fluffypastelslippers

Because alcohol, tobacco and caffeine are all legal drugs and actually can be more dangerous than cannabis. That cannabis isn't legal, regulated and taxed and these substances are seems very unfair to me as an otherwise upstanding citizen (and there are many many like me).

Mymapuddlington · 19/09/2021 16:48

@Fluffypastelslippers you will never get someone who smokes it to understand how dangerous is can be, particularly second hand smoke to children.

Fluffypastelslippers · 19/09/2021 16:49

[quote ByTheSea]@Fluffypastelslippers

Because alcohol, tobacco and caffeine are all legal drugs and actually can be more dangerous than cannabis. That cannabis isn't legal, regulated and taxed and these substances are seems very unfair to me as an otherwise upstanding citizen (and there are many many like me). [/quote]

You are deliberately being obtuse here. It's ok to dislike drugs without giving an opinion on alcohol.

ByTheSea · 19/09/2021 16:52

[quote Mymapuddlington]@Fluffypastelslippers you will never get someone who smokes it to understand how dangerous is can be, particularly second hand smoke to children.[/quote]
There are a number of other ways to consume it besides smoking it, as you can find in the US and Canadian dispensaries, so one could ensure the children aren't endangered by the second-hand smoke. It just needs to be legal and regulated and taxed.

rhonddacynontaf · 19/09/2021 17:02

I do t drink or smoke, but I am considering trying weed for chronic pain. As OP said, of an evening, if me and DH are both home. What's it to anyone if I nip down my garden for a quick puff?

ByTheSea · 19/09/2021 17:08

@Fluffypastelslippers

"You are deliberately being obtuse here. It's ok to dislike drugs without giving an opinion on alcohol."

I look at each "drug" on its own merits and drawbacks; they are not all the same. I agree many drugs when abused can have very negative impacts on people's lives. You may not want to give your opinion on alcohol, but in my experience, alcohol has most often been that "drug". Your own experience may be different.

In the meantime, I can steer you to a lot of scientific literature stating mental and physical health benefits of cannabis, replacing opiates for pain relief, for example. Only if you're interested...

toocold54 · 19/09/2021 17:09

Alcohol is a lot worse for you but obviously smoke travels in the air whereas alcohol doesn’t. So as long as there’s no smoking in the house/near an open window etc then I don’t see a problem if it’s in the evening. I often have a couple of glasses of wine in the evenings on the weekend.

Plumtree391 · 19/09/2021 17:11

I've found out how to vape weed!
vaping360.com/learn/how-to-vape-weed/

Now all I have to do is buy a vape thingy and acquire some weed.

Mymapuddlington · 19/09/2021 17:13

@ByTheSea

Alcohol is legal and cannabis is not (at least here)

There’s evidence saying a glass of red wine a day is good for you.
Evidence suggests cbd can help.

There’s also a danger of addiction and mental health issues. Like a lot of drugs, good and bad side effects.

In my experience, parents using cannabis for pain relief raised a son who started smoking it at ten years old because he saw it as normal. Led to whities, paranoia, schizophrenia. I’ve also known people who were alcoholics and died from liver failure.

Just because you think it’s ok doesn’t mean you get to disregard others experiences and opinions.

SylvanasWindrunner · 19/09/2021 17:14

Everyone I know who uses it regularly for recreation has no drive or motivation at all. I don't know if that's because they were like that already and that's why they smoke it or if the weed has made them like that. Well I do know, actually, as my friend's husband gave it up when she threatened to leave him and is like a different person now.

For a harmless drug, it seems to make people's lives shit a lot of the time.

Fluffypastelslippers · 19/09/2021 17:16

I look at each "drug" on its own merits and drawbacks; they are not all the same. I agree many drugs when abused can have very negative impacts on people's lives. You may not want to give your opinion on alcohol, but in my experience, alcohol has most often been that "drug". Your own experience may be different.

The discussion was about cannabis. Not alcohol. Whether or not alcohol is 'worse' isn't relevant.

In the meantime, I can steer you to a lot of scientific literature stating mental and physical health benefits of cannabis, replacing opiates for pain relief, for example. Only if you're interested...

Interesting how you assume I am unable to take myself to such places.

JudyGemstone · 19/09/2021 17:19

I have a decent vape too. There is no smoke so no smell to linger.

I’ve bought cheap ones before but they don’t last ime, this time I bought a pax3 which I highly recommend.

Most of my friends use weed too, we’re all middle class professionals.

toocold54 · 19/09/2021 17:25

The discussion was about cannabis. Not alcohol. Whether or not alcohol is 'worse' isn't relevant.

I do think they are a good comparison as they are both drugs. The only difference is one is way more harmful than the other but since it’s legal no one judges. As a society we seem to celebrate and encourage the use of alcohol and deem anyone who smokes cannabis as a druggy.

Fluffypastelslippers · 19/09/2021 17:27

@toocold54

The discussion was about cannabis. Not alcohol. Whether or not alcohol is 'worse' isn't relevant.

I do think they are a good comparison as they are both drugs. The only difference is one is way more harmful than the other but since it’s legal no one judges. As a society we seem to celebrate and encourage the use of alcohol and deem anyone who smokes cannabis as a druggy.

But why the need to compare the 2 when discussing if it's ok to smoke weed when your kids are in bed? Neither one of those things is better than the other. Defending the use of drugs because alcohol is legal doesn't work.