4 year old wants to play out all the time

[inmyslippers]

I can't relax. Feel like I have to stick my head out every 5mins. He started playing out at 3 and I would sit outside. Over summer I began letting him have short
Intervals alone. He plays with some of the older kids and that eases my mind abit. Keeping him in feels cruel when there's so many kids out. Soon as we get back from school he's on my case to go out. I used to roam around unsupervised in the 90s and I doubt my mum even noticed I was gone.

tell that to rest of my neighbours if your neighbours bragged about allowing their 4 year old out unsupervised and moaned they couldn't relax enough to read their book I would tell them they were lazy parents. Just as you are.

I work in safeguarding and I would have serious concerns for your son if you were on my caseload. This has to stop and you know it. Actual shame on you.

No way this is real!😅
Not even the worst type of neglectful parent would let a FOUR year old out without constant adult supervision.

No way this is real!😅
Not even the worst type of neglectful parent would let a FOUR year old out without constant adult supervision.

^^ I kid you not. I'm genuinely surprised at
all these responses. Kids start playing out
pretty young. I can name each one as
It's such a small place. The kids same age as mine all go to the same primary school and play out together 🤷🏾‍♀️

your neighbours bragged about allowing their 4 year old out unsupervised and moaned they couldn't relax enough to read their book I would tell them they were lazy parents. Just as you are.

^^ there kids also play out with mine so must be something in the water.

Sarah Payne was playing out in a rural area with her older brothers

I've got my GS tonight, also 4 - no way in this world would I let him out unsupervised, at 4 they have no sense of danger. You can't relax OP because you know he's not safe.

@MWNA

No way this is real!😅 Not even the worst type of neglectful parent would let a FOUR year old out without constant adult supervision.

Agreed. OP, put your son's safety above your wants. I have a four year old, no way in hell would I do this. We go to the park after school, he's not stuck in front of a screen, but he's supervised by me. All parents I know would do the same.

Where i live the children all play out from about 4, including mine, but i keep an eye on them, i don't expect to be able to get stuck into a book while they are out.

All parents I know would do the same.

^this is what I'm finding so unusual though! According to mumsnet when I sit outside
I'm a scummy council estate mum. Now I
Stay inside and I'm neglectful mum. Seems
I can't win either ways. He's happy though.
Plays outside for an hour after his tea with local kids. Plenty same age but a few older ones. He's in ear shot, I check every few
minutes as do neighbour kids parents.
Spent most summer getting to know the other neighbours when he first started playing out. Now they all go to school together. I'm not going to stop him going out anytime soon as it would be cruel to keep him in when everyone else is playing out.

I should report as I expect this post will be deleted for troll hunting or some bullshit but I'm gonna say it anyway.

The goady as fuck OP had a tone of "please tell me I'm doing the right thing" but all the replies are saying "I'm right and I won't be told otherwise"

Classic troll. 1/10 try harder next time.

Check my post history certainly not a troll.

What was the original point of starting this thread?

Just to have a moan but it's taken a huge nose dive 🤣

What's wrong with taking your kid to a playground?

My nearly 4yo is very active too but there's no way I'd let her play out unsupervised, and I'm the most relaxed mother out of my friendship group so that's saying something.

So because your neighbours are neglecting their kids its ok? No. That's not how ot works. I notice you've changed from him playing with the older kids to playing with kids his own age.
Youre so desperate to be right that you're not taking into consideration your child's safety. That's neglectful.

OP can I ask why you posted here? People are (rightly) raising concerns and you are just batting them away...but you must have a nagging doubt about this otherwise why post?

I have a four year old boy too. I think you are reckless. By all means let him play outside, but you need to supervise. Popping your head around every 5 mins isn't good enough - it takes a spilt second. And you may be harking back to our childhood era but I'm certain I wasn't allowed out alone age 4!

Agree, and the OP is coming across as immature.

We have plenty of playground trips. He doesn't go wanting. Swimming one day a week, kick boxing and football. The kids
Range from 3-to I'm guessing 6/7ish.

He doesn't go wanting.
Unless his mum wants to read a book in peace, then he's left at the mercy of the neighbourhood kids.

Definitely a troll. No one let's their three year old out to play without an adult. I'm reporting

I can’t believe your letting other children supervise your 4 year old and be outside without an adult.

Put your book down and be a responsible parent.

then he's left at the mercy of the neighbourhood kids.

^^ mercy it's a football match not an initiation ritual

I don't think it sounds that crazy OP. Especially if he's in earshot and there are no roads.

I have a 3 year old and it takes all my restraint not to put a harness on him when I'm walking with him near main roads. My intrusive thoughts could never...

it's a football match not an initiation ritual

Yeah it's a football match, until the older kids get fed up of being a babysitter