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The 2 (or more?!) Under 2 Support Thread!

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GrrrlWith2Boys · 04/12/2007 14:50

Post your woes (or joys) here if you're currently tackling 2 kids under 2 (please say i'm not alone!)

DS1 is super wingey today and driving me batty...the slightest thing and he's whining and crying.

Have managed a 10 min walk with pushchair to get out of house. DS1 watching far too much TV, i haven't brushed my hair and the dog won't stop barking.

I need some gin.

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hazeyjane · 18/01/2008 12:52

hope everyone is having a good day, we have yet to leave the house, although I've been meaning to all morning.
I'm always forgetting how old everyone's lo's are, and am too busy/lazy to look back through thread - mine are now, dd1 22 months + dd2 8 months.
I once threw a penknife across a room full of babies at an nct feeding group, and I was the only one who was bottlefeeding, and I was the only one with a clingy toddler in tow - thats how bad I am at groups! I never went back by the way.

justabouttosplashoutinthesales · 18/01/2008 13:43

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padboz · 18/01/2008 13:54

justabouttosplashoutinthesales happy birthday to the little man! Big party?

OMG hazeyjane! you sound cool We're you trying to kill anyone?

Mine are 13 and 27 months (just realised Ive been telling people in other threads that they are 13 and 25 months - they aren't. my maths is just bad.) They are fabulous - I can now say this now but I had a really hard time of the last year and I'm only just getting to like being a mum again now that the pressure is ever so slightly easing. Anyone have more trouble bonding with the second cos there just wasnt time to coo?

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Chaotica · 18/01/2008 15:49

Happy birthday to DS1, justabout. I hope you survive the party.

I'm really looking forward to DD's 2nd birthday since I missed the last one -- How crap is that? I had to be at work two days a week and one of those was the one DD's birthday fell on... added to this, DP (who was in charge of celebrations in my absence) got the wrong day and so she had her birthday the day before she turned one... (Obviously she knows none of this, but we're certainly fairly useless as parents go considering she's the PFB and all that!)

As for bonding second time around, Padboz, I think I have to thank the fact I had a CS and had to stay in hospital with DS (which gave me a couple of days to get to know him and appreciate his cuteness before I had two of them to look after); that and my childminder who entertains DD some of the week.

Must go -- DD is napping but DS's nappy just exploded. Time for an early bath, I think. (Hopefully him, rather than him and me!)

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Chaotica · 18/01/2008 21:22

Sorry -- tmi about the nappy (although you must all have enough of those to deal with). Have a good weekend all (not that I won't post again if I have the chance).

BTW alicet, I saw your other thread about osteopathy... I might have to look into it as I think DS needs physio (at least) as he's not lifting his head when he's on his tummy. Have a gp appointment, but a referral might take a while (although I hope not) and it probably needs treatment sooner rather than later.

padboz · 18/01/2008 22:03

justabout - a train cake? that sounds like the kind of thing I start but can't finish.

Managed o make biscuits with both kids today - youngest now old enough to do the odd stir and eat handfuls of dough...

Gemy · 18/01/2008 22:42

Hello everyone

I'm new on this thread. Have 3 week old DD2 and 21 month old DD1 - finding it a bit hard; the juggling, the feeling of no time, the guilt at having to say no when DD1 wants me to play with her (whilst feeding DD2 etc)

Have not been out for days but am going out tomorrow shopping on my own. BUT, I am feeling guilty about that instead of spending family time...sighs and shrugs

Gemy
xx

SuperGrrrl · 19/01/2008 07:11

Gemy- enjoy the peace! I think mothers who take time for themselves sometimes are usually better for it. Congrats on the new baby, and welcome to the thread!

Had a pretty good day yesterday, my grandparents came to visit for an hour, which entertained DS1. Also put The Jungle Book on for him, which he loved. My Gran always brings him sweets though (no idea about nutrition, also a large lady) she brought 3 big bags! I'll let him have 1 from each bag, and then i suppose DH and I will have to finish them off.....sigh!

Which reminds me, i MUST warn everyone to not buy the kids easter eggs this year. DS1 was 6mths last time, and he was bought 6 eggs! (Which he didn't eat i add!) I'm prepared this year- going to ask people to buy a small toy or book instead if they really want to give them something.

Going to meet my friend for lunch today and taking DS2 with me. I gave DH the choice of which kid he kept while i was out- unsurprisingly i got the 11week old!

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hazeyjane · 19/01/2008 19:50

Happy Birthday to ds1, Justabout. I'm planning to make a moon cake for dd1's 2nd birthday - she gets really excited when she sees the moon out of her window and has a moon light on her wall, but I have to admit easiness of shape is probably the main reason!

Padboz, believe me I am so not cool! The penknife incident wasn't just a moment of baby group madness, I was trying to peel an apple for dd1, with a dinky little silver penknife my mum bought me for just that purpose, when dd2 (asleep in her P&T papoose next to me) woke up with a bloodcurdling windy scream (she was about 8 weeks old at the time), and the penknife just sort of flew out of my hand as if it was possessed - it was horrendous. When dh came to pick me up I said to him that I was never going to go back, and realised half an hour later that I had left my purse there.

Supergrrl, my father in law made a bowl of jelly for dd1 when she was 5 months old!I felt awful because he looked so pleased with himself, he thought it would be nice and easy for her to eat.

Chaotica, we missed dd1's 1st birthday because I had to go into hospital with a DVT scare (seems very odd to think I was about 7 months pregnant with dd2).

Hello Gemy, congratulations. Hope you enjoyed your me-time.

Gemy · 19/01/2008 21:53

I did enjoy my time-out and was secretely glad to see how knacked my DH looked! Still felt a bit guilty though, as DD1 was so glad to see me once I arrived home.

Anyway Hazel the moon cake sounds great! DD1 will be 2 in march and so far it looks like the cake will have to be in the shape of a farm animal or a cat. Mmm, not sure my cake making skills are up to that (though I can do quite a good snail or slug)

Thankyou for the warm welcome

And if anyone has any tips for me regarding easing DD1 on coming to terms with having a new sister they'd be very welcome!

padboz · 20/01/2008 01:07

Hi Gemy! Tips on coming to terms..not sure I can help much as my FB was a bit smaller when DD2 came along. All I can say is give dd1 lots of attention but make some time to be alone with dd2 too. I didnt spend enough time with my second and am horrified to say that most of my memories of dd2's early weeks were spent dealing with dd1. Spend some time focusing on the new one -she won't shout M-UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMMMY but you need the memories of this particular newborns newborn days. On a longer term note and this wont kick in for a few months but everything DD2 learned - crawling eating solids etc made DD1 nervous until we convinced her that every achievement of dd2 was a 'teaching' achievement for dd1 - this works a treat - when dd2 took first steps (etc etc) all the fanfare was shared - dd2 got lots of cuddles and praise but dd2 was thanked and rewarded for helping her learn to walk by being gentle and not knocking her over. We thank DD1 every time DD2 learns a new world for talking so nicely to her sister... She takes pride in every achievement her sister makes and this helps a great deal with rivalry

hazeyjane · 20/01/2008 02:20

Having to stay up with dd2 tonight (she is asleep in pushchair next to me) because she has a temperature, a nasty cough and has been sick.

I like your tip about 'teaching achievements', Padboz. Dd1 has been great with dd2 from the minute they met, but as dd2 starts doing more I can see dd1 feels slightly threatened.

I like the idea of a slugcake, Gemy!

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SuperGrrrl · 20/01/2008 13:15

aaaaaaarrggghhhhhhhhhh!

That is all for now

hazeyjane · 20/01/2008 15:58

Can I just add an OH MY GOD to that Suppergrrrl?

hazeyjane · 20/01/2008 15:59

sorry that was supposed to be oh my god, I'll just stick to an "AAAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHH"

Chaotica · 20/01/2008 17:50

Can I add an "aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh" to that too? I wanted to get online and ask if it was my turn to moan, but it seems that some of you got here before me.

The idea of a slug cake cheered me up though (might try a snail or a moon cake myself -- DD loves the moon too, and I find it hard to explain why it isn't there sometimes).

And LOL at the penknife story, HJ. (Even if that's not how it's intended!)

hazeyjane · 20/01/2008 19:27

Hope someone has had an ok weekend, or do we all want to shout out a collective aaaaaaagghhh. I have been up since midnight last night, so am starting to feel a bit drunk with tiredness. Dd2 has a really bad cold, and just wants to be cuddled all the time. I'm going to go to bed now, because I've got a feeling I'm going to be up again later.

SuperGrrrl · 20/01/2008 19:32

thank god they are asleep!

For 2 days they have both been very demanding. DS2 is so clingy to me it's nuts- he doesn't sleep in the day (it's not normal for an 11wk old, is it?) other than dozing in my arms periodlically. It's so exhausting having to carry and fuss him 24/7...although it's also lovely that he finds me hilarious and grins when he sees me too, more so than anyone else.

Was looking forward to driving lesson today, but instructor forgot. It was my 1.5hrs of peace

DS1 been grumpy and crying too, so been very trying weekend. Thank god DH was here.

Ah well.

Others may now commence grumping and whining.

SuperGrrrl · 20/01/2008 19:33

good luck hazeyjane! Here's to sleep and peace for all. x

padboz · 20/01/2008 21:24

oh dear hazeyjane - sounds nasty. Hope you are very asleep.

SuperGrrrl - YOU ARE LEARNING TO DRIVE? All power to your elbow but jeez - what a time to pick. I had several billion lessons and my instructor kept saying 'you must book your test' but I was so convinced I was going to plough down old women and cats that I went on and on and on reversing round the same arsing corners for months with the poor instructor yawning and telling me how to make carrot soup/ tile a shower/ fill in a tax return to keep himself awake. I think he may have actually been close sleeping towards the end cos he literally didnt even tell me which way to go next at junctions, just let me get on with it and go where I wanted. Unfortunately I suspect I am prone live my life this way

on a different note: WTH is wrong with small people between 5 and 7 on Sundays?

Gemy · 20/01/2008 22:21

Hi everyone. Just here on my own....waiting to give DD2 her dreamfeed....YAWN. Was going to have a nap but then was that worried that I'd drop off and it'd be like 3am when I woke, I've decided not to do that.

Have health visitor coming tomorrow. And I don't know why, but I always feel like the house should be immaculate and I should be all wearing non-sick clothes and makeup. But, I suspect tomorrow she will just have to make do with whatever she finds!

LOL regarding explaining why the moon is there sometimes and not there others.

I have been trying to teach DD1 about what is hot and what is cold. But, she doesn't get it. Instead, she announces that everything is hot after touching it (sofa cushion, fridge door, sock)and whenever we give her food (be it a biscuit or a hot meal) she announces that it is hot, and then proceeds to wait ages before eating (whilst touching it every now and again, announcing that it is still hot and then waits a bit longer - meal times are taking a while these days!)

SuperGrrrl, I too took lessons for ages and then just kind of got bored and stopped. I should really start again and you are an inspiration - and actually, having an hour away from the monkeys sounds good too

padboz · 21/01/2008 08:44

Hi Gemy - I had exactly the same problem! I wanted to be able to yell from a great distance NO THATS HOT and get instant results. We got two bowls, one with warm one with cold. Dip her hand in one then the other and say WAAAAAARM and COOOOOLD and then get her to tell you which is which. Then (and this is the evil bit) I
if it works you could try moving onto a third bowl thats uncomfortably hot - not actually painful but quite hot you understand - and say HOT! OW! Its quite a fun game. If your taps on the bath aren't scorching you can do the same there after running a bath - ours are dead old so they dont hold the heat and aren't going to BBQ anyone.