MistressMary, of course your child can't be put at risk by anyone who has been vaccinated and therefore isn't going to carry a disease.
Your point is, however, belied by the fact that if everyone adopted your POV, then your child would be put at risk by everyone else. That is what vaccination has done for us - provide those who choose not to vaccinate with the safety blanket that "these diseases are so rare that my baby won't catch one". Except, as has been seen in many affluent areas where several people in one location are following this argument, suddenly measles and other diseases are on the rise.
JimJams, I'm so sorry to hear about your child's terrible experience. I know it's a sensitive area, but don't really know why you would say "I'm sure you and yours are alright", as you don't know anything about "me and mine". In fact my DS is quite allergic to a lot of substances and, balancing that with our belief that vaccination is preferable to catching a serious disease, we opted for the MMR as separate vaccines. There was no choice for the 8/12/16 week vaccinations.
There are always going to be irreconcilable opinions on this issue. All I'm saying is there are some people who CANNOT have certain vaccines, whether that be down to allergy or chronic illness. These people should not be expected to live half a life, contained in their homes. If people want to "opt-out" of vaccination, then perhaps they should be made to stay at home and not put other susceptible people who don't have this choice, at risk.
There's a child in our local primary school in remission from leaukaemia. The headmaster sent a letter out months ago asking all parents of non-vaccinated children to reconsider, as this child would not be able to attend school if there was the slightest chance that he could catch a serious illness. I know several parents who have quietly failed to do anything about their own (perfectly healthy) children's vaccination status, whilst publicly endorsing the headmaster's view. Not to put too fine a point on it, this really makes me angry.