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Is anyone awake? Please help

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 04:49

Toddler kept climbing then falling out of cot. Transitioning to a toddler bed. Put him to bed at 7, slept until 2 and for the last two hours and 47 mins I have l been lying him back in bed every 3 seconds. It's a battle of the wills and he just isn't giving in. Everything online says just keep putting them back and eventually they'll give up but he isn't. What do I do? Do I just do this until 7am!?!

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TwoZeroTwoZero · 07/08/2021 04:52

If his room is safe, what would happen if you just left him in there? If he doesn't cry but is happy to play or potter, I'd be inclined to just let him get on with it.

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 04:54

@TwoZeroTwoZero

If his room is safe, what would happen if you just left him in there? If he doesn't cry but is happy to play or potter, I'd be inclined to just let him get on with it.

He's screaming crying for a hug and head butting the door

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Suzi888 · 07/08/2021 04:55

To put it bluntly, yes.
It’s why we ended up co-sleeping, so you have my sympathies!
A work colleague got a baby gate and put it across the child’s bedroom door, to stop them escaping their bedroom. Eventually the child gave up and stayed in bed. She would go in when they’d fallen asleep and throw a duvet over them.

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TeeBee · 07/08/2021 04:56

Do you have a stair gate you can put across his door so at least you know he's safe if he tries to come out?

TwoZeroTwoZero · 07/08/2021 04:56

Oh no, maybe not then. Tbh at this point I'd give up, bring him into your bed and get some sleep before trying again tomorrow.

SusieSusieSoo · 07/08/2021 05:00

Oh op I saw a house of tiny tearaways episode about this - first night they put the child back in their own bed 120 something times - it took a few nights to crack it. I'd also have given up by now (ds8 is sleeping at the side of me right now) - sending hugs xx

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 05:00

He's always slept with the door shut and he can't open it yet so he isn't getting out, just when he starts head butting or getting hysterical I go and lie him back down. I must of laid him back down over 300 times. It's been 3 hours I don't want it to of all been for nothing

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 05:01

We've tried co sleeping he just doesn't sleep. If he stirred in his cot he'd go back to sleep if he stirs in our bed he wakes us up to go get breakfast at 3am. He slept 7-7 in his cot for a year until last week he discovered how to climb out. I feel like I have a newborn again

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unidentifed · 07/08/2021 05:03

Keep going OP! Do not give in now, all the hard work will be down the drain if you do! Stay strong, uou can do it!

TheOpportuneMoment · 07/08/2021 05:03

How no old is he? My DS has been doing the same thing. We eventually gave up putting him back to bed and let him sleep with us for a couple of nights on waking but have been finding good old fashioned bribery works on him. Probably not the best plan but we told him he could have a present if he stayed in bed all night. Worked last night - he asked for help to go for a wee and then went back to his own room. He got a little toy in the morning. Tonight - he's just stirred, shouted and then turned over and gone back to sleep, so fingers crossed. Hoping it was just the novelty of it all and he'll start sleeping properly again soon.

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 05:11

He's absolutely nuclear now head butting walls doors shrill screaming I don't know what I'm supposed to do

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 05:18

He's headbutt the door so hard he's cut his head. 3 and a half wasted hours

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BeenThruMoreThanALilBit · 07/08/2021 05:21

Everything is worse in the middle of the night.

For you, also for him.

Go in there with your pillow and blanket and sleep on the floor next to his bed. You both need sleep.

Tomorrow talk to him about this not being on, he’s a big boy, he needs to stay in his bed.

How old is he?

BeenThruMoreThanALilBit · 07/08/2021 05:22

Oh dear. Hope he’s okay.

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 05:28

Tried to cuddle him in his bed and mine and he's screaming to go downstairs for breakfast. I can't do this every night

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unidentifed · 07/08/2021 05:32

You won't have to be very night, don't worry. It will get better. Take him and give him breakfast. I bet he goes back down after.

TeeBee · 07/08/2021 05:32

You won't be doing it every night. It'll take a few nights. Can you arm yourself with a sleep trainer clock? Have you tried not talking to him at all...just staying silent and moving him back to his bed? He's confused. Things have changed...he'll get there. Will you have the chance to sleep tomorrow? I'd say keep going if you can.

Poppop4 · 07/08/2021 05:35

Hi OP I know exactly what your going through but I’m afraid I don’t have any advice.
Dd is 2.5 and we are currently downstairs watching tv because she’s been up since 3am and is wide awake no chance of sleep.
She has been doing this for months now :( she’s over tired it’s always on the days when she’s refused a nap during the day which at the moment is more often than not. DP is unwell so I didn’t want to disturb his sleep so we’ve just got up but even in my bed she wouldn’t have gone back to sleep for hours and hours.
Sorry I can’t give you any advice just wanted to let you know it’s not just you going through this.

JulesCobb · 07/08/2021 05:41

Are you on your own op? Is there nobody there to help?
Can you nap today?

Oceanbliss · 07/08/2021 05:50

Maybe he his hungry. My dd used to wake up in the middle of the night telling me she was hungry. I’d give her a banana to eat. It kept happening so I moved her dinner time later, and that worked.

GeorgiaGirl52 · 07/08/2021 05:52

At that age mine slept 9:00p - 7:00a. Maybe let him stay up a little later?
Also, if he wants breakfast at 2am maybe he is hungry. I would leave a bottle of formula by the bed (Put there after they fell asleep!) If he woke up in the night he would see the bottle, drink it, throw it on the floor and go back to sleep for 2-3 hours. That bought me some extra time and kept me sane.

PatricksRum · 07/08/2021 06:02

How old is he?

I'd bed share and put him to sleep at the same time as you.

trappistkepler · 07/08/2021 06:13

You don't have to to do this everynight OP. 2 weeks maximum, but don't give in. When you do you reset to 0. 14 days max and you are done. Keep ploughing ahead.

trappistkepler · 07/08/2021 06:15

4 kids, 2 of them demons, if you see it through it carries over to feeding issues etc. like breaking a horse grin

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SleepyMamm · 07/08/2021 07:42

He doesn't nap anymore and is knackered by 7. He's always slept so well and it's just gone so downhill. He slept until 2 and we've been up ever since. We went downstairs as he was screaming for breakfast and had cut his head. He wouldn't eat when we went down there though he was just hysterical and didn't know what he wanted. I really dunno what to do now. I get the whole just keep putting them back thing but has these nuclear tantrums where he ends up hurting himself, I just can't see it working. We've had the odd night of trying bed sharing it doesn't work, he only sleeps well in a cot in a room on his own. If he sees anyone else it's game over.

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