To have a fourth or not?…. Would you?

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I have 8 year old twins and a 5 year old… I’m very broody for another.
I’m 33, DH 43. Would you… or not?

No personally. I think it’d be hard on the five year old if the twins have each other and you’re busy with the baby.

Yes yes and yes. I'm a proud Mummy to my one DS born after years of infertility. We are unlikely to have another. If I was you, I would go for it.

Nope.
Personally I wouldn’t ever want 4, but I definitely wouldn’t risk 5 (or 6!) with a history of multiples.

How does your DH feel? He's a wee bit older and may be looking forward to child free times ahead!

If you're both dying for another one, then I don't see why not, although we are stopping at two.

Are your twins identical or non identical? Ie how high are the chances of 2 more kids??? 5 is an enormous number.

Yes. I would.

What’s your financial situation? Your kids are at a really cheap age. They get way more expensive.
How will your decision impact your existing family?

These should be your main considerations, not that you are feeling broody. Based on your post, where you haven’t even mentioned these I would say no.

I would! You are still young to manage pregnancy and deal with a baby. Why not?

Three is loads. I always wanted a fourth child and had numerous miscarriages. Now that they are teens/early twenties I wonder what the hell I was thinking, to consider that three wasn't enough.

I wanted two children and am happy with staying at two. But in my personal experience growing up the 3rd child it was better for me when the 4th came. If I wanted a bigger family I wouldn't have 3 but 4.

My kids are 10, 10, 6 and 1. I was very worried about having number four, but we all love him and so far it has been mostly positive! Homeschooling 3 primary school children with a newborn wasn't my idea of fun, however

Think about space, time and money. You might find a hotel room for 5, but you'll need two rooms for 6. Do you have enough bedroom space? Can you afford 4 kids phone contracts eventually? Can you afford to feeeeeeed them all, aaaaaalllll the time (I am dreading the food bill when they're teenagers as it's large enough now)?

Nope 5 year age gap Is too large in terms of logistics, activities for a 10yr old and a 5yr old- I also, from your husbands perspective wouldn’t want to be approaching my 50s with a preschooler in tow.

I think four is a LOT of kids, so no, I wouldn't.

I have four. 9yr old twins, 7 and 5 yr old. Mine are identical twins and I wanted number 3 to have a buddy and not feel left out so had number 4 (as well as for the desire to have a big family). If number 3 is in a good mood, they are great at entertaining their younger sibling but also fight like nothing else!

It is very expensive though and relentless!

I have four although mine are close in age they are 17, 15, 13 and 11 now and they are expensive creatures. As well as always needing a 7 seater cars, 2 hotel rooms or a family room, now they are teenagers they don’t stop eating or wanting stuff. We are lucky enough to have a 5 bedroom house so they have their own rooms. They are all incredibly close and we are a good family unit.

I was a SAHM for years too as childcare for 4 is very expensive that’s one to think about.

I love having four! All adults now and such a team who love, cherish and cheer on each other, but it took work and making sure there was always a time alone with just me or DH
I’m not going to lie, at times it was hard and expensive, but never it’s never been dull.

Would I?? No...but then I wouldn't have had a third..

Should you?...well that's up to you 👍

Nope!

People will judge though, I’ve always put that down to jealousy 😉

Yes I would. I won't because we won't be able to afford it but without a doubt if I could id have loads. Dh wouldn't want to though he's happy with 2 but I'm talking to him about number 3 now. I have loads of time for my 2 now and I can't see it changing with another 1. Not sure with 4 or more but I'd make it work im sure.

I would. I also have twins and would like a younger sibling, but don’t want that child to feel left out...
Are yours fraternal twins (ie do you have a high chance of multiples again?). I think the chances of multiples after fraternal twins are 1 in 12.

Good god, absolutely not.

No because it sounds absolutely exhausting!

@HmmmmmmInteresting

I think four is a LOT of kids, so no, I wouldn't.

Same!

Yes 100%. We are going for 4.