Pettiest parenting pet peeves?

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What's the pettiest thing that annoys you about other parents? Something that you know is so pathetic to care about but it really grinds your gears?

Mine is probably when people say they're doing 'a bit of traditional weaning and a bit of baby led weaning' - you can't half do BLW... traditional weaning is purees AND finger foods, BLW is your child ALWAYS feeding themselves regular food.

So petty, I wish I could let go of it, but I internally eye roll every time.

When you go to a soft play party and you see toddler girls wearing BIG FRILLY dresses that the poor little things can’t move around in. Chuck some leggings on them and let them enjoy themselves! As a mum of two boys and then a little girl I love dressing her pretty but now that she’s moving around I hardly do it because I don’t want her being uncomfortable

Every Christmas/birthday a friend happily asks, "What do you give a child who has everything?" Those of us who can't afford 'everything' grind our teeth...
She doesn't realise how stuck up/insulting unfeeling she sounds.

People being sanctimonious about the definition of baby led weaning...

parents of PFB

The parents who can’t/won’t do admin. Especially the ones who are either not working, so children have their full concentration, or have professional jobs where I know they are completely capable of using a diary or keeping an appointment.

Parents WhatsApp is constantly full of when’s forest school, what do they need to wear today, what time does this start, I had no idea it was non uniform today…

It’s in the newsletter. It’s in your email. It was answered here yesterday. It’s on the website…

This! I get a kick telling these people I secretly never wanted to have a girl anyway and that always leaves them shocked!

@seriously79 really?
My DS has several life threatening food allergies. It's not a trend. It's not a choice.
He could die if he is exposed to foods like dairy, egg or nuts. We need to make sure those around us are aware, in order to keep him safe.
People like you who don't take allergies seriously make our life a lot harder.

Seriously79

Kids appetites!

'My Ds who is 9 months can eat 2 whole weetabix for breakfast'

This is due to BLW … 90% is in the hair/ears/floor… requiring the baby plus high chair to be hosed down outside post breakfast 😂

Problem is people say allergic when they mean don’t want my child to eat… so no dairy (chocolate) no eggs(cake). So it makes it hard for parents with real allergic issues. Mine is severely nut allergic .. it’s a pain in the tush

Parents like you are my pet peeve.

People who interfere with my parenting choices because they're different from theirs. At the moment, because dc are older, this particularly revolves around internet access/technology use. I'm quite strict with it, some other parents are not. Doesn't bother me, crack on and do what works for your family. But no, apparently they need to call me and lecture me about how a particular gaming/SM website is really safe and there's no way any strangers can contact dc, or how SM age limits are just for the companies to legally cover themselves and there's no harm in using them younger. Like, why does it bother you that my dc don't have access to things your dc do?! It affects you in no way whatsoever, just let me get on and parent my dc how I want and I'll continue to grant you the same courtesy.

Well according to my mother, I was fully potty trained AND dry through the night by 12 months

According to my Grandmother, her son was dry through the night by 9 months

😂

The competitive stuff always annoyed me. But actually parents who swear at their kids, who don't give them enough love and time, who don't talk to their babies/children, who don't respect their children or expect respect back, who end up with children who don't care about anyone and anything - that's what really annoys me

I guess mine would be people who say, "Oh my child is 38 months old." For GOD'S SAKE, what is wrong with, "She's three." I can see using months even as long as the second birthday (first is more rational), but after that it's a bit too precioius.

@openallflowers - Well according to my mother, I was fully potty trained AND dry through the night by 12 months

Aww. Never mind. I was trained by 2 weeks but you know, every child does it at their own pace. (Joking, just in case it's not obvious).

The best one I heard from my mother was when she consoled my sil as dn was behind my ds in something and she said: "They're all different. Ds is ahead in x (can't remember what, walking or talking or something similar) but dn had his first tooth a earlier ". Luckily sil has a sense ox humour.

[quote jobsagudden]**@Letsallscreamatthesistene* @Orangeinmybluelightcup*

A crunchy mom is one who is willing to go against the grain and do what is best for her child. She willingly does her own research for pregnancy and birth, breastfeeding and baby wearing, vaccines and solid foods

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Hahahaha haha!!!! Does her own research…. Ffs. Peer reviewed scientific studies can’t possibly match up to you googling @jobsagudden

Don’t know if it’s been mentioned yet but headbands on babies just look shit.

@redheadonascooter

So called Gentle Parenting. Sarah Ockwell Smith has a lot to answer for. Permissive nonsense.

The idea that you can only be a good responsive 'mumma' if you allow your child to BF on demand until they're about five even though you'd have stopped earlier, wear them incessantly, let them sleep on you, in your bed or on a mattress on your floor until they so choose to move themselves into their own room etc. I'm sure all these things make babies happy. But do you know what else does? Boundaries. Routine. Well rested parents who aren't on the brink of collapse because they've martyred themselves into exhaustion.

The BLW thing too - do they eat? Good fine then who gives a shit how they do it!

Why is it wrong then if it makes the baby happy. And you can bed share and still be well rested. Gentle parenting isn’t permissive the children still have boundaries

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

mothers saying "MY child does xyz" in a tone that let's you know her and HER child are superior in ever single way and we should be grateful to wear her fart as perfume

fathers simply don't do this

I know a guy who does! His first child is the same age as my second, and he constantly compares them (in favour of his). Admittedly he's the only man I know who does it, and it's just as tiresome as when women do it.

Parents of kids who stopped napping at 1 telling me "don't be quiet around this baby when they're sleeping, mine slept through the hoovering etc."..... or don't bath a baby with eczema every night.. coz they know better than me AND my dermatologist. omfg it makes me want to punch them in the nose..... and those who look at me like I am a monster for wanted to stop cosleeping with my 7m old.... I'm not putting him in the bloody attic, it's a cot FFS

@Mumofsons87 just look at any parents who have babies that stop napping with extreme sadness and pity! Toddler nap time is the BEST time I’d have died if mine stopped napping that young. DD is 4 and still naps every weekend. Love it!!

Personally, I'm a bit weirded out by the idea of piercing babies' ears it's obviously the parents' decision, but I was quite taken aback when FIL brought pearl earrings for DD (4 months old) and was unhappy because he had nowhere to stick them... well.

Stay at home mums who insist on telling working parents that they don't work because they "want to raise their children" or "be there for their children". Or insist that work is a break that working parents are so fortunate to have. Or that they are more tired than working parents.

Basically any comparison of stay at home vs working mums. We're all tired.

"we're not going down the baby proofing route, we're teaching him what he can and can't touch"

Alright then.

Also piercing baby's ears.