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Proud BF Mummy

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SarahSteedman82 · 15/06/2021 10:34

Many of my friends didn't or couldn't so don't quite understand but I'm so proud to have got to 4 years of breastfeeding, our 4 year old stopped when his little sister came along 2 years ago and she has now been 3 days without following on from my 4 year boobversay a week ago :)

Now I have my boobs back lol

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GreyhoundG1rl · 15/06/2021 17:09

There's a lot of bitter women on MN that couldn't be arsed or have a chip in their shoulder because they found it too difficult to BF so they enjoy belittling women's choice to breastfeed because it makes them feel better about the choice they made. BFing and FFing are valid choices and you did the best possible thing for your child.
That is absolutely not why people are giving the side eye to a post proclaiming "Look at me, I've been given diamonds and pearls on my boobversary" 😂

Myxisaprat · 15/06/2021 17:13

@GreyhoundG1rl

There's a lot of bitter women on MN that couldn't be arsed or have a chip in their shoulder because they found it too difficult to BF so they enjoy belittling women's choice to breastfeed because it makes them feel better about the choice they made. BFing and FFing are valid choices and you did the best possible thing for your child. That is absolutely not why people are giving the side eye to a post proclaiming "Look at me, I've been given diamonds and pearls on my boobversary" 😂

This. 100% what @GreyhoundG1rl said.

BiggerBoat1 · 15/06/2021 17:14

Being given diamonds for feeding your baby is just weird. Did you get some pearls for potty training or maybe a nice canteen of cutlery for weaning your children?

Does your DH contribute to the raising of your children? What sort of reward system have you set up for him?
All quite bizarre.

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MiddleParking · 15/06/2021 17:14

I personally would accept diamonds for no reason at all

Well done OP!

Myxisaprat · 15/06/2021 17:14

Although at least that’s another reason why my ex is a prat. I never got diamonds for my boobversaries. Either of them.

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/06/2021 17:15

No need to be so defensive

I think there is a need. Society struggles to support women to BF without guilting women who don't. Instead of paying to support BFing we have useless 'breast is best' campaigns which alienate many mothers and piss off many more.

BFing is a net gain for society. We don't need to make FF seem like a net loss to individuals, because it's not.

BFing is great and really interesting. And I liked it because I'm lazy and disorganised. Have breast, no sterile/cold/hot/waiting issues. FFing is brilliant because men can do it, it doesn't hurt and it keeps babies alive.

But actually having a free choice with support not blame is important. And utterly failing in the UK.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 15/06/2021 17:19

@GreyhoundG1rl

There's a lot of bitter women on MN that couldn't be arsed or have a chip in their shoulder because they found it too difficult to BF so they enjoy belittling women's choice to breastfeed because it makes them feel better about the choice they made. BFing and FFing are valid choices and you did the best possible thing for your child. That is absolutely not why people are giving the side eye to a post proclaiming "Look at me, I've been given diamonds and pearls on my boobversary" 😂

Totally. The OP’s post is unbearably smug.

user1493494961 · 15/06/2021 17:19

That's nice.

DoucheCanoe · 15/06/2021 17:20

Absolutely agree with everything that MrsTerryPratchett said.

Gazelda · 15/06/2021 17:21

OP, I'm pleased for you that you were able to breastfeed your DC for so long. In fact, I'm envious. I wasn't able to for longer than a month. And I feel ashamed for that.

So, and please don't take this the wrong way, I hope you haven't been telling your friends who didn't BF about the diamonds. It could come across as bragging/being superior/as though you've achieved more than them so deserve a reward.

Welliesandpyjamas · 15/06/2021 17:22

Well done, OP 🙂
I also did 10 months, 2 years, and 2 years with my 3 DC and am privately very proud too.

Somethingsnappy · 15/06/2021 17:25

@MrsTerryPratchett You think there is a need for that poster to have written such scathing responses to the OP's post? As that is what I was clearly referring to with the sentence in bold.

DoucheCanoe · 15/06/2021 17:26

@Gazelda, please please don't feel ashamed at all.

Breastfeeding isn't always easy or the right choice for Mum/Baby - if your baby is nutritionally satisfied now you're doing the best with what you have, whether that's via breast, bottle or tube 💐

Somethingsnappy · 15/06/2021 17:29

P. S. But I agree with the rest of your post x

hitsvilleuk · 15/06/2021 17:32

I BF mine. Didn't feel proud or not proud.

This whole post is most peculiar - its like it's an achievement for doing something natural and normal.

Equally nothing wrong with FF

MostlyNormalSometimesOdd · 15/06/2021 17:44

@Myxisaprat

Boobversary?

I fed one of mine to 4 years ago when it wasn’t the done thing. Honestly, no one cares and it won’t matter when they’re 20 and necking kebabs and beer.

Honestly, no one cares and it won’t matter when they’re 20 and necking kebabs and beer.

angstridden2 · 15/06/2021 17:44

I didn’t feed either of mine for more than a few weeks. I didn’t enjoy it, it hurt like hell because I had mastitis and a cracked nipple. My children now have children of their own, were rarely ill, went to university and still appear to love me.

Why do women do this to other women ? BF is great if you can and want to do it. In the developed world babies will do just fine if you can’t. I would add that I find the idea of a 3 or 4 year old still being BF really weird, but I’ll admit that’s possibly just my issue!

PixieDust28 · 15/06/2021 17:47

boobversay

PixieDust28 · 15/06/2021 17:48

I FF my DS. No milk to give.

Aww, I didn't get diamonds. Just a Pearl necklace.

Kidding.. .

RoseRedRoseBlue · 15/06/2021 17:50

@PixieDust28 😂😂😂

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SarahSteedman82 · 15/06/2021 17:53

The attacks on an innocent post are awful tbh.

The one reason I posted this was as I feel really really proud of myself for doing this and for the fact that I wouldn't put this to my friends due to their own personal circumstances around BF, I thought that anyone who either wasn't interested or had an issue with a BF mum feeling proud would just scroll on past.

Clearly support for fellow women is lacking in many on here.

As for calling my DH a gift weird or bizarre is frankly out of order, he should be able to buy something for me surely? Which something to commemorate this was what he felt right and I loved it. It seems that in some people's eyes a man can't do anything at all right. He does more than his fair share of everything children and house related (not that is anyone's business) and we both work hard in our professional life's.

As I have said more than once now fed and happy is all that matters and not once have I said anything against FF. I am sure many will still find fault in what I'm now saying and tell me I'm showing off but that is not the case, there was me thinking this would simply attract like minded supportive women instead it has brought out those who wait for anything they can to jump on and demean the poster.

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enjoyingscience · 15/06/2021 17:54

Well done you OP. BF changed my relationship with my body so much - I went from really disliking it to thinking it’s the best thing ever - how clever our bodies really are! It’s not the most attractive, but it made and fed my babies. I get why you’re proud.

purpleme12 · 15/06/2021 17:57

I didn't breastfeed but if I had I think I'd feel proud of myself too even if it is just neutral

I have birth naturally with forceps help. I felt really proud of myself for that even though it's natural and that says nothing against other ways of doing it. So I don't think there's anything wrong with how OP feels and I don't think she's made it into a competition or anything

Somethingsnappy · 15/06/2021 17:57

@hitsvilleuk

I BF mine. Didn't feel proud or not proud.

This whole post is most peculiar - its like it's an achievement for doing something natural and normal.

Equally nothing wrong with FF

Ah, but that's the thing. It is natural, but it's not normal, as in the sense of 'the norm'. Breastfeeding is still very much the minority in this country and perhaps that's why some people feel a sense of achievement in a way that they wouldn't necessarily in countries where BF is indeed the norm.

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SarahSteedman82 · 15/06/2021 17:57

When did it become wrong for your husband to buy a gift? Had I not wanted or not liked the gift I would have said no thanks, as it is It will remain a special gift that in years to come will mean alot to me.

He dealt with potty training and most tasks and jobs are shared between us, not that it matters.

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