Proud BF Mummy

[SarahSteedman82]

Many of my friends didn't or couldn't so don't quite understand but I'm so proud to have got to 4 years of breastfeeding, our 4 year old stopped when his little sister came along 2 years ago and she has now been 3 days without following on from my 4 year boobversay a week ago :)

Now I have my boobs back lol

2.5 years and counting here, no signs of stopping and were not talking a couple times a day.

Benefits for her:

• antibodies, she catches everything going
• comfort
• snackage

Benefits for me:

• reduced risks of cancer
• can instantly shut her up 😇 and make her feel better
• emergency snacks on tap

Still seems like a decent amount of benefits given she's over 2

@JeanClaudeVanDammit

Bearing in mind that those BF are already hugely in the minority (17% of mums at 3 months, 1% of mums at 6 months) can we just let them share their stories, without trying to shame them into silence please.

Those statistics are only accurate if you think that mothers who use any formula don’t count. A baby who gets 1 bottle a week of formula and every other feed from the breast is still a breastfed baby IMO but not according to that statistic.

I’m sorry but we all know U.K. has one of the lowest rates of BFing in the world do we need to argue the toss about exactly how low?

@Myxisaprat

And of course me being told I need counselling isn’t upsetting at all.

That reads like a ‘no’ to ‘can you specify where FF has been judged?’.

@MoreAloneTime

It's no good in tea, too watery

I’m sorry but we all know U.K. has one of the lowest rates of BFing in the world do we need to argue the toss about exactly how low?

Yes if you’re trying to claim that breastfeeding mothers of 6 month old babies are in a minority of 1%.

That's true, but if you include people who combi feed, I think the figure for BF at 6 months is still in the minority. I think it's only about 30ish percent of babies who are receiving any breastmilk at all at 6 months.

Oh definitely, but there’s a big difference between 1% and about a third.

There is. But at 30% there is still 70%, so over double, of babies that are not breastfed past 6 months.

Definitely in the minority.

I should have clarified 1% of babies are exclusively breastfed at 6 months. Yes more babies are combination fed, still very much the minority, the U.K. is still one of the worst countries in the world at this, so the point is still exactly the same.
Maybe it’s partly because god forbid someone could be pleased or proud about having done it, without being told they are being judgy, boasty, smug, gross, weird, and basically being shamed into shutting up.

@Pieceofpurplesky your comment represents everything that is wrong with mumsnet. Use your time elsewhere- don’t just go on a thread to be a dick.

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@SoupDragon so you put breast milk on your cereal or in your coffee?
Unless her spelling and grammar are impeccable I doubt *@SoupDragon is 4 years old.

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ODFO @Greenmarmalade I am not a dick and I am not everything that is 'wrong with mumsnet'. I even wished her well. I just happen to think the word boobversary is a fucking stupid word and concept - as many poster have said. Maybe I should have a mastitisversary or a conceptionaversary?

I can find a word bloody stupid without you calling me a dick.

Find it stupid, yes. Don’t tell OP on a post where she’s celebrating something that is a great personal achievement to her. If you just think it, I won’t be moved to call you a dick.

If a mastitisversary came with presents I’d be well up for it.

your comment represents everything that is wrong with mumsnet
Ridiculous, nonsensical phrase. This is a discussion forum, people give opinions.

That is literally the purpose of Mumsnet, not "what is wrong with" it. 🙄

People should ‘literally’ exercise judgement on which posts to comment on and the tone in which to post.

@Greenmarmalade I thinking calling someone a dick after reading a comment that is pretty harmless compared to some of the other things said on this thread is more representative of ‘what’s wrong with mumsnet’ than someone saying they dislike the term ‘boobversary’. Piece was by no means the first to voice that opinion so why not read the full thread and make a long list of posters you want to name call for that one

No, I’m good. They probably already know that anyone who jumps on a thread like this to take someone down a peg or two, when they’re feeling good about achieving something, is being a dick.

You can start with me Greenmarmalade. It's fine, I literally don't give a toss what you think.

Well said, @Greenmarmalade. There have been some horrible comments on this thread. There is a big difference between voicing opinions and using insults designed to upset the OP, but of course, the ones who do it would never admit it.

@Greenmarmalade I said this in my post ...

"Boobversery has to be one of the cringiest things I have ever heard. Sorry OP, well done you and all that but 🤢. I bet you had a baby moon too!"

There have been many many more things said to the OP about her personally, rather than my dismay at what is a shit word. Had it been 'breastfeedingaversary' I would have felt less 🤢. I also hate the noun boob being used as a verb. It was the word I commented on - even apologising to the OP. But that's fine green if it makes you feel better to ignore all the posts calling out the OP personally.

Oh and @Greenmarmalade if you'd had severe mastitis then you really wouldn't want to celebrate.

Well done OP! It can be a tough old slog and you should be proud. Celebrate your achievement, ignore those who'd rather vilify than celebrate with you, and mark this ending however you see fit. Enjoy your necklace, it sounds gorgeous!

I can’t stand the judgmental breast is best mothers. I’ve been judged by breastfeeding mums when feeding formula (the veiled comments, the look of surprise that I’m not breastfeeding my newborn baby - yes I see you) and it’s plain cruel. Well guess what, your child won’t have any happier, healthier, better or more successful life than mine because you breastfed and I wasn’t able to. And another thing - there are multiple factors that are needed to be a good parent, not just breastfeeding. So get over yourselves.

Lastly, I presume all the smug judgmental breastfeeding mums feed their children perfect organic home cooked diets as well once they start weaning (because nutritious food is extremely important for our children’s health as opposed to processed crap). No, thought not.

I don't think you've read the OP or any of the thread. Literally, bf is hard and we are allowed to be proud. That doesn't cast judgment on people who don't bf. You have got a massive chip on your shoulder.

There has always been a woeful lack of support for BF in this country and any campaigns to try to rectify the situation have only served to make it worse. It's such an emotive topic.

What?? It’s completely the other way round. Breastfeeding mothers are seen as some sort of perfect, wholesome, ideal mothers, while us formula feeding mums are judged like we’re bad parents and don’t give a crap about our kids. Even buying formula we’re bombarded with messages about breast is best, making us feel guilty every time. It’s disgraceful and a horrible way to start your journey as a new mother - made to feel like an outcast for buying formula to feed your baby. Sick of BF mothers pretending they’re the outcasts when it’s the total opposite.

I don't think you've read the OP or any of the thread. Literally, bf is hard and we are allowed to be proud.

There’s a thoughtless comment on page ONE, saying “You have done a fantastic thing for your children and it will make a difference to their health throughout their lives”. The obvious implication being that FF mothers haven’t done that.