Our DS was born with an infection, and was treated for jaundice and thrush too at birth. He developed umbilical hernia. However, he was a content and quiet little thing♥️
When he turned 1 month old, things changed, and I don’t mean generally of course, babies change, I mean drastically. He never stopped crying. He wouldn’t stop. We got the odd smile, but mainly he would just cry all the time
Just FYI, I combination feed him, so bottle and direct breast feeding when he will take it which is usually during the night. Not sure if this makes a difference
He’s now 4 months old. He still hates anything and everything. All the baby equipment you can imagine we have purchased. He doesn’t even like the sling, I’ve even walked round top half naked with the sling so he can have skin to skin. I bathe with him for comfort too. But the only time I get quiet is if I go walking and face him outward in a carrier so he can see out and be attached to me, but I’ve only just recently started doing this as he was too young before to do so. I can’t walk for more then 20 mins, so it’s short lived😩
I’ve been to the GP, who has tried prescription milk, and gaviscon. Nothing has worked. He got that bad once, I took him to hospital during the middle of the night, the paediatrician said it’s called the “4 month fussies” but he’s been like this since 4 weeks I explained. She just said you have a cranky baby. He has tears pouring down his face every time he cries, and it’s breaking my heart seeing him this way
No toys, no amount of baby massage, walking, singing, even sensory tv I’ve given into, nothing works. He is like in a permanent bad mood. I absolutely adore him, he is my little best friend, but I have to be honest and say I feel cheated of what I know motherhood can be like with a happier baby
He only naps for 15 minutes, 3 times, during the day, and that has to be laid on me. Which I don’t mind, I love the cuddles. But I physically can’t get anything done when he’s awake either. Ive tried housework with him in the carrier/sling but he cries, even managing to wash my face, brush my teeth is a challenge if I’m honest!
When he smiles, we get about a 5 minute block of happiness. Then it just randomly stops and he starts again
During the night he wakes every 1.5 hours. But the first block is about 3 hours. He goes to bed for 11 hours, in a cot beside me. I’m so exhausted, but I can get over that, I’m more sad that I can’t make my baby happy
Please tell me someone else has been in this situation? I can’t nip to a shop, I can’t go visit a friend, I can’t say let’s go for a nice walk in the park, I can’t take him anywhere without him screaming the place down. Even if I carry him. I am fortunate to have friends with babies all similar ages, however their babies are so content, they sit and play and gurgle away, whilst he screams and we can’t even have a conversation so I go home.
Any help appreciated
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It’s making me feel like I’m failing as a Mum. I know his Dad feels the same way