I have 2dc, dd4 and DS nearly 2.
They scrap a bit, which I know is normal. DS will do something DD doesn't like and it escalates, she often then grabs at his face, pushes him or pinches.
My question is - what's the best way to intervene in these scraps? I often want to protect DS so much that I pick up/move DD to put her out of reach of him, plonk her somewhere then cuddle upset DS. But that leaves DD being handled less gently than I ideally want and usually crying on her own (same room but apart). I don't want to model rough behaviour to her but I also can't let her hurt DS.
If I don't separate them, they usually keep trying to hit each other.
Any ideas?