Would you allow 9yr old to buy Gucci?

[mamatocaptainchaos]

My son loves fashion. He always like to look good bless him.

Anyway; he wants to buy a Gucci fedora hat which is £150. He has saved up £200 from pocket money.

What are you opinions on this?! Partner says it's up to him! I think it's madness 😂

Yes the private school thing is not my experience at all.

oh good grief ! was my first reaction when i saw the link.

@AmIBeingTwatty

Prevalent at state school too I can assure you. My dd got teased at high school (age 10-14) for her Florence and Fred jeans, until then she had no idea brands existed and were to be coveted. I bought second hand gap jeans which whilst very much not the desired brand, were sufficiently cool to stop the teasing.

@Atalune

Yes- I think a 9 year old valuing a Gucci hat is quite gross. I would blame myself and think where had I gone wrong? If it was a passing whim maybe not. But if they were hell bent on it? Yes, a fail.

Why do they value it? They are 9- what’s influencing their decision? If they were 16/7 I would feel differently because they would have so many greater outside influences. But at 9, unless your into designer clobber yourself and YOU value it, why on earth are they in to it? And £150 is stupid money for a child to spend.

Well, I think a 9 year old valuing an Xbox is quite gross. I would blame myself and think where had I gone wrong? If it was a passing whim maybe not. But if they were hell bent on it? Yes, a fail.

Why do they value it? They are 9- what’s influencing their decision? If they were 16/7 I would feel differently because they would have so many greater outside influences. But at 9, unless your into gaming yourself and YOU value it, why on earth are they in to it? And £150 is stupid money for a child to spend.

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What a stupid argument.

Well this thread has taken a weird turn.

I suppose it would always happen with the amount of mumsnetters who are disgusted by those buying designer handbags.

I think if he's managed to save £200 from pocket money alone he's very determined - well done him. He obviously wants it! His own money so his choice.

Goodness 😂😂 I must be an awful mother because my asd son wants a Gucci hat at age 9 ..... where have I gone wrong?! Please help.

No.

Your face is stupid

How can you see it?

I'd let him, he's obviously saved hard for it. What's the point him having money if he can't spend it as he chooses?

It's easy to spend £150 on one or two Lego sets that end up broken into pieces and never used again. If it's what he likes them I wouldn't stop him.

I think at the end of the day it's his decision what he spends his money on (obv if legal and safe).
I don't think it's that nice though.
Have you looked at other hats in a similar style with him?
My kids prefer to waste their money on in app purchases, although DS1 is saving hard for upgrades to his gaming pc.
If he's got his heart set on it I would let him buy it.

Personally I can't see anything wrong with this as my DS (14) saved up his money for a McLaren F1 jacket which we managed to get in the Black Friday sale for £120 (original price £180).

We do think it mad at first, but as he pointed out he had saved the money.

Now he wears it occasionally and he loves it!

Thank you to all who have given me some good feedback on this!

I think we will wait for shops to open and wait and see if he still wants it then.

If he does; then so be it. He's saved for this for a while now and it was his aim.

If he loves it then that's great. I personally think it's vile 😂 but everyone has their own tastes!

If he then wants more designer gear then he can save for it can't he.

I agree with Reindeers advice.

I think saving for something and delayed gratification is a quality rarely seen in kids these days so I'd encourage this. As another previous poster said some kids would fritter the money away on sweets and other crap and have nothing to show for it.

Don't forget peeps, we're in lockdown so if a child has had a birthday (maybe two) in that time, Christmas and pocket money you could easily save it if you had decided to save for something special.

And you know what? Let's say he goes for it and then a few weeks later is gutted that he wasted the cash ... it's a shame but a lesson that will stay with him.

Yes- I think a 9 year old valuing a Gucci hat is quite gross. I would blame myself and think where had I gone wrong? If it was a passing whim maybe not. But if they were hell bent on it? Yes, a fail.

What would a 9 yo old buy that is acceptable. Gaming, no, sweets, hell no, clothes, no, junk food, no. Actually mine probably wins because she buys animal related things and is obsessed with locally source, ethical stuff. That's passes the MN pursed-lip test I'm sure.

Most kids buy shite and that's the lesson. Why should a 9 yo value what I value? And I waste money on shite as well!

I would let him yes but stress the fact that once he’s bought it, that’s that money gone.

He won’t get it back and would have to save up again to get that amount again

Fucking hell Op You're taking some flack from some PPs. Some poor twats so bored of their boring lockdown life that they come on here and spew their vitriol!

Anyway OP, I too think £150 is a lot for a hat but it's not me buying it. It's his money and he's saved long and hard, bless him.

Let him have it!

And if he ends up accidental sitting on it the first day he has it. Well it's one of life's lesson eh? Look after your stuff.

I don't know why you wouldn't let him. As a kid I would have found this drastically unfair. In fact as an adult I think it's unfair. Much fucking better than sweets and comics, or coins for some shit game!

I bought my son a Gucci t-shirt for Christmas when he was 9/10. Admittedly it got a lot more wear than I imagine a hat would.

I have another child who is on the spectrum and when they want something, they NEED it - becomes like an obsession! If you're able to put him off until shops open then great but also it is his money and no matter what he wants to spend it on, he's learned to save for something (hardly a parenting fail, that!). I really don't get why some are going so crazy about it.

Speaking as a teacher of 9 year olds, they do indeed buy shite. The amount of waffle shaped fidget toys I've seen in the past couple of weeks

If he then wants more designer gear then he can save for it can't he.*

@mamatocaptainchaos my thoughts exactly !!

OP pay no attention to those judging your lads sense of style, life would be boring if we all dressed the same.

Who knows .... he could be the next Alexander McQueen