Would you allow 9yr old to buy Gucci?

[mamatocaptainchaos]

My son loves fashion. He always like to look good bless him.

Anyway; he wants to buy a Gucci fedora hat which is £150. He has saved up £200 from pocket money.

What are you opinions on this?! Partner says it's up to him! I think it's madness 😂

Yes of course.

He's saved his money up for something he really wants.

That's commendable.

To say no after he's done the saving is horrible! Is it his pocket money or not?

I don't think I would.

I honestly don't think it is anyone's business about how much pocket money we give our son though? Is it? Surely that is up to us. He does his chores and he earns it in my opinion! And he likes to save his money to buy things he really wants.

I honestly don't think he wants a Gucci hat so he looks like he's rich and famous. That isn't my son at all. I don't even know if he knows any celebrities who wear it apart from (and this is a guess) you tubers 😂

I think he should be allowed to choose what he spends his saved money on.

It is up to him to look after it and perhaps in the future he'll decide that actually, it was a poor choice of purchase. Or maybe he'll treasure it and decide to buy more designer bucket hats

Oh it's heinous

I'd let him buy it though. He's clearly set a goal and saved for it, which is a good thing. Even if the goal is a dreadful hat. And if it turns out that he doesn't use it, then there's learning in that too for him.

If he ruins it, loses it or it's stolen, he will learn a really important lesson. If not, maybe he'll be a designer in 20 years.

Either way, there are lessons when children are allowed to spend their own money, both good and bad.

@AmIBeingTwatty

In your defence OP, and to the posters not knowing where this has come from- my DD goes to a private school and they all own designer belts, hats, trainers etc

Maybe it’s not as prevalent in state school, but in DDs school it’s certainly not difficult to see how a 9 year old boy would want a Gucci hat.

That's interesting.

I was going to question what the boys friends were like, as round here the kids into Armani or Gucci tend to be the ones who have dodgy connections!

I’m not sure a 9 yo with ASD would be remotely interested in status. If he’s interested in high fashion brands, it’s more likely because they can be collected, classified and catagorised. A bit like a stamp collection!

Do they have a good resale value? I take comfort in knowing that if DS loses interest in the £1000s worth of Lego he’s accrued over the years, at least we can make some money back by eBaying it all!

I would feel I had failed at parenting if any of my children wanted to buy something Gucci.

@Atalune

I’d think it was a whim and not encourage it.

I’d also be quite sad that he thought this was a something worth having. It’s a parenting fail.

Get over yourself, you are being idiotic

There is nothing wrong with having a passion for fashion, it’s an art form. Much of the snobbery around it is pure sexism.

... the only thing I’d say OP is do give him a bit of a scare about looking after it -

I think it will get nicked.

We have normal jobs, average incomes, and my DD has over £100 saved. She gets £3 a week pocket money she uses to buy books and craft supplies, and is also spoilt rotten by her gran who happily hands over £50 in cash direct to the child for her birthday. So I believe a child has £200 simply by not blowing it on superzings like my youngest does.
Very interesting question op. I don't actually know.
I do think the more people that tell you no, the more cemented into the "yes" position you will become. Look into motivational interviewing if you are interested in why!

@AgeLikeWine

Absolutely not. What a ridiculous idea. I wouldn’t spend £150 on a piece of branded fashion tat for myself, never mind a 9 year old.

You need to ask yourself some serious questions about the shallow, superficial materialistic values which this child has evidently been taught. Poor kid.

He’s not asking the OP to buy it. He wants to buy it.

I really don’t see how it’s shallow for a child to save up to buy something they really want. So what if it’s a designer hat? He’s 9, what exactly is he going to spend it on that isn’t materialistic?

I would let him buy it. I don’t see the point in allowing him to save up money and then dictating what he is and isn’t allowed to spend it on. I spent all of my Christmas money on one very expensive (and quite ‘grown up’) item when I was a similar age to him, sometimes we just see something we really like!

@AmIBeingTwatty

In your defence OP, and to the posters not knowing where this has come from- my DD goes to a private school and they all own designer belts, hats, trainers etc

Maybe it’s not as prevalent in state school, but in DDs school it’s certainly not difficult to see how a 9 year old boy would want a Gucci hat.

I’ve taught in 5 different independent schools and I haven’t seen any children this age buying or coveting these kind of designer clothes. Maybe it depends where you live?

In answer to the question, I suppose I would let my DC choose what they spent their own money on but honestly, they have never been near to this kind of money at 9 years old.

@NotYourReindeer

Hes saved up for it, it's his money. He knows that to have nice things, you save.

I can't see why you wouldn't allow it. It's also a good idea to show him that he needs to look after it.

If he's into fashion then that's his thing. If he were into Lego and wanted to spend the money on that I imagine you wouldn't have a problem.

I say this as someone who shops for clothes at Matalan and Asda.

This perfectly sums up what I was going to say.

@HerNameIsIncontinentiaButtocks

Also... Fedora. Just no. It's a total incel type cliche nowadays, and if he does get it he'll he horrified when he finds out.

I'm hoping he doesn't discover the term incel for a fair few years!!!

Can you find a non branded one in the same style perhaps, my dd had a similar thing for hats, problem is being a child they leave them places. DD's was from the market (or rather 4 were as I replaced it multiple times)

I think he's saved up and it's what he wants to spend it on. Would it be more worthy if it was Lego or a couple of games for his console?

If he does lose it or lose interest, that's a lesson learned.

If however, he's happy to spend £150 on a hat because the money comes very easily to him, that's another issue altogether, but nothing to do with the hat.

My DS at that age couldn't save for anything. As soon as he had a couple of quid it had to be spent. That's not a better scenario.

I'd let him.

Maybe see if he can find one second hand perhaps?

But otherwise, I'd let him full price or not. It presumably will have some resale value once he grows out if it as well?

@AmIBeingTwatty

In your defence OP, and to the posters not knowing where this has come from- my DD goes to a private school and they all own designer belts, hats, trainers etc

Maybe it’s not as prevalent in state school, but in DDs school it’s certainly not difficult to see how a 9 year old boy would want a Gucci hat.

Bizarrely it’s the opposite at my Dc Private school Being too flash really isn’t cool

. I don't even know if he knows any celebrities who wear it apart from (and this is a guess) you tubers

God I hate youtube, my 6 yr old asked for merch recently. Yes he wants his own merch! 😆

Of course its part of the issue. Either you dont give him enough money to be able to afford it, or you start dictating to him what he can and cant buy. In my eyes, you cant let him have the pocket money then control what he does with it.

My youngest dc although a few years older than yours is similarly into things like this and has the matching rucksack, a few of those Supreme T-shirts etc and a pair of ridiculous trainers he has never worn as he is “saving them for best”. My dh is scandalised by it all but in fairness he does save up for his clothes and really looks after them whereas my eldest will wear any old thing and just goes for comfort. I’d let him if it’s what he really wants. Let’s face it any 9 year old given £150 is going to waste it on whatever they buy, he might as well get what he really wants!