Would you allow 9yr old to buy Gucci?

[mamatocaptainchaos]

My son loves fashion. He always like to look good bless him.

Anyway; he wants to buy a Gucci fedora hat which is £150. He has saved up £200 from pocket money.

What are you opinions on this?! Partner says it's up to him! I think it's madness 😂

Seems perfectly sensible to me.

That was to Edel

@missrm

Jeezo. Some of these comments. It's hardly like he wants to order a fuckin bazuka from the dark web.

Let him buy it but encourage him to look after it so he can maybe sell it on afterwards. Explain the chances of him still coveting it on a year or so are fairly low.

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This. Fab post

Saving to buy a posh hat will not turn OPs son into a label obsessed capitalist psycho

Posh it most certainly is not.

TBH some of the judging of others happening on this thread is just as ugly a quality as being label obsessed.

He’s saved his money so let him buy what he likes I’d say, loving the hat too your son has style, too many frumps on here they wouldn’t know about fashion.

I’d also love to know what a drug dealer meant to look like?? Some of the comments are terrible. Do you think a drug dealer can’t wear suits etc?? So many uneducated people on here it’s shocking.

Don’t ever feel like you’re not a good mother you’re doing your best and we’re all learning a long the way xx

@TatianaBis

Saving to buy a posh hat will not turn OPs son into a label obsessed capitalist psycho

Posh it most certainly is not.

I think you get my drift though

@TatianaBis

So they have toys from one of the biggest global brands... star wars is Disney. And they have Apple products. Your children are not exactly " non branded"

I didn't say they were non-branded I they were not 'indulged in brands from they they are born'.

Star Wars was originally produced by Lucasfilm which was an independent company and only became a Disney subsidiary in 2012.

By Disney I meant the standard Disney cack - Mickey Mouse, Snow White, Cinderella, Frozen etc.

But the point remains, they're still influenced and "indulged" in media brands, whose sole purpose is to make money and get "brand loyalty".

And they've done a fantastic job because MN wouldn't have jumped down the OPs poster's throat if instead if the boy wanting a hat, he had saved up for a Lego Deathstar. Star wars/Lego/Disney are so ubiquitous you don't even realise that they're a brand as such...in fact one poster said Disney was a necessity!!!

You either have to get rid of your kids global branded toys ...or say it's absolutely fine for this particular 9yo to like Gucci, in the same way your kids like Star Wars.

I'm normally a big fan of 'they'll learn more about not wasting their money if they waste a little while they can afford to and can regret it without repercussions'. He's done well to save from pocket money, birthday and Christmas for something he wants so much.

My main concern would be how much he'll regret it when it gets dirty ( make him promise to never let a lovely hat hold him back), and if it doesn't fit. Make sure he measures his head in the right place and check: no matter how much he loves it if it isn't going to fit him until he's 17 he'll have stopped loving it by then.
He has g to he money. It didn't matter if it's a designer hat or a Halfords bike: he saved and this is what he's chosen.

@mamatocaptainchaos ah go henry I forgot you could use those.

My yes still remains. His money. He can buy it himself etc. Life lesson for him in so many ways. Online shopping etc and also taking care of it.

Out of interest I asked Dm whether there was anything I’d done like this. She reminded me of the cherry red doc martens I was desperate for. So desperate that when she said no because in her view they were lesbian boots I saved and saved. And bought them myself.

I loved those boots. I wore them until they practically fell apart.

I was maybe 10/11. And Dm still has them.

But the point remains, they're still influenced and "indulged" in media brands, whose sole purpose is to make money and get "brand loyalty".

No they are not 'indulged' in media brands. Allowing them Star Wars stuff because it's a good set of movies - imaginative and interesting - doesn't mean they're indulged in brands generally.

And they've done a fantastic job because MN wouldn't have jumped down the OPs poster's throat if instead if the boy wanting a hat, he had saved up for a Lego Deathstar. Star wars/Lego/Disney are so ubiquitous you don't even realise that they're a brand as such...in fact one poster said Disney was a necessity!!!

I didn't realise they were a brand? Eh?

Disney is most certainly not a necessity of any kind.

You either have to get rid of your kids global branded toys ...or say it's absolutely fine for this particular 9yo to like Gucci, in the same way your kids like Star Wars.

Possibly the most gormless comment I've seen on seen on here - and there's a lot of competition.

Yes. But if it's ok for your kids to have and want a star wars item. It's absolutely fine for OPs kid to have and want Gucci items.

There's absolutely no difference.

There's absolutely no difference.

Yeah there is - didn’t cost £150. Nor did they go out of fashion...

Some Star Wars things are expensive. Star Wars lego for example.

In answer to the original question:

No way, not in a million years.

The critical difference between brands for children is that toys such as Brio or Lego come in all price points. Brands such as Gucci etc only do mid to high and many silly ultra high price points and you can get similar items with same functionality (if not quite the look) for a fraction of the price. However would you rather one Gucci item which may be better cares for (and even have a residual resale value) or twenty cheap similar but cost the same.

Technically everything is branded but it's whether they offer suitable products at all price points or whether they only do high profit margins business rip off pricing.

Disney etc again is mainstream and have products at all price points. Plus there is countless choice from other competitors for similar products. Certain brands only do cheap eg supermarket own brands while offers only rip off pricing. Many toys like the wooden train sets are compatible with the original highest price Brio brand. Same with Lego as I have previously discovered at a drop in nursery who just relied on Wilco bricks as they are fully compatible with Lego but much less expensive. The little children do not care and have just as much fun!

Absolutely I would. He has saved the money and frankly I know 9 year olds who spend that on road bucks or whatever they are called. It's a yes from me and good for him

@00100001

Yes. But if it's ok for your kids to have and want a star wars item. It's absolutely fine for OPs kid to have and want Gucci items.

There's absolutely no difference.

I gave up with this thread but I agree with all your posts. There is a real problem with understanding what you are saying from some posters, maybe an intelligence issue or a hyacinth bucket one.

The county lines comments, the labelling of a nine year old as shallow. Some of the perfect mothers on this thread need to take a long hard look at themselves and their motivation for their unnecessarily unkind comments.

I suspect it’s inherent insecurity.

I posted much earlier on in the thread op and have now read it all. Wow, so many nasty and bitter responses from people who probably dress their children exclusively from Charity shops, I know many like that but are ok to spend silly money on stuff for themselves or their hobby ( in one case I know the hobby is snorting coke ) so please let him buy his hat.

My dc are well dressed. Me not so much and I don’t begrudge a penny of it. My ds has ASD too and is almost 18.
A couple of years ago he went clothes shopping with his friends and came back with a polo shirt from Ralph Lauren that was £90 in the sale. I nearly cried because it wasn’t very nice but he LOVED it and gave him lots of joy to wear so was ultimately worth it. Sod the haters!

I hope he loves his hat, he deserves it.

@TatianaBis

There's absolutely no difference.

Yeah there is - didn’t cost £150. Nor did they go out of fashion...

I don't think you realise just how expensive star wars Lego is!

And besides, so what if it goes out fashion? It's no different than the iPhone model upgrades for example.

It's all consumerism. 🤷‍♀️

I think there's a difference between frittering money away on things you've decided you want on a whim, to really wanting something and saving up for ages for it. That's very disciplined and thought out for a 9 year old and I would probably let him!

My initial reaction was christ no but then thinking about it, my DS9 has saved up & spent similar on lego. It's the same principle.
If it's his money that he's saved & he understands the relative value, then good luck to him. If he understands fashion he may even be able to recoup some cash off ebay when he grows out of it.

Could you maybe get him a cheap knock off version? I'd be worried that it could be snatched off his head walking around with an expensive hat. Don't understand all the pearl clutching about his savings ?! My kids are brilliant savers they keep all their birthday and christmas money. Also get money from both sets of grandparents every week too . It all adds up and they spend it on a mix of neccessaties and frivolous bits . They saved hard up to them how they spend it

I'm quite shocked at the level of nastiness on this thread. I know MN is turning nasty at a high rate, but I didn't realize it was quite this bad!

Op let him buy the hat, he saved for it and he wants it. Ignore 75% of the posters on this thread. There is some serious projection going on.