Is it okay for my DH to sleep in bed with my dd?

[bigbirdbetty]

My Dd has always been quite an anxious child, she is now 11. She used to come and try and get in bed with us every night because she hated being on her own and we had to comfort her and get her back to hers. Anyway we made an agreement that she could stay in with me once a week on a Saturday night but that she should try to stay in her room otherwise. Her Dad would just kip in her bed.
This has worked really well and she looks forward to her sleep over and stays in her bed the rest of the week. Occasionally I go away for the weekend and up until recently she would stay in with her Dad instead of me. I haven't been away for ages because of COVID but I'm just thinking that when I do is it getting inappropriate for her to stay in a bed with him.
Please understand I'm not thinking my DH would do anything, I'm just wondering if it's weird or wrong. She still wants to and I don't know how I would explain that she can't. Just interested in what people think please.

I don’t think it’s that unusual. I certainly wouldn’t think it slightly inappropriate but then my 6ft plus fifteen stone eldest still comes for a cuddle sometimes. She will grow out of it.

I suppose the inappropriate element with a father is that he’s probably going to be sleeping next to her with an erection, and I would feel uncomfortable being around my dads erection/he would feel uncomfortable waking up like that around her.

The only thing that I would want to consider in this situation is if there was if there was any chance of whichever ever parent she is sharing with to mistake her for each other when half asleep. Some people are heavy sleepers with habits they won't be terribly aware of. Last year my sister stayed in my bed and I woke up to her big spooning me, in her sleep she thought I was her husband! I can't sleep touching anyone else so I am confident I would never accidentally be too physical with a bedmate. Different people, different ways of sleeping. One would be far more upsetting/awkward for a preteen.

As a middle ground, can a trundle bed go under your bed to be pulled out when she wants to share?