Sometimes I wish my toilet trained toddler would just piss in his pants

[Rubyroost]

Honestly I bloody do. Esp when he's waking me up at 3 am/4 am or 5 am shouting he needs a wee. Its normally only once but the time varies.

Add to that my 8 month old who is also waking me for b feeds and I'm bloody knackered.

I normally put him on potty at 11.30-12 before I go up to bed, but last night he still woke at 3am telling me he needed a wee. He's dry at night, but only because he wees in the middle of night.

So what to do? I don't think he will actually piss in his pants (pull ups) 😂. He's 2 years and 10 months and he's finally starting to pull up his pants and trousers. He's okay with his pull ups as he just wears these and no pyjamas at night. So.. Do I just leave the potty outside his door and tell him to go if he wakes. Anyone tried this? Did it work?

Potty on a waterproof mat and a night light in his room, then encourage him to sort himself out. Might take a few nights.

Yeah I think i need some sort of mat. He has a gro clock so enough light I think

Oh I soooooo relate to this OP. Mine wont use the potty alone at night, even if it's in her room.

So what to do?

You get up and take him for a wee. He is 2. He still needs you

I'd stop the 11pm/midnight wee especially if you are waking him to take him. Leave him sleep. He will wake you when he needs.

If you have a DH/DP then they need to sort dc1s night waking as you are doing dc2s (which they can't do as they presumably cannot bf).

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz yes you’d think wouldn’t you. Problem is I’m a light sleeper and he’s a deep sleeper and so he sleeps through his yells and I would rather get up to shut him up before he wakes baby! The waking at 11.30/12 does work some nights, but not all. There’s a few sleep sites that recommend doing this- tho I started doing this before I read on the web

What time does he get his last fluids?

About 1 hour or 1 1/2 hours before bedtime. But depends if he has a bath and decides to drink the bath water 😳 We so eat quite close to bedtime and it’s not something I really want to change as we all eat together and I’m not an early tea type of girl. It doesn’t seem fit to limit his drink too much obvs as if he’s thirsty he needs it. Also I think quite a bit of the fluid is probably from good too. If he has pasta for instance he wees quite a bit

Oh fuck off @FundamentallyFucked he’s almost 3 and learning to be independent.

At this risk of being rudely shot down like above He’s 3years old. When he calls you for help, you help him. Because you’re his parent. No one said it’s a 9-5 job.

@FundamentallyFucked eye roll all you like! Did you read the bit where I said I was knackered. Sanctimonious replies not needed, obviously I wouldn’t be on here asking the q if waking up at all hours of the night was an option for me.

@RunningFromInsanity that wasn’t the question though was it. Why not just scroll on if you have no helpful solution. (please read above). My point is I don’t want to wake all hours of the night. It’s not good for me or them.

My point is I don’t want to wake all hours of the night and my point is that when you have children it’s to be expected.

Letting him wet himself (which is going to be distressing for a child that obviously understands toilet training) is shit parenting.

My son was the same, he didn’t think he was allowed out of bed...which has its benefits too. He goes on his own now but he’s over 4.
Your son is quite little but maybe make it clear he’s allowed to go to the potty on his own ?

Op, clearly you are exhausted but you are asking for solutions, many people's suggestion is going to be grin and bear it, like everything it is a phase which will past. But there really isn't any need for rudeness.

You mention that you want to trial eating earlier, what time do you have dinner? Ive had to start giving my son his dinner at half four some days, think it's a combination of the darker evenings and growth spurts throwing our routine out of sync. Im not always hungry at that time, but will have a snack so I'm eating with him and then at the weekend we all eat together.

Maybe a firm discussion with your partner about him waking up, maybe you need to give him a jab so your not doing it all by yourself.

It sounds like he’s doing a great job. How can it be a bad thing that he’s telling you when he needs a wee. If waking at all hours isn’t an option for you why on earth have kids.

Read the post, I’m asking for solutions to having to get up at night. Grin and bear it is an obvious one and not one that I want to do. Why comment? Just to make yourself feel good and put others down for wanting some sleep to be able to function and enjoy their family more. Just scroll on?!

Put the potty in his room on a waterproof mat like a pp said.

@Rubyroost

About 1 hour or 1 1/2 hours before bedtime. But depends if he has a bath and decides to drink the bath water 😳 We so eat quite close to bedtime and it’s not something I really want to change as we all eat together and I’m not an early tea type of girl. It doesn’t seem fit to limit his drink too much obvs as if he’s thirsty he needs it. Also I think quite a bit of the fluid is probably from good too. If he has pasta for instance he wees quite a bit

Thanks, I used to do 2 hours before on HVs advice but if he’s thirsty then it seems unfair to limit him and half an hour before won’t make a huge impact.

I’m afraid, although I totally sympathise, that some other posters have a point (but could have made it in a more supportive way!). He’s tiny still and it’s part of having young kids. One of mine still woke me most nights at 8 but she had a bladder condition and was in a lot of pain! It’s not nice to lie in your own wee and ups the odds of infection, especially in little boys.

DH needs to step up! Not on that it’s you that’s constantly sleep deprived. I’m naughty but nip his ear with your nails...that always wakes them up .

Why on earth have kids? This just gets better, I’m an evil parent, people like me shouldn’t have kids. 🤣

What is he drinking before bed and what time do you give him his last drink?

We used to do a "dream" wee on the toilet at a similar time to you but generally then should go dry through to morning but we wouldn't give milk after 7pm?

@formerbabe I think I will try that. See how it goes. I’ll probably get up and show him where it is and get him to do it on his own first and then leave him.

The pissing the pants thing was said in a lighthearted way obviously, hence the emoji too.