Sometimes I wish my toilet trained toddler would just piss in his pants

[Rubyroost]

Honestly I bloody do. Esp when he's waking me up at 3 am/4 am or 5 am shouting he needs a wee. Its normally only once but the time varies.

Add to that my 8 month old who is also waking me for b feeds and I'm bloody knackered.

I normally put him on potty at 11.30-12 before I go up to bed, but last night he still woke at 3am telling me he needed a wee. He's dry at night, but only because he wees in the middle of night.

So what to do? I don't think he will actually piss in his pants (pull ups) 😂. He's 2 years and 10 months and he's finally starting to pull up his pants and trousers. He's okay with his pull ups as he just wears these and no pyjamas at night. So.. Do I just leave the potty outside his door and tell him to go if he wakes. Anyone tried this? Did it work?

Wow, you are so rude. Nothing in my post was said as an ego boost to make myself feel better, is it not reassuring that near enough every poster has commented saying they are going through the same thing, it is very normal.

I have no idea what your hoping to gain from this thread, but I hope you find it.

Also we had to generally eat "late" too as both DH and I work full time so would eat at 630 and bedtime would be between 7 and 730 - last drink would be no later than 730

BUT we did start potty training later and this is probably not going to be helpful but toilet training especially at night at under 3years may just be too early for him?

What is he like during the day in terms of dryness? Normally the advice is to get the day time sorted and not to night time toilet training for at least 6 months

@ivfbeenbusy just a small drink of water with his dinner. I’ll probably continue the dream wee and then if he wakes again he can go on the potty.

@ivfbeenbusy he’s dry in day and at night. He’s choosing to train at night, it’s not being enforced he doesn’t want to wee in his pull ups, bless him!

I don’t remember my DS waking for a wee in the night but I couldn’t have coped with that and having work the next day. I don’t blame you for not wanting to get up. If he’s safe to go by himself could you just tell him he’s going to be a grown up boy, go for a wee by himself and back to bed? Have a couple of daytime practice runs where you lie in bed and he does what he needs to. Ignore the martyrs, you aren’t leaving him to make his own dinner!

So basically as soon as he was day time trained which has been over a month now no accidents, he decided he wanted to be dry at night too. And whilst I am super pleased with him, I am completely exhausted. My 8 month old is teething and up feeding 3 times a night for 30 mins at a time. With all the wakes ups and interruptions I’m finding it so hard to get back to sleep to. Then I’m losing the will and motivation to do nice things in the day.

Apologies if you have already tried but what about putting the potty in his room before he goes to bed and telling him it's there incase he needs a wee then slowly helping less, so going to him but just standing with him a few times, then standing in his door way encouraging, then in the hall, hopefully he will eventually just do it himself because you aren't much use 😂

Thanks @Chapterx I know I was rude. But I thought the other comments were quite rude in the way they were phrased! Obviously I’m a knackered mother who is just looking for some solutions!

I like the idea of practice runs.

Leaving him to make his own dinner? Now there’s an idea 🤣

@greyspottedgoose I was thinking of going and directing him the first few times. But I like the idea of gradually moving to the hall, thanks.

As his bladder gets bigger he'll hold it for longer. My 2 used to do exactly the same but it did pass quite quickly.

I think the potty in the room on a (large) waterproof mat is a good idea to help him become more independent if that's the way you want to do it.

How does he wee in the day, and how much does he drink? - sometimes children need to drink more in the day, and be encouraged to wee afterwards.

Getting him up for a wee at night may not be helping, as his bladder won't get used to holding it in.

He shouldn't drink or eat for a good couple of hours before bedtime, and he should be encouraged to wee before bedtime.

I know it is hard if he wakes you, but focusing on the positives, it is great that he wakes you and doesn't wet the bed, which would mean getting up and changing the whole bed.

So basically as soon as he was day time trained which has been over a month now no accidents, he decided he wanted to be dry at night too.

That maybe so that it was his decision but at his age he can't possibly comprehend what that means???

I would have put him in the night time pants/nappies that have some absorbency but less than a normal Nappy and made out like they were normal pants

He's getting up for a wee in the night because his bladder control is still too immature

I think you need to slow this process down as it sounds all a bit too quick

He's only 3. It's not his fault that you have another baby to look after. Of course you're knackered. But you are his mum and if he needs you in the middle of the night or early mornings, you have to be there for him. He will only be little once and soon he won't need your help. As difficult as it is, you have to power through now.

eye roll all you like!

Well you did tell me fuck off 🤷🏻‍♀️

Did you read the bit where I said I was knackered.

Yes, I read it all.

Sanctimonious replies not needed,

I was literally saying he is 2 and he still needs you, which, shite as it is, is the situation.
Where on earth are you seeing sanctimony there?

@Rubyroost I don’t believe half of these posters who apparently dedicate every ounce of their energy to being perfect parents. I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t find 4am wake up calls annoying in real life! It’s good for your son to have some independence and learn that mum needs sleep too.

Thanks but powering through is not an option right now! I’d rather try other options before I become completely sleep deprived.

@ivfbeenbusy I’m not sure what you mean by slow the process down?! It’s completely out of my hands. He will sometimes go through from 12 til 9.30 if I wake him for a wee at night. Otherwise he will normally wake before 6 for a wee. I can’t atop him being dry at night. Whether he understands it or not, he’s choosing to wee at night and wants to stay dry.

@Chapterx thanks, I know I’m a terrible mum when I’m sleep deprived. I don’t profess to be a perfect mum, I think I’m a reasonable one.

I tried the potty in the room, he just played with his wee and got the idea that it was OK to wee anywhere 😕

The only answer op is to get up and take him. It's crap but you have to he needs you and he is only tiny still.

Or shake your partner awake. He needs to take his turn too.

OP, you're the only one who has been rude on this thread. The posters you told to fuck off did not deserve it.

I get that you're tired, we've all been there, its horrible. Lashing out and swearing at people online isnt the way you handle your feelings.

There isnt really much you can do; he still needs help so you help him. It's not what you want to hear but if he wont wear bedtime pants and sleep through the wee, then him waking up to go to the toilet isnt going to stop. Potty in his room is something to try, but you'll still need to help him for a while.
Telling people to fuck off because they're saying something you dont want to hear, despite there being nothing else they can say, was incredibly rude and totally unnecessary.

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OP, you're the only one who has been rude on this thread. The posters you told to fuck off did not deserve it.

I get that you're tired, we've all been there, its horrible. Lashing out and swearing at people online isnt the way you handle your feelings.

There isnt really much you can do; he still needs help so you help him. It's not what you want to hear but if he wont wear bedtime pants and sleep through the wee, then him waking up to go to the toilet isnt going to stop. Potty in his room is something to try, but you'll still need to help him for a while.
Telling people to fuck off because they're saying something you dont want to hear, despite there being nothing else they can say, was incredibly rude and totally unnecessary.

Very wonderfully put and totally agree.

Put a waterproof cover on his mattress, followed by the usual bedding, then let him wear pyjamas and no pull ups . Pyjamas are looser and easier for a sleepy boy to manage. Either leave potty in his bedroom, or light on in bathroom.

Tell him he's now got big boy pyjamas which means he can take himself for a wee in the night.

Ha so being passive aggressive is fine?! I’ll tell who I like to fuck off thanks. I don’t want to be getting up that’s what the thread was about. To give a solution and tell me to get up is pointless. These posts are frankly quite patronising. He’s still so little, he needs you! I’m only wanting to see if he will wee in a potty at night fgs, hardly neglecting my parental duties.

The posters you told to fuck off did not deserve it.
OP might have been rude in her rebuttal, but leaving a spectacularly patronising comment is deserving of a fuck off tbh. PP could have phrased the comment without lacing it with patronising and condescending tones, and probably wouldn't have got the fuck off response, as she replied to a couple of PPs like Ratan.

He’s only 3 so give him a bit of slack! It’s crap if you have a baby too BUT your DH needs to deal with either the baby or the toddler. I’ve got a 7 month old I’m up breastfeeding and DH does any of the 2 year olds night wakings

@2bazookas some nice loose pyjamas that’s probably a good idea. I don’t think he will wet the bed to be honest, we have a mattress protector any way. That’s useful for the transition to, to tell him he now has pyjamas and can go on the potty