Sometimes I wish my toilet trained toddler would just piss in his pants

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Honestly I bloody do. Esp when he's waking me up at 3 am/4 am or 5 am shouting he needs a wee. Its normally only once but the time varies.

Add to that my 8 month old who is also waking me for b feeds and I'm bloody knackered.

I normally put him on potty at 11.30-12 before I go up to bed, but last night he still woke at 3am telling me he needed a wee. He's dry at night, but only because he wees in the middle of night.

So what to do? I don't think he will actually piss in his pants (pull ups) 😂. He's 2 years and 10 months and he's finally starting to pull up his pants and trousers. He's okay with his pull ups as he just wears these and no pyjamas at night. So.. Do I just leave the potty outside his door and tell him to go if he wakes. Anyone tried this? Did it work?

No one has been passive aggressive. Everyone has, in fact, been very upfront.
You're asking for something no one can give you. If he needs help to go to the toilet then he needs help to go to the toilet. That's not sanctimonious, passive aggressive, rude or any other thing you imagine it to be. It's just how things are right now.

When you're children are grown, I hope you teach them not to swear at people online when they dont magic up a solution which doesnt exist.

I’ll tell who I like to fuck off thanks.

You won't actually, it was deleted.

*your not you're

Just put his pj top and a pull up on him at first so its easier for him use a potty and a mat explain everything to him he is a big boy and will be going to the toilet quietly from now on

Treat in the morning if he manages it then introduce his pj bottoms after a few weeks

powering through is not an option
I don’t want to be getting up
not one that I want to do
I don’t want to wake all hours of the night.
it’s not something I really want to change as we all eat together and I’m not an early tea type of girl.

This attitude is why posters are getting pissed off.

Maybe it’s because you’re sleep deprived you are coming off badly, but the fact of the matter is, once you have young children, a solid nights sleep is rare.
If you can’t cope, your DH needs to step up.
It’s not up to the child to change his behaviour.

Yes a potty might help but you’ll have to get up to teach him to use it.

Blimey...this kicked off didn't it!

I think most of us with kids, have been at the pointy end of getting up in the night, I expect some more than others.

It is pretty unusual for bot quite 3 year olds to be so independent at night, so I guess it was inevitable that along with some useful advice, you might get as few, comments along the lines of, 'he's only 2, getting up is part of the deal'!

He's only 2, I don't think leaving him to it with a potty is a great idea - he'll need you for praise or comfort too. How about waking him for a wee when you feed the baby maybe have him snuggle in the bed with you afterwards while you feed? Or if he's been to the potty at 11 then would it be so awful if his pull ups were a little damp in the morning?

You are focusing all your energy on sorting out your DS who is still a little too young. I think you should shift your energy to your deep sleeping DH. He wakes once during the night and it will stop once his bladder gets bigger. Your DH will have to deal with it.

(Assuming it happened in his sleep I mean, not suggesting you tell him to pee in his pull ups voluntarily!)

@ArcherDog

powering through is not an option I don’t want to be getting up not one that I want to do I don’t want to wake all hours of the night. it’s not something I really want to change as we all eat together and I’m not an early tea type of girl.

This attitude is why posters are getting pissed off.

Maybe it’s because you’re sleep deprived you are coming off badly, but the fact of the matter is, once you have young children, a solid nights sleep is rare.
If you can’t cope, your DH needs to step up.
It’s not up to the child to change his behaviour.

Yes a potty might help but you’ll have to get up to teach him to use it.

Perfectly put.

I’ll tell who I like to fuck off thanks.

Charming.

Haven’t read the whole thread

After we potty trained DD2 she woke us in the night for wees. I wasn’t up for that as she and DD1 age 4 had been terrible sleepers and only just started sleeping through maybe 5 nights in 7 - we were exhausted.

Anyway I told DD2 it was ok to wee in her night time nappy. Worked fine, didn’t affect daytime wees at all.

Downside is she was then in night time nappies for 2 more years

@ArcherDog but it doesn’t have to be like that does it. A person does not have to be sleep deprived. I don’t want to be. I’d like to find some solutions to help me sleep better because I function better with sleep. This is even beneficial for my children- believe it or not!

I actually couldn’t care a less at how I’m coming across and if people judge me for wanting to have some sleep.

@AlwaysLatte snuggle whilst I feed 😳 Four in the bed. I don’t see how that would be helpful for anyone, least of all my toddler who will then also be missing out on sleep. He doesn’t stay awake, he has a wee and goes straight back to bed happily. He just needs me to physically put him on potty. By encouraging him to use it himself, I’m just taking that physical process of me doing it away. He’s very happy in his own bed, he’s never liked bed sharing. Even when he was teething he would toss and turn until I popped him back into his own cot.

So no real need for comfort etc, which is why I thought a solution was to leave potty in hallway and was asking if anyone had experiences. I have had some useful suggestions re clothes and moving gradually to hallway etc so thanks for that.

Obviously I would help him the first few tomes, I would hope that would go without saying

He’s always been a good sleeper, he doesn’t need lots of comfort at night etc.

PP could have phrased the comment without lacing it with patronising and condescending tones,

OP asked what to do and I said You get up and take him for a wee. He is 2. He still needs you

There is absolutely nothing remotely patronising or condescending about saying this 2 year old still needs OP.

My daughter had a potty in her room when she was toilet trained, but never used it. I think that she was reassured by its presence though.

I think he will ease off soon OP, it's all a bit new for him. Hopefully you'll then get more sleep. Not easy with a baby as well

The only solution with DSC was to take them to the toilet. Potty in the room worked from 4. Night time is scary for two year olds.

Handy that so many DHs can sleep so deeply 🙄 mine still needs help at night with the toilet. We just share it between us.

Hopefully @firesong 🤞🏼

I would be shaking your DH when he sleeps through. If he doesn’t wake, shake harder.

I have the same problem as I have a baby who wakes multiple times in the night for a feed and a four year old who often wakes and calls out because his duvet has fallen off or he needs a wee. I work too.

I can tell you it could be worse - my eldest used to regularly wee the bed when the baby was smaller. That’s a lot more work to sort out.

Soon hopefully your baby won’t need so many feeds in the night and will wake less. You don’t have too long to go till it starts getting easier, though I know it feels never ending when you’re in the middle of it.

If you do the water proof mat put a towel on it to soak up the wee when he knocks it over.

He is only little and will probably need some help for a little bit yet. Your other half needs to step up and get up if you need to sleep. To be fair you really do sound like you do!

@AlwaysLatte it wouldn't be a problem at all if his pull ups were damp, but he won't wee in his pull ups and hasn't done so since he was fully day time trained about five weeks ago.

I'd do a potty on a mat or towel, night light and lots of praise/ reward for getting a wee in it.

@Debradoyourecall yes I'm in the bloody thick of it. I wake in the morning wondering how ill drag myself out of bed, by the time I get into bed at night I can't bloody sleep. 😴