DS inappropriate behaviour on play date.

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Need opinions on how to manage this, brief summary; DS (9) went on a play date, was taken to a shop and persuaded play date host to buy him a £40 gift. I didn’t really realise what had happened until we got home. I’ve spoke to him about whether he thinks that’s ok, or why he thought it was and what he will do to repay the cost. He’s raging at me now, I’m assuming a combination of disappointment, embarrassment and remorse. Have I done the right thing?!

I’ve read some more of the thread and I don’t know what is this alternative reality where 9 year olds are being treated like 2 year olds?!

My DD is nearly 9 and I’d never write-off behaviour like the OP’s son on the basis that she’s ‘only 9’. Even if she didn’t have a great understanding of money (and I’d be happy to talk it through with her) she should certainly understand that you don’t tantrum if an adult has said no several times.

Maybe he can help the government get a deal with the EU?
How quickly can he be available?
Does he know anything about the backstop?

My nephew did this to me when he was 9 or 10. My sister is much older and I was about 19 when I decided to take him birthday shopping for a present.

I gave him a budget of £20 and he ‘couldn’t decide’ between two things, both costing the budget. After a lot of back and forth, I eventually felt sorry for him and bought both items, which I could ill afford as a student. My sister was angry with him when I brought him home, and it wasn’t until that point I realised he’d manipulated me...but I insisted I was happy to do it....and never took him shopping again.

Nowadays I would put my foot down, but I can see how easy it can be to be coerced, particularly if you’re not used to a wheedling child.

@goisey

Maybe he can help the government get a deal with the EU? How quickly can he be available? Does he know anything about the backstop?

@goisey

Maybe he can help the government get a deal with the EU? How quickly can he be available? Does he know anything about the backstop?

Haha!

I live your DS. He will go far.

The adult is a fool. I've often had to be very firm with children and say NO.

I really don't t think your DS is too much at fault. He's an annoying child, not a professional con artist. He needs to learn not to pester people, but the adult hasn't been very helpful with that.

I’d put the £40 through the door in an envelope. If you offer it the mum will probably say no.