"You've ruined your life"

[Closingtime94]

Hello,

This might be a long rant of nothingness but I'm just feeling overwhelmed, I'm 20 weeks pregnant with a little boy and the amount of times I've heard this is horrible, in the early stages of pregnancy I was considering having a termination because of this comment ( I must have just been feeling vulnerable with pregnancy hormones and HG).

I'm 25, I'm married and I own my house. Both me and DH have decent jobs, I'm studying at uni full time and we have seven animals (2 dogs and 5 cats). In the past we've travelled a lot as we had disposable income and a lot of people (I mean a lot family, friends, random people on Facebook) have told me I'm throwing my nice life away because of the baby - they seem to think I'll drop out if university, get rid of all my animals and end up on benefits (there's absolutely nothing wrong with people being on benefits just annoys me they are using it as a negative).

Please can you send me positive stories of life after children? I'm under no illusion it'll be easy but I know I won't be giving up my animals or quitting my job or uni.

Thank you for listening, I'm just frustrated with everything and everyone at the moment haha maybe it is just pregnancy hormones

Being a parent has been the most rewarding and enriching part of my life so far. You must know some very strange people (or all of them are currently childless?)

I had both children in my twenties and my life is great. Carry on with what you're doing and ignore people.

You're in for the biggest and best adventure you will ever go on. These people sound miserable and if they have children themselves then the children must be miserable too, poor things. There is never a right time to have a baby, but when you do it's absolutely amazing x